Why do I attract really horny guys?

[Anonymous]

Seriously though! I'm a virgin and I want to stay that way for a while because I just got hurt a bit ago. I'm not even a "looker" -- I'm tubby and I'm working on it! However, I tend to attract guys that constantly want to talk about sex. My ex tried to use me for sex while he was cheating on me (big no no). He was horny as hell all the time and kept trying to get me in bed as the 2nd girl - we broke up thankfully. Now I have another guy.. who's 10 years older, more mature, but still horny as heck. He keeps sending me pictures of his thing when I apparently turn him on.. by being nice to him? He lives in new york, so I have been checking on him to make sure he's okay because of Sandy.. apparently this turns him on? What the heck? It makes no sense to me! Then there's another friend who asked me out today with the excuse that I'm the only friend he has that he's "told everything about himself to" and he's thought about it for a while. I'm honest and straight forward.. and I'm there for people, but I JUST got hurt by my ex (seriously, 2 weeks ago) and these guys know that. I'm about to tell them to back off and give me space, but I don't understand why they're coming on so strong. Any advice?

[xyhic]

90% of guys have zero game and are pretty much losers. I would never talk about sex or anything disrespectful to a woman because I know how they work. These guys see you as available in which case you are in the sense that your single. Let me put it this way though. If brad pit or the hot celeb your into asked you out would you say no? If that is true then you really do just want to be alone. If the answers is yes then it is just the guys who are hitting on you. Your just not that interested in them and they have no clue on how to read between the lines of a female.

[Asker]

thanks! that clears it up a lot! I really have honestly told them "No" but I guess they thought I was playing because I was trying to not hurt their feelings? I'll try and be more clear. I really do care for them 110%, I'm just not ready to date - I want to enjoy time by myself (catching up on things I missed out on when I was going through hell with my ex)

[xyhic]

Sounds like a plan girl. Hit em had with no false hopes. They may stop being friends with you but you have to stand your ground. Otherwise they will try and drag you into a relationship you do not want. This is what happens when you see divorces and women cheating. Some guys just cannot get past their ego.

[kheserthorpe]

Guys who don't want to have sex with you wouldn't be approaching you.

[Betwyn]

Most guys are horny, ergo, most guys you attract, will be horny...

also, "stereotypically"

bigger girls, will do more, sooner, to get and keep guys...

[MrOracle]

Correct on all points.

[Asker]

Not this girl, they have known me for years and they know I'm not like that. If they dont, those two are idiots.

[Betwyn]

I'm not saying you are... But that guys are hoping you are... Many girls, are "Ladies in the street, and Freak's in the sheets" This is what they are hoping with you...

[Asker]

I see, gotcha! Well, either way, I turned the guy down. I like being single right now - it's so much more relaxing after being through hell lol Thanks for answering, Betwyn! =)

[antonlikesmlb]

Cause all guys get horny.