The perfect fit? Are certain people sexually matched?

[imonfire]

.For people who have had a variety of sexual partners: Have you found that there are just a few people who physically just "fit?" A part of this is style, and technique, and preferences... but, I have experienced that there are only a few girls in my life who have been perfect sexual fits. Where our anatomy, our bodies, what turns us on, our natural rhythms just match perfectly. I ask this because I am rebounding from a relationship where we were just completely sexually compatible. From the very first time we touched each other, through the breakup and the few rebound hookups- no matter what was happening in life, we just had the most perfect sex. Now, dating around- even more than I had when I was younger and more reserved- I just don't find most women sexually compatible. I don't mean that I don't enjoy myself, but I know after the first few times that I'm not going to maintain a relationship with someone who doesn't "fit" I'm asking this question specifically because I wonder if my ex feels the same way. Do women experience this? It seems to me that there is a lot more variation in female sexual anatomy than male. We are all working with pretty similar equipment. Of course, technique, confidence, sexiness, intelligence varies wildly... but I mean something more along the lines of physical compatibility.

[ErroWorld]

People definitely just fit...there have been people I was attracted to, but as soon as we hit the sheets, it was awful. And that was the end of whatever was between us.

Inversely, there have been people I wasn't immediately attracted to but had great physical chemistry with (i.e. great rhythm and fit).

Quality of sex should be a bell curve: there are some that are fantastic and some that are f***ing awful, and the majority are mediocre. If you're finding the majority of your experiences are bad, I would examine your own emotional state. But it sounds like you're still enjoying yourself and like it falls into the mediocre category, which is normal.

Speaking as a woman and with my friends' experiences in mind, women totally experience this. It's a deal breaker when it doesn't work out, but it doesn't guarantee a relationship when it's good. (I know women have a tendency to conflate physical and emotional intimacy, but that's generally not the case for mature adults.)

[imonfire]

Thanks, this is a great response. None of my experiences are bad. Didn't want to give that impression. I wouldn't even say mediocre. There are just some people who seem to be be perfect matches. In part, yes, I'm trying to figure out if this has something to do with the emotions of my past relationships... But, really, it's just an observation about how different every individual person is.

[ErroWorld]

Yeah I think your observation is on point...the majority of times for me, I enjoy myself but it's not memorable. It's only memorable when there's that connection that you seem to have found with your ex...and those are the ones I keep around for longer. If I were looking for something serious, it would probably end quickly; but I'm at a point in my life where I can't be in a relationship, so friends with benefits works well for now.

[ErroWorld]

Could you answer my question please? :]

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[ML407]

It is great to see that guys think the petfect sexual match exists and is important. Ofcourse there are better and worse sexually compatible bodies. But succesful relationship is not necesarily only a sexual fit. Often it has to do with the anatomy. If accompanied with a great mental connection you won the lottery. Keep that person around. It doesn't happen often. People ignore importance of the physical compatibility in the ralationship and it usually backfires. You can work on the technique but if the compatibility is not there run for the hills. The relatinship is doomed. Keep looking! You csn sleep around and have a good time. Much easier for guys. Not much for girls. We are much more sophisticated assemblies.

[Anonymous]

Yes totally. It also has to do with genetics and pheromones. I don't know of any studies dealing with guys and being more attracted to one girl over another based on her pheromones other than the what point she is in her cycle. IE finding a girl who is ovulating over a girl who is not. But for girls we are more attracted to guys who's pheromones tell us they are genetically very different than us. There are of course other factors involved but I have dated two guys in my life where this was very true and the sex was just amazing. I have always had great sex but with these two, they drove me crazy and sure they were good but it was the pheromones that drove me to NEED them.

[imonfire]

Great reply!

[Anonymous]

I can only speak for me and my experience I've had with my old sex buddy. When we finally made the decision that we were not having any more sex I was pissed! Keep in mind he was the only guy that has completely satisfied me. It seemed like he was the perfect match for me sexually period. We messed around for years on and off and sometimes I would feel like he wanted something more. I just blew it off because I knew we could never be together.So now that am married I do think of him sometime. I'm not ashamed to say I miss him but life goes on. Yes women not all but most feel the same way.

[Anonymous]

t seems to me that there is a lot more variation in female sexual anatomy than male.

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What do you mean? You have found some p**** too tight or others too loose? I'm not sure I get your question.

[imonfire]

There is that. But, I mean more 'angles' , lips, clit, bone structure, g-spot, sensitivity, wetness... I mean, I don't know much about penises that aren't my own. But, it is neither as complicated nor as beautiful of a sexual organ. Hope that makes sense.

[Opinion Owner]

I think penises are great, just that we can't appreciate them as much as straight men cause we're not turned on by them. I get what you're saying about the rest of the stuff, but I think most girls are workable as long as they are willing to try and learn to be a better partner.

[ErroWorld]

Hey, I think it's about learning together. Both partners have to be open to taking direction. Girls are definitely more finicky, it could be because they tend to overthink and can't just "let go." I'm not sure I would say that our anatomy is more variable, but that different girls like different things...

[Opinion Owner]

I'd say for guys, sex is 80% physical and 20% mental. Perhaps 60%/40 for some guys. I'd say for nearly 100% of women that sex is 90% mental. If a girl's head is not in the game, she's not going to enjoy it or be a very good partner. Sometimes she just needs to quiet those voices and enjoy the moment. I prescribe more foreplay!

[taster]

Sure..my wife is glad that I do not care about bjs and I would be upset if she did not like receiving oral...also my thing for pee does not bother her at all...yes we are matched pretty well...(:(:(: