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Why is my girlfriend making me wait a year?

whyis my girlfriend making me wait a year before sex? she says its too see if ill stay with her but why is she making me wait so long?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • How long have you guys been together? I've been with my boyfriend for 10 and a half months and he really wand to have sex but I told him I want to wait. He got upset about it but he gave me a timeline. My boyfriend has to wait a year for it. If you really love her, wait it out, has she gotten her heart broken a lot before? Maybe she's afraid that she's just gonna become girl you had sex with. My boyfriend didn't understand why I wanted to wait but I have my reasons and ii talked to him about it he understood. Ask if there's more to it than just seeing if you will stay with her for that long. There's prob more to it but it also sounds like she's just afraid if you guys break up she will just be some girl you had sex with. And if there's more to it, try and understand and respect her thoughts. Just Talk to her. Good luck.

  • that seems a bit excessive. I can understand her point for her not wanting you to use her. But a year is a long time to see if you click in the bedroom too! I think 3 months is just fine, the build up will be really fun.

    Can't she use her hands or mouth? Maybe after a couple months just talk with her and tell her how you think she is so sexy and gorgeous and you just want to get closer to her.

    Try and soften her up, you will probably join the chase, but its not unreasonble for you to have needs., I think a year is to long.

  • In my opinion, that's immature and she's playing mind games. Any girl who puts time as the decision maker over mutual feelings has a lot of learning and growing up to do.

    But I suppose, if you do find waiting to be worthwhile, then wait. Just understand it's not going to be easy...

Most Helpful Guys

  • Been at it for a while. A abstinence from intercourse is a worthy pursuit but I would not last in a dressed, no fluids relationship until then. There would likely be a FWB around and I might end up with her. Romance does not validate a man for long while mutual hand or oral can be enough.

  • That sounds like the ultimate way to find out if your with her for love or only for sex, which is ridiculous. Some girls and their mind games.

    Well I just hope for you if you wait that long, the sex is magnificent. Perhaps she needs to wait for her daddy to remove her p****-troll .

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  • She already said that: because she wants to make sure it's not for sex you stay with her. Maybe she thinks a year is just fine to wait with sex, to get to know each other first, fall in love, commit and then have sex.

  • She told you why. A year is a long time which is why she chose that period of time. It's the ultimate test... or challenge!

    • Update: I should add that one of my ex's also wanted to wait a year but I got her virginity after 5 months. So you should just say "Alright. You're worth it. I'll wait a year." which is the answer she wants to hear.

  • She's saying that cause she wants to know that you're not in a relationship for sex, it shouldn't be sex based. But honestly, that's a little too much after a couple of months if you get what I mean.

  • Ask her. That's the best way to know. maybe she's not ready maybe she needs true commitment who knows...

  • Because if you're going to spend the rest of your lives together what's a year without sex?

    Thats what she's thinking.

  • What is the question exactly? She said it's to see what this relationship is about. A good way for her to find out - if you can't deal with it, get an easier one.

  • A year for sex. HAHAHAHA

    So, say she goes off to have sex with someone else while making you wait. Unless, she's a virgin.

    To make sure that you stay with her? - Cuckoo cuckoo. Sometimes p**** isn't going to make a guy wait and stay. xDD

  • My girlfriend asked me to wait 11 months at first. So I was like "ok blowjobs for 11 months then" she soon gave in :D

  • She wants to know you're not just in it for the sex. If I were you, I'd move on unless you really, really like this girl.

  • she tells you taht's a test? wow that's dumb. I think it is dumb to make up a timeline that is like playing games. if she genuinely doesn't feel ready taht's another story.

  • because she's testing you since she has heard/read this bs about having to make a guy wait...worst of all is she actually believes it. or its for power in the relationship, its the ultimate thing she can use to get her way

    i would leave because that is so stupid to put a hard time limit on something like that.

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