My boyfriend likes transexuals. What should I do?

[taster]

I am posting this Question for a female friend My boyfriend likes transexuals, anal on him, domination and isn't really into me as much. What should I do? My boyfriend has recently taken no real interest in having sex with me. He'll accept handjobs and blowjobs, and I use a strap on,although always insists in using anal toys on himself also. I just found it weird.he often watches p*rn when I'm not there and occasionally we watch it together. He was previously into thing like female domination with girls using strapons on guys, although now also likes shemale (transexual) p*rn well he's always liked it but just came out. When we do have sex he want me to be fully dominant all the time and talk dirty to him throughout - which I enjoy sometimes, but I've let him know I like changing roles every so often, which he puts up with but doesn't enjoy.Him doing this like this, using these anal toys, wanting to be sub etc. doesturn me on .The main thing is I'm worried if my boyfriend is turning more and more 'weird' and wants to do too many things outweith my confines. I know he's not attracted to guys at the moment, just transexuals. He asked if I liked transexuals and I said the thought of it is hot yes. I tried so hard to find a ts to have a threesome with but there not into females and he's always looking up tfm on craigslist.Anyway, I just need some advice as to what to try and do, or what to expect in the near future. We've been together for 2 years and he tells me everything we started off best friends before dating. I'm glad he's let me into this side of his life but I don't think I can participate without it feeling wrong to me I can't get any pleasure . What should I do? I even looked and talked to doctors about having a penile implant only a ftm bottom surgar and having female hormones still. I don't want to give up on us I'm in love with him and don't desire another male sexually at all. I am a bi female but since we been together only played with one female to tease and put a show on for him...

[samhradh_leannan]

Personally I think it is important to be open to what your partner wants and to try to be accommodating to the extent that you feel comfortable with. But there's a point where extreme differences in interest really just add up to incompatibility. Your friend's statements that her boyfriend "isn't really into (her) as much" and "has recently taken no real interest in having sex with (her)" seem like an extremely bad sign to me, and the fact that his interests continue to change and to move farther away from what she feels comfortable with definitely doesn't bode well for the future.

My question is, has she told him that she's starting to feel uncomfortable, and explained her limits to him? If so, what was his response? It's possible that he doesn't realize she isn't fully comfortable with these things, and is starting to get carried away because he thinks she's equally enthusiastic. If this is the case, maybe if she is more open about her feelings, he will be perfectly happy to honor her desires and limits more in order to come to a compromise.

If, however, he isn't interested in compromising, I think they are probably better off finding others who are more compatible.

[fmxtattedmom]

Hey I am the friend...and we talked lastnight and found a website that said it was a p*rn addiction and also I think your right he found a girl that he can open up to and instead of judging him I got a strap on and got really into it I love being dominate to him and he just got a little out of hand he told me that I get him off way more than the p*rn or a tranny could he felt ge had the best of both worlds but he kinda didn't realize oh ya its a strap on she's not cumming. He said he's so sorry he

[fmxtattedmom]

Got in a kick and he didn't realize it so he's done and wants to fix it. Now that leaves me thinking ha ha cause I love dominating him I get off on pleasuring him making sure he has the best orgasom he can get I just wanna feel like he still wants to please me also

[samhradh_leannan]

It seems like things are working out then! If you don't want to lose certain aspects of what you were doing before, just tell him, and come up with a plan together that works for both of you.

[taster]

Thanx for helping Dear! I always love it...and feel flattered..when you respond on my posts...this gal is new so she was not allowed to post a Sexuality Question...but I am usually happy to post for other folks...<3<3<3=D

[samhradh_leannan]

I see! That makes sense :) You're welcome! I'm glad my answer was helpful.

[AndreaLostInSpace]

Could it be that he is maybe attracted to guys a little?

[Anonymous]

First of all this is silly and dysfunctional , If the boyfriend wants to be with men dressed as women simple leave . Why in the world would a woman stay with someone who's not into her 100 percent . Why make excuses for him , He's letting her know so she has her answer . With her being bi she doesn't know what she wants , And doesn't have any desire for any other man . She she needs to figure out what she wants and leave him alone , Why would any woman want a man that likes other men than dresses like a woman this world we live in today is heart breaking to say the least .

[Anonymous]

sounds like he's gay to me and working his way to it by feeding this fantasy to himself that he's really into girls and he's not "really" gay.

I say end it. You don't have to jump through these hoops this is a lot to ask imo.

[kheserthorpe]

Honestly, she's super accommodating of his desires, and that's great.

The question is, is this a kink for him, or the ONLY thing he likes?

The problem is he seems to be unable or unwilling to summon up the interest in the type of sex SHE likes. If this is a hot thing for him, great, but it seems like he'd rather be with a transexual 100% of the time. If that's the case, this won't cut it, I don't think, for either of them.

[samhradh_leannan]

I agree. It depends on what this is for him, and it seems to be more interesting to him than his girlfriend, which is unfair to her and unsatisfying for him. It's a lose-lose situation.

[Hotassguy85]

Find out what he likes in sex

[LindsayR07]

He is relating to the receptive partner as the submissive partner. If the transwoman is the penetrating partner it is a female dominance thing. If the videos have the transwoman as the receptive partner he is either relating to her as a male in a receiving/ female position or to him fucking a transwoman or male

I would do the following on his next day off.

Wear a power suit

Leave him a package with all of the necessary clothing (underwear, bra, dress, apron, lingerie - something VERY feminine and objectifying like a teddy) and a basic cookbook

Leave a note explaining "You are my wife today, I expect to see a clean house, happy wife, and a hot meal on the table when I get home from work. Tonight you will perform your widely duties as expected. You will not touch your pen! s, women don't have those, and remember your concern isn't your pleasure but that of your man. Call me on my lunch to find out what I want for supper."

That will put his head in a spin, regardless of if it is a femdom thing or a receptive partner thing, or if he is secretly trans... You will likely come home to a clean house and a hot meal...

Be 30 mins late (you are emulating a 1950s dynamic and "she" doesn't need an explanation why) The better they cook and clean, the more you should nitpick... The food is too hot/cold/salty/bland, it cannot be good enough...

Remember, you are the male in a male dominated home this night. You control the agenda, you control the TV, don't be bothered by "her" problems, if "she" has complaints, cut her off with a remark about how you don't bust your ass all day to come home to hear about it...

When you get to the bedroom they should definitely be in an adequate headspace... Fvck the hell out of them with your strap-on...

Please keep in mind if they don't play along with it, they obviously aren't consenting and it should all stop.

[billluc69]

buy a strap-on and peg him

[Anonymous]

Let me guess... you and this friend pee on each other?

[taster]

HAHAHAHA...well not yet anyway...(:(:(:

[Account]

LOL

[taster]

What type of sexual activities do you engage in? I, too, could use a good laugh today..(:(:(: