When a guy spoons with you, does it mean anything?

All in the question above. I was just wondering if it meant something. This guy who I like, (who I'm not sure if he likes me or not) fell asleep at a friends house the other night. I woke up and we were spooning. What should I think?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Do NOT assume this means he has feelings for you. He almost certainly finds you sexually attractive, and almost certainly at least likes you as a friend, but you cannot read anything beyond that by this action. Even though it's something you normally think about people in a relationship doing, remember that men can separate sexual (and semi-sexual) behavior from emotions, which means it's possible for them to display that behavior without having feelings.

    That doesn't mean that he can't have feelings for you; he might. It just means that you can't use this as a measuring tool of his emotional connection to you, anymore than a doctor can use a stethoscope to take your temperature, or a scale to measure your height. If you want to know if he has feelings for you, you have to use tests that can determine that specifically.

    • great answer! This puts a lot into perspective. I need to not jump to any conclusions about what he does or does not feel with me. I think the reason that I did jump to thinking something is because we didn't hook up or anything before. it just happened. But thank you so much for your answer. I think it was very wise.

  • Woot?

    Happy, happy, joy, joy?

    Hehe.

    I think it's a very good sign if he didn't try to sneak away, as in the "coyote ugly" sense link

    And hell, even if he did try to extricate himself, you can still pursue him, just tell him to overcome his hangups.

    This sounds like he was just enjoying laying next to you, not trying to get anywhere with it, and probably has genuine feelings for you. He may or may not admit it. But actions speak louder than words, as they say. I'd forgive a few sneaked gropes, but if he tried to take your clothes off, you probably should bail on him. That's just not cool.

    • He didn't sneak away, and we didn't do anything. :)

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  • I honeslty don't know anymore. I have been in relationships and the guy doesn't spoon me and had a one night stand with a guy who did. So who the hell knows. Maybe some guys just like the affection and some guys don't. I wouldn't read too much into it.

    • this is true

    • Yeah this is wise. I could mean absolutely nothing. I definitely needed to put that in perspective. Thank you :)

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  • Just spooning doesn't mean anything in particular. It means that you are female and he is male and you happened to be sleeping near each other. If you want you can ask him about it. He probably hasn't forgotten and it probably pleasurable for him. I will say that it can help jump start two friends into a relationship or get two strangers talking.

    • Maybe. I mean I do like him, but I haven't really made that known. Hopefully it will. :)

  • he is cold and your booty is warm.

  • no, it just means he's spooning with you