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Why doesn't my boyfriend want to finger me?
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I'm in a relationship, we've been seeing each other for some time and have become more intimate. Last time while we were kissing I jerked him off and then he didn't do anything back but kiss. So then the other day things got heated up and he kind of touched me but didn't continue. Were both young and experimenting so I didn't want to push him or say like... hello why are you stopping after 2 seconds? Why do you think he didn't continue? I don't smell and I shave so I don't think that had anything to do with it. How do you think I could ask him to do it without sounding stupid or demanding?
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What Girls & Guys Said
2 1He could just be nervous that he'll do it wrong or something. You could give hints, like moving his hand down to it or wiggling your hips around when he gets anywhere near the area. IF hinting doesn't work, talk to him about it. If you guys are gonna be sexually active in any way, you need to be able to discuss these things.
Is this the first time you jerked him off? If so then I would wait and see what he does for you the next time you jerk him off. He he doesn't do anything then kind of move his hand towards your pussy. You might even make some sounds when he touches it...lol
If he stops and doesn't want to touch it or use his finger on you then just ask him what is wrong. There is a reason why he won't and if you ask him without sounding demanding or demeaning he will discuss it and just go from there.
It could be something as simple as he never messed around with a girl and doesn't know what to do. I was the same thing once and it was very embarrassing, but after I told her why I wouldn't play with her it really excited her. She then showed me what to do for her.
you just say, "hey, try this with me, it will be a new experience for us to share" maybe something like that. good luck. take your time, you have a lot of life ahead of you, and stay patient!