When is too soon to give a guy a handjob?

[Anonymous]

I've been talking to this guy for about 9 months...mostly over instant message...we know each other through friends...we finally decided to hang out together and well that turned into a pretty heavy make out session...now I'm very inexperienced (He knows this...he also knows sex is out of the questions) but when we were making out he pulled down his pants and put my hand on his boner...now I know what your supposed to do but I was nervous so I just held it and continued making out then eventually removed my hand..he tried it again a while later but this time he told me I could move my hand up and down but I was still nervous so I didn't do it...I think I just felt like it might have been so soon to do that...do you think it was too soon? Do you think he was upset I didn't give him a handjob? he didn't say anything or act any differently but a little while later we stopped making out...

[SteelyMcBeam]

Well, if you had been dating in person for 3 months I'd say that's definitely enough time for just fooling around (then again I've never had a girlfriend so I can only speculate...), but if you only just met the guy physically then I'd say you should treat it like you really did just meet him (or maybe like you've dated for a month if you really feel comfortable around him).

Personally, I would probably get horny as hell if a chick made out with me but I would be afraid to make any moves involving removal of clothes. She has to make the first move otherwise I'll just feel like she doesn't have enough interest in me and I'd be forcing her to do something. I want her to crave me. I'd never let her do anything on the first few dates either, because then I'd feel like she is that way with just about any guy (and it would make me question her history).

[Asker]

The thing is I know him...he's my good friend's best friends and we hang out together when all the friends come together...

[SteelyMcBeam]

I can only guess as I have never had a girlfriend. When is the first time a couple should see each other naked? My A: When she wants to, but I'd think she isn't interested in me if she never wanted to see me naked. When is the first time a couple should masturbate each other? My A: Whenever she is ready, but I'd think she has zero sex drive if we didn't do this after 3 months. When is the first time a couple should have sex? My A: When she wants it, but hopefully before a year passes

[Anonymous]

Sexual favors are not a service we provide to fulfill the others' need. Regardless of whether you have known him for a while, increasing intimacy should be the reward of a growing in-person relationship and it should be mutual/at the same time. Shirts unbuttoned together; fingers wetted together, oral sex together.

You are ready to give him an orgasm by hand when you are comfortable and aroused enough with him to be ready to receive one from him. You will know when that is and you should be prepared to lift your skirt when he unloosens his pants. The discovery of intimate mutual hand play and, better, first hand-orgasms together is very exciting (bring something to mop up with, you first) and should only occur when you (the girl) are ready to take that step.

[Anonymous]

If he knows you're inexperienced then he probably was just trying his chances. I always say wait until you've seen someone a few times if you actually like them and want them to respect you, if it's just sex for sex's sake then that's different.

[stubbsy]

Its always to soon to do anything sexual if at any time you feel awkward or uncomfortable about performing it. Always wait until your happy about becoming sexually engaged with that person. A sexual experience should be a mutual enjoyment without compramise,x

[Anonymous]

When is it too soon?

Well, there is no hard, fast rule. But I think it would be safe to rule out some scenarios like:

-giving a handy to a guy you met at a funeral - while you're both still in line to view the deceased.

-yanking a politician's pud while he's giving a speech.

-punching a guy's clown while you're still being introduced.

You should buy some doll clothes and sock puppets. Then, the next time Don Juan puts your hand on his peck, you can put little outfits & hats, googly eyes, etc. on it until he gets the message.

[Anonymous]

u've been talking to him for "9 months" and your giving him a "hand job" are you kidding me

atleast give the guy head or something, we jerk ourselves off the best not a girl...

if you want him to stick around you need to up the anti, if I were making out with a girl

and she just held my d*** in her hand I would be like :|