Why do people think that only virgins have issues with sex?

It seems like to people (some, not everyone) only people who never had sex have issues. And maybe some of them consider virginity a deal breaker because that person "obviously has big issues". And maybe that person never had sex because he/she wants to wait. And then, when they fall in love and decide to have sex they unleash this inner beast sex god lol Also, there are a lot of people who are good at sex by instinct. Sure, you learn when you practice, but there are people who practice a lot and are still terrible and have no communication with their partner. Guys say that they prefer experienced girls "because they know what they are doing". But maybe that girl slpet with hundreds of guys and learnt nothing. All I´m saying is tha not only virgin people may have issues with sex, people who are sexually active may have problems too. How many girls sleep with lots of guys but can´t have orgasms? What do you prefer, a girl with experience who can´t orgasm? or a virgin who gets really wet and can have multiple orgasms? What I mean is that people who are sexually active sometimes act as if they know it all and virgins are poor, lost human beings who have absolutely no idea what sex is and need a therapist. And I´m sure a lot of man whores and slutty girls have issues too.
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  • Yes, I'm sure, like anything, there are arrogant people that believe their way of living is the right or only way to live and anyone who isn't like them has issues. This could easily include sexual activity.

    I personally prefer girls who are less sexually active. I will admit, that a virgin girl may not necessarily be my ultimate preference but I wouldn't frown upon it by any stretch. The only reason being that the sex might not be as good right off the bad because she is new to it. BTW, people who speak about having experience are totally right by the way. I know before I sex for the first time, I thought I knew what I was doing, and I sort of did. Watch a p*rn one time and you've pretty much got the basics. However, there is still something to be said about actually doing things to a real person and having another person involved with pleasuring you. Its a different feelings and there are a number of other factors that come into play. However, as I said before, this would only be an issue initially which for me would be minor if I really liked the girl. Speaking from self experience, it doesn't take long to get your footing and start getting "good" at sex. A lot of it simply comes from being comfortable with your partner, which no amount of sexual experience will fix, you just have to have more sex with the same person.

    With regards to people having assuming people have "issues" based upon their sexual activity, I can see a bit of truth to that, but other factors must be taken into account. Age is the first one. If you are nearing 30 and haven't had sex, There is likely good reason for it since biologically that's almost not normal. However if you are 18-20 its a lot less strange. Again, that reason might not be negative, I'm just sure there is a reason. Maybe its against your relgious beliefs, maybe you just haven't found the right person yet, maybe you do in fact have mental disorders, maybe you have a sexual disorder. There are 101 reasons why a person might currently be a virgin so after a certain age, it might just simply be a clue that tells me I should ask some questions to get to know them, but again, if a girl tells me she's a virgin, I will by no means look the other way. Regardless of a persons sexual past, virgin or not, I still will try to play detective a bit. I'm trying to use their sexuality as a gauge for other parts of their personality because in my experience it's usually a good thermometer. It's so innate that is telling and hard to hide. Sort of like someones eating habits, or the way they dress. It's so natural that you know it paints an accurate picture of who that person.

    Finally I would like to think its more frowned upon for men to be virgins, simple because women do in fact find "Experience" attractive (not just sexual). And being a virgin shows a lack of "experience" in all aspects of dating, then just in the bedroom, which is a subconscious turn off to your average women.

    • Great answer! thanks!

  • Well yeah some people like to think that way, because usually you do learn when you do and virgins have this common "completely unfamiliar with sex and obviously very awkward about it" sign painted on them by movies etc. And of course since it is the first time for them, some people think that since "they have waited X years long to lose it, they might be harder to bed" because "it takes a lot of effort to not give up your virginity when you are at least average looking." at least some people seem to think. And of course there might be that angle, that if a girl is experienced, but then the guy has them experience some of the best sex in their lives, it's a sort of "achievement" for the guy for being better than anyone before him. Though usually I haven't heard anyone mentioning to think that virgins need a therapist.

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  • I agree with Alessus, although when I was a virgin guys didn't avoid me or think there was something wrong with me - they tried to use it to their advantage - "let me teach you how great sex is", etc.

    • It's unfortunate that some guys do seem to think that virgin girls are just dying to throw it away to some sleazy guy like them. I mean I think that generally virginity is a lot more special to women, as the usual mentality with guys is that the faster you get rid of it the better while girls more commonly want to wait for that someone special.

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  • Well...since I have never had a virgin, any issues I have encountered were with non-virgins...so...I guess I would have to agree with you...(:(:(:

  • Because the American culture...thanks mainly to Hollywood, has brainwashed everyone to believe that virginity is an embarrasment...and uncool. For example the movie 40 year old virgin, it made virgins (guys) out to be stupid, nerdy, and less of a man. IMO guys are shredded when it comes to virginity...but from what I've seen, women are lifted up, and praised if they're are a virgin. You will never see a movie made about a 40 year old female virgin. Overall it seems to me that everyone is free to choose how they want to live with out much backlash from society...with the exception being virginity.