What makes a girl good in bed?

[Anonymous]

was talking to my guy last night, and he said he doesn't like girls who act like guys in bed and said he has had lot of that in the past. I don't really know what her means but I think he means forceful, cold disconnected sex. anyway we are from different cultures and where I am from guys like girls to be like animals, more masculine, grab a d*** quick kinda stuff. I am not like that, I am more into foreplay and lovemaking stuff but have really conformed to the likings of ex boyfriends cause I want them to be satisfied I haven't had sex with my current boyfriend yet, he met me when I decided to become celibate until I met someone who I feel a different and strong connection with... we have been six months and I think I am ready now. been celibate since January so I am very nervous cause I want to be good. I don't want to be a nuisance, boring or too aggressive lol what are some tips

[Dragan]

First explore self sexuality. itself and with boyfriend. What do you like. what excites you and what does not. Sexually unsatisfied women is never good in bed. After that, learn all about male sexuality. What excites him, what helps him to stay longer. Bring emotions to making love. Show him that you want him in the eyes sighs, with body. Making love should be ecstasy for both. This is the western way. There is Tantra which has common meditation circling the female and male sexual energy. where men and women can have multiple orgasms with spiritual and physical pleasure.

Mutual satisfaction is always the best and enhances the feeling of satisfaction in both sexes.

Learn and practice your PC muscles. Kegel exercises are the highlight. You can learn to tighten the vaginal muscles of the upper, middle and lower muscles of the vagina. If this is done one after the other guy has the feeling that the vagina caressing his penis. It feels fantastic. But it's all physical. emotions are equally important. Do not be ashamed to show how you want him. Show him the love and passion. Experience the ecstasy together.

[Dionysos]

Her attitude is the most important thing. Being totally into the experience and into me makes the difference between helping each other get off versus having really great sex together.

Since we're all different, I'd say you should ask him for some specifics about what constitutes acting like a guy in bed. If he means strapping one on and bending him over you're probably good to go, but there are more subtle things he might be thinking of. I had a girl that used to grab my head when we'd kiss, in a very passionate manner, but it was kind of off-putting because I'm into a lot less forceful sex.

Like I said though, we're all different. Ask him for examples to be sure.

[Asker]

he said that they were cold and there wasn't much passion. it was like I do you you do me

[Anonymous]

he wants to take the lead and be the dominant one is how I take it.

[justincider]

I think he probably means he has been with a lot of selfish girls in bed, or maybe girls who have pressured him. Its awesome if your girl is aggressive, but its obvious if she thinks it is all about her, giving it up should be enough, and a chip on her shoulder that you are lucky to be getting some action. Just go with the flow, she how it rolls, but at certain points take over. Take over to give oral, and to get on top at some point. The rest works itself out. Don't just lie there. Have fun

[Anonymous]

I think he does't like girl on top positions and being in a position where he doesn't have control. It's perfectly normal, whoever the partner is, he or she may dislike having the other on top and loose control depending on how he/she feels with her/him. Because, grils as well can harm us when too rough, ever heard of penile fracture ?

But good tips would be to well... do not act like a man and make him feel like a man.

Vocalize, to make sure he knows he is doing well and flatter his ego. (I'm not talking about acting)

Pay attention to his erogenous zones with a delicate woman's hand. (I'm not talking about a handjob)

[Asker]

he does like to be in control. I never had sex with him but personality wise he likes to be "the boss" , I don't mind cause I like when the guy is the boss, just don't abuse the power I give to you :) and he likes girl on top as well, so I don't know.