I am a "virgin" that has used a rabbit vibrator. Is this a turn off?

Question

I have a rabbit vibrator that I use, but I have never had sex with a guy. I am 18, and I was just curious what it would feel like and went out and got a vibrator. I masturbated when I was younger, not knowing what I was doing, but since I got this and have had orgasms it's SO good. I always thought sex never felt good to women until I got this. I always heard women and girls talking about how they never really had orgasms so I thought it was just for the guy's pleasure. Is this a turn off to guys who might want to date me (romantically) in the future because I might not be "tight" or whatever because of this vibrator?

TheGodEmperorLeto · Accepted Answer

Turn on if anything :P cause it means you are sexual and know your body and what gets you off, but you're not just casually hooking up. Also, video or it doesn't happen! :D hah.

But ya, it's hot. And if I was to be with a girl like that I'd be happy with it and probably be eager to help her use it and such :P and sex is very much for a woman's pleasure too. But it takes a man who actually WANTS to please you to help it come out and it takes a woman who actually has gotten to know her body and what gets her off to make it happen. OH ya, it also takes a good amount of communication. But there's usually the problem. There are either men too selfish to please a woman, women who haven't given enough time to themselves to figure out what gets them off, no real communication between the two about what feels good, or a combination of those.

And your "tightness" is probably fine. As long as you aren't getting those insanely large ones that are like 5 feet around O.o

onlyaguy · Accepted Answer

@QA: You go girl! Nothing wrong with that at all. There is nothing more sexy to a guy than a girl who is in touch with and enjoys her sexuality.

And don't pay any attention to the moron behind the anon curtain who wrote: "Wow another virgin turned non virgin :("

and

"That darn vibrator took her innocence and virginity. I could never touch her after that. You understand dude man?"

For whatever reason, he is an utter fool with a f***ed up perspective. My guess is he grew up in a very religious and repressive household. He is damaged goods, and misery loves company.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i honestly don't think you should be worried about men who think that way. why would you want someone like that?

im sure this is a turn off for some men, but definitely not all. I'm a virgin and I use sex toys. I was just uncomfortable with my body and not ready to have sex at first. now, I'm really ready to lose my virginity. the men I'm interested in romantically or sexually don't have this kind of mindset.

However, some men may be intimidated and feel they can't measure up to sex toys. those men would feel that way whether you were a virgin or an experienced woman.

marshnewb · Answer

A girl that enjoys her sexuality is a complete turn on.  Few guys care if a girl is really tight or not.  I know I don't.  You know what you like and that makes guys feel a lot less pressured in bed because you can show him how you like it.  Besides, if a guy won't date you just cause your vagina isn't virgin tight, he probably isn't worth dating anyways.

sa230e · Answer

I like sexual girls who enjoy masturbation. It's a natural and beautiful thing. I like that she's in tune with her sexual pleasure and it's something I want to share with her.

WoIIie · Answer

It depends. Would you allow a guy to watch you have these orgasms that are "SO good"?

AnonGuy · Answer

A rabbit is not going to make your vagina loose.

Tarvold · Answer

To me, it's a huge bonus because not only do you have an idea of what you like and how your body works, but also that you are taking charge of your own sexuality.

LilKim · Answer

Some guys may be insecure about it

logical19 · Answer

@QA You're really seeking affirmation from a bunch of horny and desperate perverts on the internet? You can most likely tell that you aren't as tight anymore and that's why you're here. You've taken an experience away from your future husband that you can never get back. Everyone telling you otherwise is either A. some horny guy hoping to get in your pants or B. some feminist who thinks being a slut is a good thing. You should stop manipulating your body and preserve what's left of one of the few things that are special in the world.

Anonymous · Answer

its not going to be a problem for the guy but it could give you high expectations.  guys d***s don't wiggle around pulse or have a vibrating part that can just be put on your clit.  as for it being tight that shouldn't be a problem unless a guy is small.

Anonymous · Answer

There's nothing wrong with a girl learning how her body works. Better a vibrator than sleeping around or losing her virginity before she's ready. A lot of girls rush to lose their virginity to the wrong guy and then have deep regrets during the rest of their life. Enjoy your rabbit and wait until you find the right man.

Anonymous · Answer

It's a turn on that you're sexually adventurous. Don't worry, you're still going to feel tight for guys. Trust me, you could masturbate with a thick dildo and have sex 10 minutes later with a boyfriend and his penis won't feel the difference. Not sure if it would feel different for you or not though.