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Girls what do you think will hurt worse, losing your vaginal virginity or anal sex the first time?

My girlfriend is inexperienced but is open to try sexual things now. We have discussed how we both want to try vaginal and anal sex and at first it seems like total common sense to go vaginal first but after some thinking we're leaning towards anal sex first for a few reasons. Reasons for anal first are, her anus has no hymen to stretch or break, we can't get pregnant from anal sex, she gets to feel penetration and I get to be inside her without a condom, her clit is her pleasure zone and I can rub that during anal sex just as if it was vaginal sex. Thoughts please?
I think losing vaginal virginity will hurt worse
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I think first time anal penetration with a penis will hurt worse
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  • I have experienced both. Anal sex was EXPONENTIALLY more painful for me. Losing my virginity was uncomfortable, but anal sex literally felt like someone was stabbing my rear end with a sword. NOT fun. That's not to say it will be equally painful for your girlfriend, or that you two won't be able to enjoy anal at some point, but it's a much more difficult and complicated endeavor than regular vaginal sex is.

    Keep in mind that the vagina is intended to have a penis in it, and the anus is not. You can't go TOO wrong with vaginal sex, but it's difficult to have anal sex in a safe and comfortable way. Even though the possibility of pregnancy is mostly eliminated, you still need to be aware not only of STDs but of a whole host of other problems that can come along with anal sex.

    YOU STILL NEED TO USE A CONDOM DURING ANAL SEX. In fact, with the exception of the risk of pregnancy, it could even be MORE important. This is because there is bacteria in the anus that your penis isn't equipped to deal with, which can result in dangerous infections. In addition, friction on delicate skin in that area will make it easier to spread infections and STDs. It's also vital to be gentle and use enough lube because even microscopic tears in the skin can become infected. It's really much riskier than vaginal sex is.

    I would strongly recommend waiting to have anal sex until you are fully comfortable with vaginal sex- and until you have done your research and fully understand the risks and the best ways to make it as safe as possible.

    • Sorry that happened to you. It did not have to be that way. Imagine if you had a vanilla peach bubble bath first -- hours of oral -- and some gentle anal play first. And even then, if the head did not feel good going in? You had a guy who would STOP -- and come back to it with even more aplomb. It sounds like he was determined for it to go in no matter what. That is not anal -- or sex.

  • ANAL F***ING HURTS!

    I didn't feel that much pain when I lost my vaginal virginity, but the pain from anal penetration was unbearable. And the fact that my rear end couldn't function properly for 2 days made it even worse.

    I suggest vaginal first.

    As for anal, if she's willing ,try it . But do it slowly, use a lot of lubricant and if she tells you to stop,do it right away.

    Also,I suggest using a condom. The rear end isn't the cleanest place in the world,and STDs are not only for the vagina. AND if you use a condom, change it if you want to go vaginal after. And please don't let her blowjob you after anal.

    • I am sorry that happened to you. It did not have to be that way. And yes -- I have had bjs after anal. It was amazingly hot -- no one ever had any problems.

  • I think anal. But I think that if you had anal you are no longer a virgin. I am ok with oral not counting, but anal is intercourse, so it is funny to do anal to remain virgin

    • Well, some cultures say that if you break your hymen -- you are no longer a virgin. They even have doctors check it. But that is stupid because you can break your hymen riding a bike -- or in those stupid spin classes. Those seats are hard! So I would say -- unless there is penis in vag -- you are a virgin. I mean a girl could have tons of anal, get checked by a doctor and if her hymen is intact? She is officially labeled a virgin. It is one of the cool things about anal. Only you and your lover need to know about it -- or can know about it. Maybe I am just biased because I grew up with Catholic girls. I once went a whole year --- only anal and oral. It wasn't on purpose -- just they way it worked out with a few girls who did not want vag. So I made the most of it. Best year of my life!

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  • I'm not a girl, but I'll add my two cents: Some p*rn stars (female) prefer anal when working with guys with big d***s. That said, it looks like everyone else (mostly) pointed out the obvious (?): Anal is trickier to do without hurting the female, wear a condom and avoid ATM. Absolutely nothing wrong with anal if you're into it, but take it slowly and use lots of lube.

    • Why would they prefer anal when working with guys with bigger penises? That seems backwards to me.

    • That's what I would've thought too, but I was told--by an adult performer--that she preferred anal when the guy was really big, and claimed that this was pretty common in the industry. She said that she could handle a bigger d*ck that way, partly because she was really petite. Definitely take this with a grain of salt--it's what one girl said. She ought to know, but...

    • @samhradh_leannan Well here is the thing. The vag has a floor -- and the head of the dik can pound the cervix if he is too long. Most girls will say that does not feel good at all. With anal, there is the anus, rectum and then colon. If you learn how to properly relax, there is virtually no "end" to her ass. The position also matters. Guys try to go regular doggy like this ---> when this angle is much better /. Think of leap frog. You can't learn it all over night -- but any girl or woman can learn it.

  • first, penis is made for vagina. Don't stick it where it doesn't belong, that is if you don't want the woman to develop certain conditions.

    To me, it is disgusting, even to think of it. Honest. It even looks bad. Thankfully I'm virgin at least :D But when Ill do it with my wifey wife :D Ill stick it where it belongs not where it definitely doesn't. etc :)

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  • Anal sex will hurt much more of course. The vagina is supposed to have a penis inserted inside it, he anus is ment to be a one way system.

  • vaginal if you are tight I think anal is the most uncomfortable

    • How do you mean uncomfortable? Do you mean when it first goes in -- the stretch? Or the in and out -- which can give you that false urge to poop?

  • Neither. A broken heart

  • Not a girl but am experienced. Use lots of lube, relax your asshole, and definitely do not tense up when your guy slides it in. That is where the pain comes from.

  • Anal seem like it would hurt the girl more. If you are a stallion like me and can get any girl soaking wet, then penetration will be smooth.

  • If you use a vibrator for anal first, clean yourself out and use lube, it will feel good, no pain.

  • It was anal for me. But I love it now

  • Anal probably hurts more. I'd be curious if commenters below when experienced pain from anal, did you do it again or one and done?

  • I am not a girl, but I think anal sex is f***ing disgusting. Those having anal sex, whatever males or females, must have some mental diseases.

  • Anal doesn't hurt at all, i have read so many forums about it and everyone says that it hurts really badly. I tried anal sex and i was very surprised that it didn't hurt. It really depends on the person.

    • I am so glad to be seeing this more and more! I am not sure if it is more information and education. Women just being freer to explore their bodied. Or bone-headed guys finally getting the message that you can't just shove it in there. I was with one girl after hours of oral we tried it. Spoons. She took my penis in her hand and just rubbed her butt hole with it. That felt amazing... and it had the effect of opening her up a bit. It was so warm! Anyway, she put the head in and held her breath. I did not move. When she started to breath, I went in an inch. Felt like heaven. Waited. Then another... I got an OOOOOO. Then another. She started to move. I grabbed a cheek with my hand, spread it, and went in to by pelvic bone. I got an OOOOOOOOOOOO and I left it right there. The she started to move, and we never looked back. It did not take all this with other girls. Sometimes, it just feels right and goes in. But she was rather petite so I went as slow as I could. It paid off very well for both of us.

  • B definitely based on experience. anal whole was not made for sex so it doesn't expand naturally like the vaginal whole. I hate anal sex.

  • I have done both, and the first time anal with a penis by far hurt worse. There is SO MUCH more involved in getting anal done right that most people fall short.

  • 1st time anal and not gonna wrap it up. wow wow wow good luck with that

    • idk if this question is one star or 5. let us know how it goes for you

  • Anal will def hurt more because its not add to be used for sex

    • Made* There are several medical conditions that can develop if you're not careful You're anal muscles can become so weak that your rectum will literally come out of your ass

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