I get horny when I hold in my pee

I get horny when I hold in my pee, does this make sense? I told my boyfriend about it and he was impressed. so now he denies me going to the bathroom so we can have sex but its messy. is this a kink?
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  • I also get horny from holding my pee. I used to think I was "the only girl in the world" who got this way. Fortunately, the internet and books saved me from being insecure about it.

    What you and I have is a sexual fetish. In psychology, sexual fetishes are a strong sexual association for an object, act, or experience which is not ordinarily sexual to others. Sexual fetishes are, in fact, quite normal - however, everyone's sexual fetish(es) are different; so any one particular fetish may seem abnormal or perverse to those who have a different fetish. In that sense it is a kink...in the eyes of someone whose fetish is for something else.

    As for making sense: holding your pee builds up intense physical sensation which involve the same nerves and reflexes active during sex. If a few particularly intense, or perhaps your earliest, experiences of stimulating these was from having to restrain your bladder, it makes sense you would develop a fetish for it.

    How a fetish for someone else holding pee develops is less clear to me. In my case it arose out of the thought of someone else experiencing what I experienced. However, many with a fetish for others holding it are not aroused by holding their own pee, or claim their interest in others holding it existed first.

    I also run a message board on this topic. Your boyfriend's reaction of being "impressed" sounds like something one of our male members would say; and suggests he already had an interest is girls being able to resist peeing before you said anything. He may have suspected your fetish before hand, and even been initially attracted to you because of it.

    It's usually not about controlling anyone (although it can be); some even say the reverse is true, that a woman holding her pee demonstrates her will-power to resist peeing - hence she is in control and even when denied going to the bathroom cannot be forced through desperation to pee at the expense of dignity. But both cases in my experience are the exception not the rule.

    For most, what it is about varies from person to person. Many aren't even sure why it makes them horny when someone else is holding it. More than likely your boyfriend just denies you the bathroom before sex cause he knows holding your pee makes you horny, and figures it will turn you on.

    In your case, I consider you particularly lucky in that your romantic interest already has a "complimentary" fetish. This is quite rare, as the typical scenario is one partner is "weird ed out" by the fetish of the other, or has to "get the other interested" through some effort over time. As long as the other aspects of your relationship are healthy, you may be a "match made in heaven".

  • I love when this happens to me!!! I noticed this when I was about 15, I would feel weird when I'd feel aroused over the need to pee but I couldn't deny that it was enjoyable so now when I'm about to leave somewhere I wait til I get home to pee so I can enjoy it in my drive on my way home, its like having an orgasm without having to touch yourself. ^_^ I'm glad other women feel it too! It's an amazing feeling in my opinion, cherish it!

  • It's completely normal - It does it to me too (: Like if I press on my lower stomach when I need to pee, it's like a turn-on I don't know why. But I wouldn't have sex while I need to pee - I wouldn't enjoy it at all.

    Tell him it just feels good to have to pee but it doesn't feel good to have sex while you have to pee - Then you can just have normal sex and make it kinkier! Ha

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  • Yes, making a girl holding in her pee is a fetish, and it's kinky. It's about controlling you. He can control when you go to the bathroom. If he can do that what other aspects of power does he have.

    I think it might have to do with you kegal muscles. When you hold in your urine, and your going to the bathroom your using your kegal muscles. Th kegal muscles is a group of muscles on both sides of the urethra, up by the bladder. I think it makes you horny because of the pressure built up, and then you feel the release of all of that pressure.

    Not sure though. Just what I think :)

    • This is a fetish, but I don't believe it has to do with controlling anyone. I've gotten horny from holding my bladder as far back as I can remember, and developed out of my own experiences a fetish for also making other girls hold their bladders too. It's just a way to give your partner the intense physical sensations hold it can produce. I started a message-board for people with this fetish and, of the 225 male members, only a 3 demonstrate a secondary interest in controlling women.

    • Katryina you are more than right... your muscles are stimulated when the pressure grows up... so that's why most of you love those feeling... In my opinion, it' something correlated with desperation/wetting... that could come from a branch of sadism, because I do like to stare at a girl who is desperate to pee and even if she ends up wetting herself... obviously this is a fantasy, because people doesn't go around wetting theirselves.. however I guess it is because the sight of a girl, crossing her legs, holding, bending... and doing all those things to keep holding, it is really sexy for me. the only problem is that it seems to be a really tabu' topic... no one would talk about it... and I don't really know how many people do it... :(

  • There are two different kinks going on there. One is transmission of control to your boyfriend, and the other is related to pee. Many people get turned on by getting in contact with their lover's pee. You should notice that he enjoys one of them more than the other, or both at the same time.

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  • I too have that fetish. It's especially fun to have a woman grind/sit her behind against it! 😍😍😍 Or if you're a woman, have your man finger or eat you while you're holding!;)

  • Wow I thought I was the only one!

    • oh no... there is a lot of girls in my opinion... but the pee is a kind of tabù... and no one like to talk about it... I'm really sad for that!

  • Your gspot is by your bladder , so when you hold it , its like applying pressure to the gspot. This happens to me also .

    • could you even reach an orgasm?

  • I get it too. When I press my lower stomach when I have to pee it feels wonderful :)

  • Haha, doesn't make sense, I experience it too. I don't think it's "getting horny" but a very similar feeling.

  • Damn I hope I find more girls like you! I'm sorry if anyone finds it gross, but I would love to try having sex with a girl when we both have to pee. I bet our orgasms would be way more intense. :-)

    • I seen read a story similar to that. it was weird but I would like to try it... probably in a bath with at least a few inches of water so when we do pee it won't be all over the bed.

  • I'd really like to talk to you... ! I'm curious to share some opinions

  • Wow.. i have the fetish... you can call it Omarashi.. i have always wanted to try having sex with a girl with both of us holding a full bladder...

  • Yes, it does make sense! And you are not alone. What does it mean: "He was impressed"? Was he turned on? Does he deny you going to the bathroom because he knows you like that, or is it something for himself too? - If you were my girl, it would be heaven for me! It is nothing to feel insecure about. It is just a matter of finding the right partner. And guys who are into it need not necessarily be vulgar, silly or insensitive. Life is more than the textbook of standard education allows...

  • I am the exact same way and I thought it was weirder than it apparently seems to be. I actually can achieve near orgasm if I have to pee and I have on one occasion experienced an orgasm from holding it in. That might be even weirder, I don't know. I have never talked about it.

    • great experience... I'm really sad that girls don't talk so freely about it... I know it is something of really intimate, private... but also because our society has grown us up with the pee as a tabù. however you are the first I read that says to have had an orgasm from holding... but are not a little dangerous orgasming while holding... I mean... can you hold it in that moment?

    • Reaching orgasms are so possible if you want that to happen, the more you hold the more pressure down there. I personally love while I'm driving and there's nothing I can do but to hold my pee in. Orgasms can be reached when you contract your vaginal muscles tight. It's not weird, it's accepting that you can orgasm without doing much and feel good about it. You're one of the lucky ones ☺

  • Wow. I thought I was the only one too. I first noticed these feelings when my bladder was full around pubity. Then as I got older It became really intense. So much so that I will often "hold" myself however bad I need to go as I love the feelings of pleasure over pain.
    The only down side is that sometimes I hold it too long and have the odd "accident" and lose bladder control which is not ideal so I tend to wear black trousers or skirts a lot.

  • It happens to me too. I the longer I wait the hornier I get. Then the pressure of crossing your legs, rubbing your clit... Omg. I get insanely hot! The throbbing is intense

  • It makes perfect sense. Your body is designed to feel these things. Embrace it. Love it. Share it.

  • me too girl! I drink a lot of water...i drink about 16 oz before I go to bed, and I will wake up in the middle of the night needing to go to the bathroom but horny as hell

  • it's hot. me and my boyfriend do this. he denies me and I beg him to let me go. it's a kinky game we play

  • its actually a privilege cause you can have a orgasm

    without doing much

    cause ur bladder is hitting ur g-spot (I think) and that's y it feels good

  • its weird I get that too, liike the muscles contract but it feels good hahaha