No response when I sent him the pic of me in lingerie....now he wants me to wear it...

[Anonymous]

I sent the boyfriend a picture of me in lingerie one day and no response from him. A few days later he said " you should have known that I didn't want anything to do with you when I did not comment on it." Then we got through it and our relationship got better. But since he made that comment, I have no desire to wear any lingerie around him. Its been a few months since then and just recently he told me "you should get some naughty night wear. You look hot in it." I feel no desire to want to do that after he insulted me before. Why bother even trying again.

[madhatters4]

after the initial response "You should have known I didn't want anything to do with you..." why or how did he get you back? That would be enough in my book to say f--k you.

Sure you have a right to feel insulted. I don't know how you ended up with him after that initial as-shole comment but you should just tell him after what he said before why should I get dolled up?

It's one thing not to comment on the picture. But it is an absolute insult (and sign that he's rather ungrateful) to say what he did.

Anyway good luck

[stubbsy]

You should question the relationship as it sounds like he has got into his head that you are needy of him and possibly easy, just tell him you done that once and got slagged off for it, so you won't be doing it again, his reaction should tell you how he really feels about you,x

[Anonymous]

I'd be the same way. Men don't understand that women never forget something like that when they say hurtful stuff. It stays with us forever. you should search yourself to see if you can really get past it. and if he denies ever saying it? it's kinda hard to get a really sincere explanation or apology and that's not going to help you forgive it.

[Anonymous]

Wait, your BOYFRIEND said to you that "you should have known that I didn't want anything to do with you when I did not comment on it" and you still talk to this individual. You should not only not wear lingerie for him, you should ignore he even exists. What sort of man says such a thing to his girlfriend?

[Asker]

He did say that about a year ago to me. Since then...we are still together and planning to move in together. And now he decides he think I look hot wearing lingerie. I just don't feel it and maybe it is me being a bitch.

[Opinion Owner]

It doesn't matter when he said that, a normal guy doesn't say such a thing. You're not being a bitch at all, If anything, you're way too nice because you stayed with him. Most women would have dumped him right away.

[Asker]

I can wear it when it is just me around. I have done that before...put it on to make myself feel a little good. And its a shame that he said that because I like wearing that near a guy.

[3boys4me]

What a freakin weirdo! What normal red blooded male isn't gonna like seein his woman in sexy lingerie? Is he not sexually attracted to you? To me that would be a deal breaker. Ugh who needs that sh*t!

[moaterboat]

Because all guys are supposed to only care about sex and a woman's body, and it is impossible that we can be sexually attracted to someone, but still not want to be involved with them. We're not all 2-dimensional horndogs, and when we aren't women need to understand that they need to do more than flash some skin to get us interested.

[3boys4me]

Why don't you read the question 1st so you can educate yourself before you comment on peoples answers? He was already her boyfriend when she sent him the pic. She wasn't trying to flash some skin to get him interested in her. Um and I never said that men are all 2 dimensional horndogs that are only interested in sex and a womans body, but men who our boyfriends should be:)

[moaterboat]

That's what SHE says, obviously he didn't see things that way.

[moaterboat]

Sounds like you either weren't together or going through a rough patch when you sent him the picture. Now you're together so that changes things. You should just get over it. He didn't insult you, he rejected you, and there is a big difference.

[Asker]

I think it is an insult. Not even respond to a picture when as far as I knew we were together. And now just recently he wants me to start wearing it. I feel no need or desire.

[moaterboat]

Well then my advice to you is to learn the difference between rejection and insult.

[Asker]

What is the difference?

[madhatters4]

An insult is up to the person who takes offense. What he said was rude, inconsiderate, and if she felt insulted than it was insulting. Insults by definition are objective but when said the decision as to whether or not it's insulting is subjective, that's to say that it is up to an individual to decide what's what. If she felt insulted it doesn't matter what his intentions were he insulted her

[moaterboat]

madhatters, that comment offended me and I would like an apology, if you don't give me one that means you are a jerk.

[tommy2toneyack]

Dump his ass

find your self someone that will appreciate what you ENJOY putting on display

[kheserthorpe]

I'm not sure why you bothered 'getting through it and the relationship getting better'.

Maybe if you can say that, it will make sense to you whether you should wear lingerie again.

[Asker]

We had been together about a year. I don't know why we got through whatever it was he didn't want to be with me for. Then we stuck it out. Been over 2 years now. I think it is just that when I get insulted like I did when I got no response from him...I just have no desire.

[kheserthorpe]

Don't move in without resolving this. You're still hurt - and understandably so - and he hasn't clarified things. Its not good enough.

[Anonymous]

strange

[Anonymous]

weird

[Anonymous]

The guy sounds like a jerk

[Asker]

He denies ever saying it to me. Of course.