Is sex with a virgin all it's cracked up to be?

[Anonymous]

I've never had sex with a virgin. I recently learned that the girl I'm with is not a virgin either. I would like to experience a virgin, at least once in my life. I guess for selfish reasons, I want to be someones first. Is sex with a virgin all it's cracked up to be? I love my girlfriend, but knowing she could be wife bothers me because she's not a virgin, and I will likely never experience the honor of being someones first. Please help!

[kholland65]

It's nothing special.

I don't really see the big deal. Even the virgin isn't really going to give a sh*t that you were there first after the two of you have parted ways. It's not like we keep a trophy and picture frame of the person on our mantle with the title (person who took my v-card). Plus, a vagina is a vagina. It won't feel different. The idea that virgin's are tighter is a misnomer. If anything it would feel worse simply due to her inexperience. You can most likely expect the dead fish response from a virgin. At least until you've done it a few times and she becomes comfortable, in which case, she's technically not a virgin anymore.

If anything it comes with more responsibility. Especially as a guy. More often than men, a girl will get very attached to the guy she loses her virginity to. It's like unleashing an emotional monster who has not yet learned how to control itself. It's always a problem women fight with (even men), but as we get older we get a better grasp on our emotions and sexuality so the ability to have sex with out unintended emotions is a bit easier, not always perfectly possible, but easier.

[Asker]

Thanks bro. Your comments are a big help!

[madhatters4]

don't get hungup on this. For the most part aside from the novelty for each, virginal sex is kind of awkward and often uncomfortable.

If you like your girlfriend be happy that she has some experience and can show you the ropes. In my experience sex with a non-virgin is much better than sex with a virgin.

To end a relationship just because you want to have sex with another virgin is a huge decision and really not a good basis to break up with a girl. If you must you must, but think about your relationship and how little of it hinges on sexual experience and then decide do you want to end a relationship simply on the grounds of sexual experience

[Anonymous]

Not trying to be rude but the choice is simple. Get over it and stay with your girlfriend or break up and go find you a virgin. Just because you aren't her first doesn't mean you won't be her first with certain sexual experiences. Y'all may decide to try something she has never done before.

[raineydaygurl]

sex with a virgin isn't a big deal at all. all it is is super awkward. my boyfriend and I were both virgins when we got together. no need to keep thinking about it