How would a girl react to Premature Ejaculation on the first night?

Brief description: I haven't been single for more than 4 years till last November (now 2 months), putting all modestie aside, I have been told that I am good looking, I have an athletic body and am really well endowed (probably my best physical feature), let's say that I do not feel that I need to change anything in me (physically). the Issue: But (there is always a but lol) I tend to get overexcited and come very early, especially with a new girl. It has not been much an issue in the past as I can restart quite soon after coming (if not nervous), and the second round can be as long and rough as we want (usually). Note: I do like long foreplays, and enjoy taking care of the girl taking as much time to get her going well as it needs. My question is: my exes were understanding and knew the issue, and how we could work around it, but now that I have to go fishing for a new partner, I am wondering: "honestly, how would a girl react if on the first night the guy lasts anything between 20 sec and 3 mn?". Would you go out again and retry?. I got told by my latest ex to rely on my "size" to get the girl want to try again andd that she would either way be more preoccupied by how it is going to fit in? (her words). Do I honestly have a serious reason to be apprehensive? I want honest answers please even if it's bad. Thx For answerer: -Guys, if you can please state your knowledge about the subject (did/do you suffer from PE?, background in psychosexual therapy ?) -Girls, please mention if you have experienced something with a guy that had the same condition? and honestly how you reacted and felt. Thank you very much for your inputs. Note: I do apologize sincerely if I sounded arrogant while describing myself, it is not the aim at all, I am just trying to set the context.
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  • Well I've never dealt with pe but I've dealt with ed so I figured though they aren't the same I could give my opinion.

    Firstly talk to her about it before hand, my ex didn't tell me of his ed. so it kinda came as a surprise to me. I've read a lot about sex in general so I know it's got more to do with his subconscious than me. But if your girl hasn't read up much on sex she might think its her fault or that your defective and you're not. And you certainly can't help it and wouldn't of chosen it. But if she likes you she will probably will to work through it. My guy had a lot of trouble keeping going for more than a few minutes, so the opposite of your problem, but he made it his mission to make sure I finished. For me though it was hard because I want to make sure he finished too but he couldn't.

    Second- do you think it would help to pre-game before meeting up with her? If you get your first quick one done yourself before then will you last longer when it comes to having sex with her?

    • I never liked to rely on that although yeah it does work sometimes, there is a small risk however that if I am tired (didn't eat well and slept properly) that it would take longer to be ready. If done too soon, it might not change the situation by more than a couple of minutes and I wouldn't be able to go for a third round on that day.

  • How would a girl react to Premature Ejaculation on the first night?

    Depends on the gal. This gal wouldn't let it get that far. Other gals based on my gal pals and gals I know could either keep quiet and never speak to him again, deal if he's truly good looking, or laugh and ridicule him to his face/his friends/their friends.

    Would you go out again and retry?

    LMFAO no just no. In my opinion sex is already a downgrade so I see no reason for me to add in a factor I have to work around.

    Do I honestly have a serious reason to be apprehensive?

    In my opinion that depends on whether you'd be interested in the gal regardless of her reaction. If you're not interested in being with a gal who can then you have no reason to be apprehensive.

    • Can you explain this part "In my opinion sex is already a downgrade so I see no reason for me to add in a factor I have to work around."? What do you mean sex is a downgrade. And quite frankly you said something that is true: I doubt I'd be interest in being with a gal who would have such an aggressive reaction my condition. But ultimately, I think I am afraid of the moment and what might pass by the girl's head.

    • I meant since I'm a gal sex usually doesn't result in an orgasm as studies show there's only a 30% chance via penetration and mot gals don't orgasm and those that orgasm don't do so consistently unlike with guys who almost always orgasm. So in comparison to masturbation which is almost guaranteed orgasms the shot in the dark chance orgasm sex gives is a downgrade for my sexual pleasure. Bit curious as to why you care what passes through her head if you don't care about being with her.

    • For some reason I have an unhealthy relationship with failure, and I do not let people down within the limits of the possible. As for your other comment, I know that but I am also the kind of person who would go down and play around the body of the girl for 15-45 mn (as long as I don't over do it), When I know the girl can get to an O more easily with other means than penetration, I would do the best I can to get her there before any penetration (to keep the score even).

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  • As long as she likes you, like genuinely likes you, it shouldn't be a problem.

    I dated my ex for 3 months before we had sex. The first time he puts his penis into my vagina, he came in less than 30 seconds. I was definitely disappointed (I was a virgin too) but I didn't make it a big deal.

    We did 2 more rounds after that on the same night but he couldn't last more than 2 minutes each time. I still enjoyed it though and was fine with it. Keep in mind though, I was completely in love with him so his bedroom stuff wasn't a big deal. I still wanted to have sex with him everyday.

  • My ex was very above average...and I was a virgin...he only lasted a few min for our first few times and it never bothered me at all.If I care or love a man that does not matter...also I couldn't handle his size that long at first so it was nice to work on it together :) your not leaving your girl hangong and your attractive and seem nice...only a bitch would leave iny opinon.

    • true. rightly stated.