Alpha male dominance during sex.

Recently I hooked up with an ex, we had fantastic rough sex five times in eight hours, exploring every position imaginable. The dominance is new we never did that in the past, he would pull my hair, spit in my face, call me a dirty bitch, thrusting really hard, slapped my butt very hard, and much more...The thing is in the cold light of day he is nothing like that.. I sent him a sext asking if he had ever had his prostate massaged while being f***ed or sucked? His reply was, "why would you ask such a question?". Followed by, " I have experience many interesting things in my lifetime!". Is he disgusted, or embarrassed or have I read the tone of his text wrong or what, his response is

not what I had expected...

Updates:
I don't think it has anything to do with gayness, and he is not usually so secretive, private about sex.
So how would I get him turned on before we even get to the bedroom? How would you have reacted to my sext?
He likes to give the impression he has done everything and is never shocked. I'm starting to think he can not hand me showing dominance, if I sext him to come f*** me he will respond with "I'm on my way."so how do I turn this round and get him wanting me again?
 

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  • In my experience this is a topic that should be talked about face to face because straight alpha males tend to be embarrassed about this because they seem to think if they like it then they must be gay! But most feel about this the way most women feel about anal sex! They are comfortable taking about it even if they have done it because it is considered taboo in society!

  • ...you let someone spit in your face?

    • Tf am I getting down arrowed for?

    • No, he did it spontaneously, I was shocked but didn't make anything of it, later I said I did not like it. It was very rough dominant sex that was part of a fantastic experience.

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    "if I sext him to come f*** me he will respond with "I'm on my way."so how do I turn this round and get him wanting me again?"


    I think you asked and answered your question in the very same sentence. ;)

    • If you're willing, I'd say it's very good. :)

    • He said, "it sounds as though you would be willing to make any unfulfilled fantasies I may have come true?" Is that good or bad!

    • OK, I'm with you now. Sorry. Yeah, it sounds like the prostate massage just not his thing. If you want to continue the relationship, and it sounds like you do, I would suggest just letting him know you like what he does and you want some more. That's probably all you need to do to turn him on! :)

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  • The fact that he has rough sex does not mean he wants a prostate massage. Some people like one, some both, some neither.

  • may be he is not interested, if he likes to be the dom he's probably not going to like that. Or he just didn't know how to answer because he isn't sure about what you want to do.

  • A lot of guys will be hesitant to have their prostate played with. Have you ever tried to be the Domme? Why don't you try some bondage and slowly work the prostate into the scene. If he is hesitant just reassure him and try to get him to just try it. If your not into being the Domme try and work the anal in during sex. Get him really horny and you be surprised how the male mind stops thinking haha. During sex rub his ass crack and stimulate it. Then ask him again during sex. Hopes this helps :)

  • Sex is the most primal thing.

    It helps us get in touch with our true roots(sometimes animals).


    Personally I am not that much of a dominant person in normal life but when it comes to having sex,my primal side is activated and I get extremely dominant.Sometimes to the extent of man-handling the opposite sex(not in a bad way though).pulling her hair,pushing her neck from the back while f***ing her doggy style,forcing her to go deep throat on me is very common.won't get anymore graphic here on GAG...but you get the point!


    So yeah it is quite possible that he is not that dominant outside bed.


  • He might be hinting that sex is not what his life is all about.

    "I have experienced many interesting things in my lifetime." Those words makes him somewhat alpha and very worldly. His text is not what you might had expected.

    Perhaps he's a man that goes through the world thinking that what happened in the bed, stays in the bed.

    • He is very much the Alpha male and is very worldly. How can he be full on in bed then not find a sext worth an answer?

  • Idk it's kinda confusing. I say bring that up before sex and ask if you can try it on him

    • Or maybe he finds its gay for whatever reason

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