Girls, how bad do you imagine does it feel for a guy to be "blue balled"?

[Fiona83]

When I say "blue balled", I mean like really stimulated to the point of cumming, but then, by whatever reason, not having the possibility to finish. How bad do you girls imagine does this feel to a guy? Personally, I always thought ot must feel extremely frustrating. I know from personal experience, that being close to orgasm but then not being able to cum, feels terrible. But somehow I can imagine for guys it must be physically even worse. But I hear a lot of girls saying they think it's probably not that bad. What do you think?

[UlsterScot]

Here's a guy perspective on "blue balls". It is a combination of pressure built up in the prostate from "loading" and the strain on the muscles associated with the vas deferens that have been pulling up to load the seminal vesicles and prostate. The pressure is not pain; just a full feeling and can be instantly relieved by ejaculation. The strained muscles become quite sore and feel like a slight "kick in the balls". That soreness will last an hour or more. Even if you come after a long session, you will be sore, but (I'm guessing) orgasm produces endorphins with mask the pain and wear off about the time the pain subsides.

If your guy can't get over the top, switch to a fast and furious hand job to finish him.

[MrOracle]

This post is pretty much spot on. Blue Balls isn't just the sexual tension and frustration of not finishing, it's also an achy, tender feeling caused by an over-full prostate (which is near the testicles, causing the misnomer). It *can* hurt pretty good, but usually it's just an ache and you have to be very careful not to inflict further pain.

[titoloco]

I feel pain just reading about the description of blue balls.

[titoloco]

Stimulated to the point of cumming but not cumming. Is not so bad. The only thing that would make me crazy would be if she's done and I'm not. I'd be pissed. Physically tired obviously but Pissed because I didn't get off.

But I would deal with it by finishing myself off afterwards.

[abra_b]

It happens to girls, too ... link

I'd imagine it feels about the same, but guys are more likely to draw attention to their sexual discomfort to try to coerce release from the female, but as females are less likely to orgasm in general, get kinda used to the feeling. I think for guys, there may be a greater "mental" frustration, because they consider it the female's duty to bring him to finish once she starts. Girls, for the most part, consider an partner-given orgasm a lucky occurance, not a guarantee.

[abra_b]

Let it stand that I don't think guys deserve to get off no matter what because they get pissy when they don't ejaculate.

[Fiona83]

I think it depends on the situation. If you stimulate him to the point of cumming and then stop and won't continue the few more seconds it would need to make him cum, then that's just mean...

[abra_b]

Most girls wouldn't quit unless she was in extreme discomfort herself. If she's doing it on purpose, that's a bit strange.

[Fiona83]

That is true. But I have heard of girls before, who quit right before he would have ejaculated, not to be mean or something, but because they "didn't feel like it anymore"...I mean, the 5 more seconds to make hum come should be no big deal for her then.

[abra_b]

A girl wouldn't know how close a guy was to orgasming, though. Guys tend to pound really, really hard when they are getting close to finishing ... so I could see how girls who aren't experienced could become overwhelmed with the feeling and stop when he was close.

[Fiona83]

I think only very inexperienced and immature girls would act like that.

[abra_b]

I would imagine ... Not something I've done personally. But if he's hurting her ... why do you feel that his pleasure counts more than her pain?

[Fiona83]

Hurting her?

[abra_b]

As I explained, imagining this scenario, that's the only reason I would imagine a girl would stop -- because his powerful thrusting was becoming painful.

[Fiona83]

Oh, you were thinking about intercourse...now I get it.

[abra_b]

Why do you feel so sorry for a guy simply because he didn't ejaculate? I'm curious. Are you upset at a girl who was fooling around with a guy you liked or is it something different?

[Fiona83]

Well, I wasn't talking about scenarios where the girl gets hurt or the guy is being a jerk.

[Dragan]

Sexual arousal without realizing frustrated and hurt both sexes. The couple needs to devote full attention to female and male orgasm.

[Shrinking-Violet]

I imagine it can be frustrating... happens to girls often too... but physically, I don't imagine it hurting or being a big issue. That's just my opinion; obviously I'm not a guy, so I don't know for sure. Probably depends on the guy too... some guys complain more, and others suck it up.

[pineappleshortcare]

I'd imagine that the bigger the douche bag, the more he feels that a girl owes him a blown load.

[UlsterScot]

Do I detect a trace of cynicism?

[pineappleshortcare]

Females have an orgasm a lot less often than guys do when it comes to fooling around and sex. But nobody throws a pity party for them. It's expected to be overlooked.

[Scoopie]

Various (scientific) theories on the purpose of the female orgasm all in one article: link

Some suggest female orgasms aren't even necessary, and claim that it will eventually 'phase out' using the fact that a significant amount of women are unable to orgasm as an argument. So if you can't achieve orgasm as a woman, why have sex at all?

[pineappleshortcare]

I think orgasm serves the function of bonding a female to her mate and to ensure he has repeated sexual access. Because, as you said, if females don't achieve orgasm, why have sex at all?

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I don't think it's that bad but idk.he can always easily solve that anyway

[Fiona83]

Yes of course, but then you're leaving out the mental frustration, which is not to be underestimated.

[UlsterScot]

Not completely true. He can relieve the pressure but the pain remains.

[stubbsy]

To be honest, its not that bad, its more mental frustration than anything else, so any guy saying its painful is just his way to try and get the job finished by you instead of doing it himself,x

[Fiona83]

I think that's true. But I imagine that mental dfrustration to be really bad.

[stubbsy]

It can be highly uncomfortable, but there's no pain apart from the ego being gutted and screaming out for completion lol,x

[Fiona83]

I think it's not the ego that is the problem, I think it's the frustration and desperation that comes from the girl stimulating him so much but then not finishing him.

[stubbsy]

A lot happens, mainly him being gutted and confused to get so close and then be left cold, its not pleasant, even when its not deliberate, its not pleasant, but there's still no pain involved, just the desperate feeling of finishing the job with her, that is what becomes intense, just having such a desperate desire to ejaculate, because this can often be used as a teasing tactic from you girls, and this can often be very nice, as long as it ends with us finishing inside you ,x

[Fiona83]

Well, like I said, I agree with you.

[MyNameIsJonas]

Being horny and unable to realease feels uncomfortable and aches at times. Mentally it is frustrating. Nothing a guy would die over but certainly not enjoyable.

[jennifer8]

My experience has been that the louder more aggressive guys are the ones who experience this most frequently!

[stillagoodgirl]

I don't really care,they'll get over it

[Dragan]

While I learn tantra many times I had blue balls. It really hurts. When I learned after a much time to have orgasm without ejaculating, blue balls are gone forever. Sexual arousal without realizing frustrated and hurt both sexes. The couple needs to devote full attention to female and male orgasm.

[Dragan]

Someone'm disappointed with my answer.

[Dragan]

We have someone who does not like Tantra.

[titoloco]

Dude I'm tired of you tantra sh!t. Every post I go in you have a comment about TANTRA.

[Dragan]

I really do not know why Tantra annoying. I pointed out to my experience. It seems to me that you are too lazy to learn a little bit more than you know.

[titoloco]

I'm an atheist, I work well with science, delay of gratification, achievement through challenge. Religion is not my forte.

link

I might have achieved the same performance levels you have in bed without having to rely on Tantra. I call it. Control over your ejaculation. Any man can achieve that through proper training and experience. I'm not dismissing your opinion, just pointing out our differences. Remember the subject is Blue Balls. We both know it hurts lol.

[Dragan]

Well Titoloko, I see that you about Tantra don't know anything. Wikipedia is a poor source.

[Rippie]

It can be absolute torture ...

[WickedEyedLeo]

It happens to women too, it's just men that complain about it more.