Why do people like to brag about their sex life?

[Anonymous]

I was talking to my two best friends (one is 22, the other one is 26 and I just turned 24) and we started discussing sex. I´ve known them for a couple of years but we never really got around to talking about sex. I ended up telling them that I never had sex before. I am not really afraid of sex itself, it´s just that I had a VERY bad experience with a boy in my first year of college and I never dated anyone after it. Another issue is my family being a bit controlling and not liking anyone I like. I got my heart broken so I decided I would focus on my studies and simply wait and have faith that the next guy would be a good person. So, as you can see, I´m not religious, I am not afraid of sex or penises or anything weird like that. For me, sex involves feelings, and my feelings were hurt, so I decided that I simply wasn´t ready. I told this exactly to my friends and all they did was tell me that I´m crazy and that at my age I should just give it up to some random guy. Then they started telling me about all the guys they´ve slept with, they told me about how they give blow jobs all the time, all the sex positions they practice and things like that. I have nothing against that, but they were talking to me as if I was some sort of ignorant child. They even laughed at me at some point. Now, all they do is talk about what they did the night before. But they are not just telling me or something like that, they are bragging. It´s as if they found it so terrible that I was a virgin that felt the need to brag about what they do because they don´t want to sound like me. I feel really awful now...

[madhatters4]

Sex brings about lots of insecurity. How do a lot of people conquer insecurity? Feign being overconfident. So in dealing with the topic they will go overboard in the in their confidence because it allows them to not deal with the insecurity they probably have.

Additionally sex feels amazing so perhaps they are bragging because they are proud of their own experiences and hope that in oversharing and making it sound like it's the greatest thing in the world you will give in and have sex yourself.

those are my opinions only. I could be wrong

[KingsOfleon88]

People are stupid. You do not have to give it up to just any random guy. Sex is entirely about real feelings and people these days will give it up to just about anyone without having an genuine connection with them, but only physical. IMO, do it when you're ready and with that right person. It doesn't make you less of a person because you choose not to go sleep with or blow any guy you see walking down the street that you find attractive. You live how you want to live, and they live according to how they want too. Don't let it get you down.

[PoeticNinja]

I think that's just something you guys don't have in common yet.

It's not right of them as your friends to laugh at you and throw it in your face. - Don't go spreading them for some random guy.

You feel awful for still being a virgin? - Use it to your advantage.

Sex is amazingly fun though.

[prophecy]

"You feel awful for still being a virgin? - Use it to your advantage." - I agree with this one.

you can sell your virginity. make some cash out of it. link

[PoeticNinja]

LMAO, I wasn't talking about it in that manner.

[prophecy]

it's time to go out there and spread some legs, lady. 24 and no sex? no good.

[kheserthorpe]

Either they feel uncomfortable that they're doing, feel like 'everyone' does it, and the fact that you don't reminds them they don't, actually, have to have casual sex ...

or ..

they genuinely think you are missing out.

It could even be both, at once.

[Dionysos]

People like to talk about what makes them feel good and what they're interested in.

[mattiee]

your friends are what we call "dirties" and probably

have little respect for themselves, don't let their views

EVER change yours do it when YOU feel its right not them.

[Anonymous]

they are just that shallow and have nothing else that they can talk about. that's sad really. idc if someone is having sex and I don't feel a need to tell anyone what I am doing. some of us have a little class and keep personal life private. be glad that you have more going for you than sex

[Anonymous]

Hey, don't let these girls get you down. You'll have your own wonderful sex some day with the right boy, but there's no need to brag about these things and make you feel bad. I much rather take a girl who's a virgin or isn't crazy about doing something she isn't comfortable with than two girls who yammer on constantly about sex and spread details of our private life around. You're desirable in your own way, don't let these chicks get to you.

[Anonymous]

You can be like them in a matter of minutes. They can never be like you. Be proud of your decision, and hold out for the right guy. When you do, the sex will be better. It won't just be a physical thing, you'll have both a physical and emotional connection. Who cares how much **** they get, they're sluts. The right guy will come along, and he'll appreciate your decision. You'll have some things to learn, but the right guy will be willing to teach you. Just be careful and make sure it's the right guy and not someone who sees a virgin as a conquest.

[Anonymous]

They aren't just bragging to make you feel bad, or to distance themselves from you. They are trying to show (in their own way) how great sex is, how it makes them feel, how it doesn't have to be the most important thing in your life or something you can only do with the guy you're going to marry.

It's a beautiful and fun part of everyday human existance, and you're cutting yourself off from that, and missing out on potentially the best sex years of your life.

You will NEVER be this young again. You'll never have the energy and freedom you do at this moment, to enjoy sex without fear of complication.