It's easy to convince yourself that you can make this situation a give/give relationship. You give him sex and he'll give you emotions. Unfortunately, it doesn't always work that way. Seriously, it very rarely works that way.
He sees you as an opportunity for free booty, obviously he's emotionally retarded because you explained to him how you felt and he still accepted what you offered, despite the emotional repercussions it might have on you. But you have to give him credit for his honesty as well, it doesn't sound like he led you on - he was pretty upfront about his own feelings. So you were the one who decided to take the risk, and now you are the one who has to deal with the consequences.
Kudos to you for turning him down the second time; there is a small part of you that realizes your emotional efforts are futile and in the end he will just keep using you for sex. You may think that you will do "whatever" to be close to him, but you proven yourself wrong right there. Keep that up, suffer your inner turmoil and deny him access to you, because after a while, when the emotional maelstrom inside settles, you will see clearly that he wasn't good enough.
You deserve so much better, and you know it.
Good luck.0 0 0 0You totally just got used.
You asked if there were any chances of dating, he said yes, then asked you to have sex with him when you didn't want to? Come on, use your brain cells! You're too old for this kind of high school crap. The issue with FWB is that someone always ends up developing feelings (usually us females BTW) and the guys go "well, I don't think so".
Pull your head out of your ass. The fact that your letting this maggot have control of your emotions is already pushing me to the point of nausea, you would "accept whatever just to be next to him."!
Forget the douche bag, why are you even going to waste your time on someone who obviously is after pussy? I mean, look at what you've written! You let your emotions get the better of you, you used your heart instead of your logic. Instinctually you *knew* what was going to happen if you went over to his place alone, yet you did it anyway because you "knew the consequences if you did". Are you really that low on self-esteem that you would take off your clothes and jump into bed with him just to have a chance?
Grow some balls, forget this piece of sh*t and move on with your life.
And get some self-respect.
Because you seriously need it.0 0 0 0Thanks a lot, that what's I need. How can I get over him though. I still will be seeing him around.
Just, don't pay him any heed, if he comes up to you to talk and ask about hanging out again, just say "no thanks". I know it seems difficult, but you need to be angry about what he did to you, how he used you the way he did. Be Angry! Be Strong. Always glad to be a kick in the ass when one needs it, when I really need one, I'm lucky enough to have a stepfather who will do it, even if it's painful to hear.
Jeez, move on. You're not going to be happy in this. And if you think you are then tell me, what would be the happy ending? How would that actually take place?
BTW, are you really 25-29? You sound like you are either younger or inexperienced.0 0 0 0
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When a guy says "I don't want a relationship", then walks away, you sleep with this guy at your own risk. If you don't want to be his FWB--and you clearly, clearly don't-- DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM.
Realize that while he might be taking you for granted, you're doing the same: after telling you the sort of relationship he'll have, you don't just ignore him--you blame him for his honesty.
Stop sleeping with him, and leave him alone. If he asks why, tell him you need a boyfriend. Otherwise--and be very clear on this--*you* are hurting *yourself*, because from the very beginning, you knew the score.0 0 0 0he will use you prob
maybe he still stuck in his Highs school mentality
but most guys are like that
and check for his past dating relationships and such
and see how the girls feel from that
and such
and to me if you liked him
u shouldn't have tExt him
u should've called or meet up
cause something serious like that
should be called or seen in person
so you can see his reaction and such!
good luck =)0 0 0 0
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1 0yeah he only wants to use you, really good job saying no to sex. you need to stop being in contact with this guy and get over him.
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