Is he just going to use me?

I know this guy for 2 months and I have a secret crush for him from the very beginning. Just two weeks ago, we just hanging out a lot and I thought he knew how I feel for him. Until last week, I texted him how I felt for him and his response just a smiley face. So I just asked him again is there any chances we are going on dating, and he said that is possible. So later that night, I texted asking him where he was. He told me that he was at his friends house and invited me over to join them. After that, he took me to his place saying that he wanted to spend time with me. But he ended up asking me to have sex with him. I simply replied that I don't want to be his FWB and he said 'well, I don't want a relationship either' and turn his back on me. Actually, I already knew that I should not go to his place for the first place and I also know what is the consequence if we did having sex with each other. But anyhow, my feeling for him prob too strong than my reasoning so I ended up having sex with him. After that, we that night we just acting like nothing happen :( he is still very nice and sweet to me as usual though. Until, today I texted him what is his plan for tonight. And he said may be have few drinks and spend time with me. So I asking him in a way of joking that what actually on his mind. He simply reply that, he thought we didn't really get all we should last week, so we should catch up? So I email him and asked what does he really meant?(I mean after all I told him how I feel about him and tell him I don't want to be FWB with anybody) He just didn't email me back? What should I do? Is this type of guy not worthy to give my feeling for, right? I still have to see him (we are classmates) should I just ignore him, not talking to him at all, or just tell him that this is not right and he should not take me for granted? I know someone is not even worth to explain because they just don't care. And the worst feeling is just explain your feeling and see the look in their eyes saying that 'whatever'. I think, I'm so hurt and tend to accept whatever just to be next to him. And if that is the choice I'm going to make (being his FWB), should I tell him that there is a chance I can fall for him deeper and deeper? Thanks for any respond.
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Thanks for every respond. Last nite, we were just hanging out at other friend of mine's party and we ended up at my place. We listened to some music and talk...so he said he had been through a very bad relationship and right now relationship is not
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exactly what he wants to achieve right now. I told him, frankly me either. But I can't do this FWB as well because I know my feeling for him is too strong and I can end up getting hurt very easy. So I told him that I think then v should just break it off
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even though I don't understand y we can't just lets it flow sort of hanging out? I told him that I like him a lot but yet in the same time I also don't want to get hurt. Definitly I can't force him to like me too.he said, don't think I might be the
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only one hurt, and that is what he's avoiding.About breaking it off and letting it flow, he would go with the first, because letting it flow is exactly what he doesn't want, even though he hated saying 'breaking off'; merely using my words.
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and if he did not like me, I would not have experienced any of his actions. Though, he is not at the level to desire a relationship based on liking. And he doesn't see anything wrong in a FWB 'relationship'. he believes believe that they last or
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lay cardinal foundations or the two participants just move forward. lol and he just left at 5 am in the morning. Seeing him go, made me feel pretty sad. I feel somehow we have a connection that can spring beautifuly but too bad that he experienced a bad
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relationship. I think, I will let him goes. As I said earlier, I can't force him to like me anyway.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • It's easy to convince yourself that you can make this situation a give/give relationship. You give him sex and he'll give you emotions. Unfortunately, it doesn't always work that way. Seriously, it very rarely works that way.

    He sees you as an opportunity for free booty, obviously he's emotionally retarded because you explained to him how you felt and he still accepted what you offered, despite the emotional repercussions it might have on you. But you have to give him credit for his honesty as well, it doesn't sound like he led you on - he was pretty upfront about his own feelings. So you were the one who decided to take the risk, and now you are the one who has to deal with the consequences.

    Kudos to you for turning him down the second time; there is a small part of you that realizes your emotional efforts are futile and in the end he will just keep using you for sex. You may think that you will do "whatever" to be close to him, but you proven yourself wrong right there. Keep that up, suffer your inner turmoil and deny him access to you, because after a while, when the emotional maelstrom inside settles, you will see clearly that he wasn't good enough.

    You deserve so much better, and you know it.

    Good luck.

  • You totally just got used.

    You asked if there were any chances of dating, he said yes, then asked you to have sex with him when you didn't want to? Come on, use your brain cells! You're too old for this kind of high school crap. The issue with FWB is that someone always ends up developing feelings (usually us females BTW) and the guys go "well, I don't think so".

    Pull your head out of your ass. The fact that your letting this maggot have control of your emotions is already pushing me to the point of nausea, you would "accept whatever just to be next to him."!

    Forget the douche bag, why are you even going to waste your time on someone who obviously is after pussy? I mean, look at what you've written! You let your emotions get the better of you, you used your heart instead of your logic. Instinctually you *knew* what was going to happen if you went over to his place alone, yet you did it anyway because you "knew the consequences if you did". Are you really that low on self-esteem that you would take off your clothes and jump into bed with him just to have a chance?

    Grow some balls, forget this piece of sh*t and move on with your life.

    And get some self-respect.

    Because you seriously need it.

    • Thanks a lot, that what's I need. How can I get over him though. I still will be seeing him around.

    • Just, don't pay him any heed, if he comes up to you to talk and ask about hanging out again, just say "no thanks". I know it seems difficult, but you need to be angry about what he did to you, how he used you the way he did. Be Angry! Be Strong. Always glad to be a kick in the ass when one needs it, when I really need one, I'm lucky enough to have a stepfather who will do it, even if it's painful to hear.

  • Jeez, move on. You're not going to be happy in this. And if you think you are then tell me, what would be the happy ending? How would that actually take place?

    BTW, are you really 25-29? You sound like you are either younger or inexperienced.

Most Helpful Guys

  • When a guy says "I don't want a relationship", then walks away, you sleep with this guy at your own risk. If you don't want to be his FWB--and you clearly, clearly don't-- DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM.

    Realize that while he might be taking you for granted, you're doing the same: after telling you the sort of relationship he'll have, you don't just ignore him--you blame him for his honesty.

    Stop sleeping with him, and leave him alone. If he asks why, tell him you need a boyfriend. Otherwise--and be very clear on this--*you* are hurting *yourself*, because from the very beginning, you knew the score.

  • he will use you prob

    maybe he still stuck in his Highs school mentality

    but most guys are like that

    and check for his past dating relationships and such

    and see how the girls feel from that

    and such

    and to me if you liked him

    u shouldn't have tExt him

    u should've called or meet up

    cause something serious like that

    should be called or seen in person

    so you can see his reaction and such!

    good luck =)

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  • yeah he only wants to use you, really good job saying no to sex. you need to stop being in contact with this guy and get over him.