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Is 25 too late to start enjoying sex? Would a guy be willing to have sex with me?

I only had sex once, when I was 19 with a stupid guy who told me he loved me and after we had sex he left me. The whole experience was DREADFUL. I decided to not have sex anymore. Well, now I´m 25 years old and I really want to start enjoying it. Maybe this is a silly excuse, but I´m really hot and I feel like my body deserves to be kissed, touched and..yeah, that too lol But I´m worried my age is a negative thing. Girls have this problems when they are 15-18, I´m 25. Also, I haven´t been penetrated by anything since I was 19, so my vagina would be the same as a virgin´s. I would like to enjoy sex with someone I can trust, but not in a relationship. The only time I was in a relationship and we had sex, it ruined everything. I felt like I lost my power and my strenghth when I had sex with that guy. I don´t want to feel that way again. I want to enter a relationship with experience (good experiences) so that it can be a healthy one (at least on my side). But, how can I offer this to a guy? Aren´t I supposed to already be experienced at this age? Would a guy be willing to be with me?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I used to be just like you, only a few months ago.

    I'm a very emotional person and when I am in a relationship I open myself up completely. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 23 and it was such a horrible experience I because bitter and upset and felt I could never trust a man again. I opened myself up to someone and he used me and totally disrespected me. He was only after me for sex and during he was uncaring, not trying to help me or calm me down because I was so nervous I didn't know what to do. After we slept together he disappeared for a week and when he finally came back he broke up with me, telling me all these horrible things about my looks, my body, what I wear, and how I act. I became depressed and I stopped caring about dating, having a boyfriend, men or sex. I went through life like this until I was 28, when I met my current boyfriend. I don't know what it was, but something about him made me trust him, made me feel alright, and made me want a relationship with him. I'm so amazed that my boyfriend loves me and enjoys sex with me, even though I am highly in-experienced and almost every sexual act I have done with him (minus missionary position) has been a first for me. He does not complain, he does not make me feel like he's better than me. He helps me and listens to me, understands me and takes is slow. I feel, that if you find a caring, mature guy your inexperience will not matter. He will love you for who you are.

    • Thank you so much! You're very lucky you found such a great guy!

    • Thank you! I'm sure you'll find a great guy, too. Don't give up and be willing to take a risk. Good luck!

  • I am in the same position as you, the last guy I was with a couple of years ago hurt me a lot and so after that I never dated anyone else. Everyone seemed like a jerk to me. I would love to find a great guy and enjoy sex again. I'm not experienced either and am scared I will be hurt again. Sorry I didn't answer your question but I though I would share.

    • Its OK, hope it works out for both of us!

    • I know me too :)

  • Plenty of guys will be more than happy to help you out with your serious problem! LOL Just as soon as you give a hint your ready guys will be standing in line to hopefully get a chance.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I don't think you'd be unappealing as a partner. You made a personal decision based on your feelings and experiences, and a guy worth being with is going to respect that. It's all about your communication and connection with the type of person you really want to be with, and can work on those things at your own speed.

    The fact you're willing to be open about it, and talk about this topic is very attractive. There's lots of guys who would respect and want to explore sexuality with you and bring you pleasure - when you feel confident and comfortable going there.

    As to "experience" - I'd rather learn what my girlfriend likes and practice that with her than worry about any societal measure of how many or how other people do it. Sexual preferences and styles can be a very individual thing.

  • Lady .. you are just worrying too much .. as I understand you want sex... every body wants sex... j

    what is wrong with year age ? experience comes with experimentation.. if yo trust the guy and he trusts you .. just experiment .. I mean as a guy I don't expect the girl that I am with to be a p*rn star in bed.. neither actually do I want that . There is nothing wrong with being inexperienced or virgin at any age ...

    You are just a normal girl. Do what you want . I am trying to find your problem and I can't find it.

    • This really got me thinking, thank you

    • i read a lot of girls complaining they are virgins and in experienced.. .. I mean .. guys don't give a sh*t about this and infact it turns them on. If you want no strings attached.. just do it with a friend you trust and know he wouldn't hurt you in any way .. but you will risk year friendship becase he could get attached ..

    • Thank you for the best answer . And I wish you a happy and healthy love life!

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  • I think you will find lots of guys would be down for this...

    You just have to be able to talk to them about it...

  • Your not over the hill yet... your only 25. As long as you are looking good (exercise and dress nicely) Your not going to have much trouble meeting men who are interested in only sexual flings. I'd think you should take some time when finding a partner and find a good man that you can trust and have safe sex with. A FWB situation might work out well for you.

  • There are guys your around your age and older than you who may be in the same position as you..and who knows you might just end up finding one

  • No it is not too late - I mean the female sexual prime is in your 30's anyways. Relax, find someone you are comfortable with and go for it. Just be safe about it. Enjoy!

  • This has to be the most dumbest question I ever seen in my life.

  • Oh hell no! Even if you'd started years ago, at 25 your best sex would be yet to come. No offense to the ladies, but most really don't begin to get good at sex until they're 30 or so. That's when their libido really kicks and their inhibitions and insecurities begin to fade. That's when the real fun begins.

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