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STD's would you come clean, or lie if asked? Would you trust what a new partner said?

Let's say you are hooking up with someone for the first time that you just recently met. In the middle, you stop and say, that you are overly cautious about diseases and want them to know that you've never had anything and never want to get anything and if there is anything on their end you should know about, now would be a good time to mention it. How clean do you think someone would be with their answer if they had had or currently had an STD? I'm trying to create two scenarios, one if they only had stuff in the past, would they be truthful, and if they currently had something, would they be truthful. Remember at that moment, they'd be tempted to lie because it would be embarrassing to mention it, and they might not get laid by bring it up. Option A: If they only had an STD in the past they'd probably come clean because it's gone now; If they had a current STD they'd probably lie about it because they'd use a condom Option B: If they only had an STD in the past they'd probably lie because they feel you don't need to know; If they had a current STD they'd probably lie about it because they'd use a condom Option C: If they had a current STD they'd probably lie about it if it wasn't acting up, not contagious now, and they would even go without a condom. (who cares if this partner is truthful about the past or not). Option D: If they only had an STD in the past they'd probably come clean because it's gone now; If they had a current STD they'd probably also come clean and tell you about it. Option E: If they only had an STD in the past they'd probably lie about it because it is gone and you don't need to know. If they had a current STD they would probably come clean and tell you about it. How do you think a person with a past STD or present STD would answer?
If they only had an STD in the past they'd probably come clean because it's gone now; If they had a current STD they'd probably lie about it because they'd use a condom
Vote A
If they only had an STD in the past they'd probably lie because they feel you don't need to know; If they had a current STD they'd probably lie about it because they'd use a condom
Vote B
If they had a current STD they'd probably lie about it if it wasn't acting up, not contagious now, and they would even go without a condom. (who cares if this partner is truthful about the past or not).
Vote C
If they only had an STD in the past they'd probably come clean because it's gone now; If they had a current STD they'd probably also come clean and tell you about it.
Vote D
If they only had an STD in the past they'd probably lie about it because it is gone and you don't need to know. If they had a current STD they would probably come clean and tell you about it.
Vote E
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Most Helpful Girls

  • This is my being completely honest. I had an STD in the past from a boyfriend who wasn't honest about his exploits while we were broken up. It was chlamydia, easily curable, but it scarred me because I'd always been so careful (got tested 3 times as a virgin) and asked all the right questions.

    That guy and I broke up and a few months later I slept with someone else unprotected because I thought I was clean. I found out shortly after that there was a chance I'd gotten something, and I called the new guy up immediately to tell him there was a possibility. It was humiliating and horrible, but I wasn't about to lie to someone else like I'd been lied to. As it turned out, I was infected, as was my ex, but the new guy wasn't.

    Moving forward, I'd always be completely honest about my sexual health and I'd never even get in a situation to sleep with someone if I had something (except for herpes because it's incurable, but I'd certainly bring that convo up myself if I had it!) If it wasn't someone I was comfortable disclosing my past to, which is unlikely I'd be sleeping with him if that were the case, I don't think it's wrong to leave out my STD in the past. It's cured, I'm clean, and that's all he needs to know. If he doesn't trust me on that, then he can use a condom or not sleep with me, but that doesn't make my health history his business if it will no longer affect him.

  • The day I lost my virginity at 17 to a guy who I thought liked me and we didn’t use a condom I ended up getting an STD. And I was depressed and hurt for a long time. Ever since then I’ve been in 2 long term relationships I’m 24 now... I’ve told both the guys I was with what happened and my sexual history and I use condoms regardless since I take it very seriously after literally the worst possible way to learn a lesson. Luckily it was curable

    • The clap?

Most Helpful Guys

  • My motto for life is trust no one. You can never trust someone to tell you everything. Even still, they can be a carrier for it and have no symptoms yet the person who they sleep with will exhibit symptoms.

    Best way to approach sex is with a committed monogamous partner and both you and they have been checked for STDs.

    STD's can get you even if you managed to wear a condom and wash with hot soapy water after the fact. I know from experience. It's nothing more than an urban legend. Don't let it happen to you.

    I was lucky to only get Chlamydia and treatment was free because I'm in Canada, but still, the treatment hurt (8-10 inch syringe in the buttock) and it was embarrassing as f*** to have to explain that to my parents.

    • Sounds like you got gonorrhea or syphilis because of the shot in the buttocks chlamydia is usually pills

  • it's best to come clean about that sort of thing. STD's are no joke. I rarely have sex so I'm clean but if I ever gotten one I would tell my last partner (one who gave it to me) than would tell any partner I'll get in the future.

    here's a list of STD rates in USA link what get's me is some of them on certain years have gone down very far but always come back up. I do realize it's something like out of every 100k people though.

    here's a PDF on Canada link

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  • I would come clean. It's the right thing to do. PSA! As an adult, I feel I have to say! Use condoms!! Shower!! Lol. And use a penis health creme as it helps hydrate and moisturize the penis. We lotion up the rest of our bodies, why not our genitals? happy new year!

  • in some areas its the law to mention stuff like this . I don't have anything myself so no issue to worry about . as for future partners how do you know who is telling the truth ? so best advice is use a condom

  • Option D is the best answer. Most people tend to be honest when it comes to these things because it's the turning point of one's life, and it could destroy his future.

  • Ah... liars :(

  • Come clean in full it is much easier and leads to better relationship. If its a one time hookup and someone lies or doesn't tell that person should be fined or arrested for giving another disease to someone unknowing.

  • Ex LTR lied to me, im still negative and then she tried to blame PID on me, nope, U don't wipe yo azz, bitch U need a bidet not a antibiotic shot. Fukin newb!

  • i always make it a point to let any future partner know, just what the consequences would be if they lied to me about their sexual health.

    We have a laugh about it, and then I tell them I am deadly serious.

    I haven't been lied to yet.

  • Shockingly, I've NEVER heard someone say "Right before we had sex, he/she told me about his/her STD".

    But I HAVE heard SEVERAL times people say stuff like "That f***er didn't tell me about his herpes until we'd already been having unprotected sex for three months, when he had an outbreak".

    Fact: When faced with embarrassment and rejection, most people will simply lie regardless of the possibility that their lie will bring harm to others.

    • winner. but I'm sure every person on here is very honest and tells their partner well in advance of all the diseases they are carrying...lol

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