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I promised my boyfriend a threesome for his birthday...

My boyfriend of 2 years turns 20 in February. On his last birthday, I promised him a threesome with the girl of his choice if we were still dating the next year. A year has passed and he hasn't forgotten my birthday promise.. He hasn't chosen a girl yet, but he has said I can help choose. I'm kind of nervous because I've never had a threesome nor have I got past a drunken kiss with another girl. I seriously need help. Who do I pick? A random girl? A friend? A sorority sister? And how do I have a threesome? I'm not sure if I'll be comfortable doing anything with her. What do I have to do with her? What if she's sexier than me. Or gives better head? But maybe with a little liquid courage I'll be willing to give her some attention. Help please!
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Update... My boyfriend had been begging for a threesome for months before I promised that'd I would do one for his next birthday. It wasn't just a stupid idea of mine. Yes, I was kind of kidding when I made the promise, but he won't drop it.
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  • why did you promise this? did he ASK for a threesome? or did you just decide randomly that you will give a threesome in a years time?

    but a stranger is probably best so that you don't have those awekward, I f***ed you with my boyfriend moments, after the event.

    and if you play it right you might not have to do much at all to her, if she's there to do stuff to you while your boyfriend is plowing away, go online and find a kinky hot blond in your area who would be up for it, there is bound to be one, women tend to be a bit more willing for that sh*t than guys are. I'm not generalizing but every guy I know would be against a threesome if there single but I know a few girls who actively look for them.

    this time round though, try NOT promising stuff you don't want to do

  • Often this can be a huge mistake. Jealousy can get the better of you and you may resent him for a long time. This could happen if he pays too much attention to her instead of you, makes louder sounds, etc... I could write a book on this but instead I will say unless you are sure about wanting to do this don't.

    You should have a serious talk with him and apologize for offering and let him know how much you care for him and that you are afraid it would destroy your relationship.

    A possible sex gift that may be more comfortable for you could be taking him to a strip club and getting him a few lap dances or helping to give him one with a stripper at a club. That way there is no actual sex.

Most Helpful Girls

  • be rally careful with this. if you aren't 100 percent cool with another chick with your guy and your worried about these things threesomes have a high chance of ruining your relationship. I think you need to talk to him about it more. if your not 100 percent okay with it and don't think jealousy might get you down the road then tell him and ask him to back out. if he cares about you he will. and if you do go through with it make sure it's someone both of you don't know or there its gonna create more problems later. someone you will never see again. and make sure to set ground rules first

    • Couldn't have said it better.

    • This. Threesome isn't going to work if you're not into it. It's going to be awkward and uncomfortable, and from what you're saying, you're going to have jealousy and insecurity issues afterward that are probably going to cause huge problems.

  • Why would you promise such a thing? You're obviously uncomfortable with the sitution and it's kind of messed up that he would make you do something you don't want to do because of a stupid promise.

    But, I'll give you my one piece of advice: the rule of threesomes is that the third is always random.

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  • He should be willing to forgo it if you ask. You may have to do something else he loves to make up for it but a threesome is high risk emotionally. I would strongly recommend hiring a pro that neither of you know so when it's over, no matter what happens, you won't have to face that person again.

  • If you have second thoughts, tell him. If he cares for you, he will back out. Threesomes can be weird, they can be fun, but only if you both really want to do it. With second thoughts, you don't. Say so, he will drop it if he wants the relationship. If he won't, you guys got problems no matter who #3 might be...

  • If you back out, how will he react?

  • complete stranger you'll never see again.

  • Got a sister? Wincest!

  • I'd pick a friend for sure. Make sure she's hot though.

  • Look, if you're having second thoughts about this, don't go through with it. Once it's done and at the back of your mind is full of regret, your relationship will probably go downhill from there...

    If you don't decide to go through with it and he's still forcing you to, leave him.

  • You'll get comfortable.

  • Wow, some girls are dumb...

  • Why the hell would you promise such a thing?

    You already don't like it and you haven't even done anything yet. I think you need to let him know you're not interested.

    • she did promise... but she was f***ing stupid for suggesting it though

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