Guys do you care how many sexual partners your girlfriend had before you?

[lghulm]

I am asking this because I have seen it come up on other GAG questions that guys say "No guys want a girl who has had X number of previous sexual partners". I don't think this is true. Maybe it is an age thing - when I first started dating I wanted girls that were inexperienced, I thought that maybe they wouldn't want to be with me if they had been with men who were better. Now I think different. Actually I would prefer a girl to have had a few sexual partners before me, for one I think if she has had multiple partners she will know a good thing when she gets it and no longer be curious about trying other guys and two, will know better what pleases her and be able to share this information with me so that our sex life can be better. I have even dated an ex prostitute before (who was clean) who had slept with 100's of guys and apart from concerns about STD's (to which we got checked -clean and used condoms) I appreciated her skills in the bedroom and could accept that she was with me for me. For me I am happy if the girl has had 4 or more partners and to tell the truth would be more concerned if the number is lower rather than higher (although it wouldn't be a deal breaker whatever the answer was) anyone else think like me? Girls you can answer the questions from your perspective (with how many partners you would prefer you boyfriend to have had) and we will check if their is a difference in response.

[jlb03]

I can't speak for every guy, but most guys I talk to don't want a girl that's a complete slut. I remember two girls in particular, both had sex with the majority of my group of friends. They were basically looked at as being good for one thing. So if given the choice, around 5 mark would be cool. It shows she's not a complete prude, but she also has some respect for herself. So in return, I will have respect for her.

From my experiences, girls will lie about the amount of partners they had in the past. So asking her is probably worthless. I think for most girls, there are certain things to look for to narrow her number down a bit. Though, us guys will more than likely never know a girls true number.

[Anonymous]

The number of sexual partners doesn't matter so much to me as the nature of the relationships.

If a girl's only had sex with guys she was in a relationship with that she thought was going somewhere, then the number doesn't really matter to me.

If she's had an excessive number of partners (double digits) I'd wonder if sex really held much meaning for her anymore. But she'd have the opportunity to show me that.

If she's had one-night stands, friends with benefits, or any sort of other casual sex partners, then I'd doubt her ability to be faithful to me, and probably wouldn't get further involved with her.

[RebeccaSJ]

Hubby and I know each other's number, and he seems happy.

[Belgie]

It doesn't really matter to me, so long as she has had some experience.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I'd really prefer C or D. I don't care if they had sex, so long as they weren't screwing around casually. I prefer a girl who shares a similar view of sex as me. I.e. something you share with only someone you love and not quickly.

[normalice]

if it's something ridiculous (like 121,000 prior partners), I would probably be a bit hesitant (though I'd still do her).

But, it's hard to really draw a line between what is ridiculous and what is feasible. Also, the quality of the sex that they have had is a factor. If she had sex with a million guys each with a penis size of one cubic inch, that probably wouldn't bother me. If she gave a billion blow jobs but could never find a guy willing to put it in her ass and she really wants that, the blow jobs probably wouldn't bother me.

In so many words, there is more to it than just a number.

[temptationfalls]

I think it's more important to consider who she's slept with rather than how many

[justincider]

8 is the big number here? Most people in their mid 20s have slept with more people than that. I want my girlfriend to be somewhat experienced just so she has been through the full life cycle of discovering what she likes. I would only have real issue with a girl over 75 to 100 partners. I'm older, and that's still a lot, but at 40 that would mean a girl slept with 4 people a year or so once entering college. Its high but not ridiculous...

[Cryostatic]

By 40, at that rate, it would pretty much mean she's incapable of holding a relationship with anyone longer than a couple of months.

[lghulm]

yeah I had a higher number initially but then thought it sounded too high. According to statistics most women average around 7 in their lives is that right? Does sound low for women who don't spend most of their lives married I will admit. I think definitely a case that times may be changing although it could also be that people who have lots of sex (most likely the people we sleep with) don't actually represent all the older virgins, less confident people etc

[justincider]

Im assuming many of those are not relationships. That's like 1-2 bfs a year with anothr 1-2 hookups. Not really even slutty...

[Cryostatic]

Just saying, women who go through boyfriends at the rate of one or two a year, consistently, are either damaged goods or not actually looking for "boyfriends". People who look for serious relationships usually get a couple of years out of them, even bad ones.

[Cryostatic]

@ QA on averages - According to this link (sources cited in link) the median number of sexual partners for a woman aged 30-34 is 4.2, with about three out of ten respondants claiming over six, and one out of every three of those respondants claiming over 15.

[jokeriswild]

I voted E...but I would not want a woman who had had a hundred or more...other than that it really doesn't matter and yes...I agree with you that it is not as important as we sometimes read on GAG and that it becomes less important with age...