Why do we still label women who enjoy having sex often and with multiple partners as "sluts"?

I'm sure this has been asked before (if not many times) but I don't understand the reasoning behind it. We live in a time where things that were once considered "taboo" are becoming widely accepted by the masses (such as being gay or having fetishes) so why is it still so taboo for a girl to enjoy having sex and being promiscuous? Guys praise each other for going out and hooking up with hot girls and then turn around and call a girl a slut because she hooks up with guys. I mean, were all fully aware that a lot of men and women these days have had multiple partners so why do so many of us still hold on to the old school mentality that women who sleep around are sluts and floozy's. My opinion is that we are all human, we all have needs and to me its a turn on for a girl to know what she wants and be open about it.
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  • I personally don't think there's anything wrong with it, that people should be free to live how they want, and if I were single, I'd not rule out someone as a relationship partner because they had been.

    But why do people think that way?

    -> mating with lots of women was for most of our evolution a good evolutionary strategy. Mating with lots of men was a bad strategy. Not only did that likely impact our instincts, but also we may have an innate judgement of those following those strategies.

    -> I suspect men had two basic strategies. Strategy one is to have sex with any available female to have the maximum number of kids. Strategy two is to bond with one female who only has sex with you and raise the kids (which are presumably yours). I suspect men's instincts are to pursue - both- though they may be conditioned or decide not to pursue one. But they may instinctively categorize women. Women who are promiscuous they take their crack at impregnating (from an instinctive standpoint), but don't bond with because they can't trust it would be their kids. Men don't hate sluts, but those who put them down discourage their friends from actually dating them. Men seem to view promiscuous women as 'to be used'.

    -> women seem to hate sluts more. Which women? Women who are trying to use access to sex as bait to get men to settle down. Since a lot of society traditionally forced men to settle down to get access to sex, women who want a partner more then they want sex are angry when 'sluts' give away sex, which lets men not settle down, which leaves women like them single.

  • it's simply an old double standard based out of our/the worlds patriarchal society rules. Women are "supposed" to be chaste, pure, child bearers; while men are supposed to be able to do essentially whatever they want.

    Luckily those old lines have been largely erased and for the most part women are seen as sexual equals able to explore their sexuality as men do without judgement. However unfortunately some people still use the old paradigms in applying labels.

    In my opinion anyone who has sex or even hooks up with lots of people is a slut. Now I don't necessarily see the word slut as negative but more just a way to describe a behavior (just like coward, brave, intelligent, etc)

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  • Yeah it's a puzzle to me as well. It's not even that I want to hook up with a ton of guys, but even the few I have hooked up with I feel like I have to keep a secret because some guys are so sensitive. Even ONE is enough to break their fragile ego. I think it comes more from a position of control. They want to be the only one so that they don't get compared or have to worry about losing her. They want the girl who said no to every guy on the planet, but said yes to him quickly and easily. That girl rarely exists, and it's very unfair to expect that. We all want to take chances, and fall in love. If we're always so worried that this guy won't work out and the next guy will punish us for it? We'll just end up sleeping with no one. Or at least only picking the guys who don't give us such a hard time.

    • You are right about that. Guys these days have an ego made of tissue paper, it's ridiculous lol. Everyone is entitled to a past and even if you have sex just for the hell of it, it doesn't make you a slut, it makes you human.

    • Exactly. Somehow to those guys, it's very "understandable" why they want to sleep around even just for the fun of it. Some even go so far as to say "I'll screw a slut, but not date her. " What? How does that make any sense to condemn her for sleeping around, when you just said you'd screw her for fun? It's such backwards thinking, and I've thankfully only dated men with opinions like yours. The insecure guys can stay single, or with the other insecure girls.

    • I personally feel that if everyone could learn to just be open about things like sex, desire, wants and needs; we would all be MUCH happier. to me its a relief to be open and secure about sex and my body. I would like to see more people think as we do haha.

  • It's not okay to judge women like this but society tries to make it out to be alright.Some say this-A key that opens a lot of locks is a master key, but a lock that gets opened by a lot of keys is just a crappy lock.

    As a women I disagree with this but I guess there is nothing we can do to change this double standard.

    • Wow, I have never heard it put that way. I agree with you though, I would like to see it change. Women deserve to be happy just as well as men do.

    • Yes.I am kind of sad in this era,there are still so many judgmental people.One reason is because guys need to work hard and have a great social skill to sleep around but for girls It Is so much easier,regardless of her attractiveness.Still,calling girls slut is degrading.

    • I agree totally. Maybe if guys would work on their social skills they could sleep with whomever they wanted to as well lol. I say live free, love hard; life is short so enjoy youth while you have it. no one should judge you for that.

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  • I don't understand why it is so taboo with women wanting to be sexual. If men can then it should be OK for women too. Now the only problem I have is when people don't take the time to use protection. Be safe about it use birth control and men wear condoms.

    • good point, I agree 100%

    • Thank you

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  • It's like a business. Supply and demand sort of thing.

    Also, it's not common for women to go around bragging about what she did, unlike men.

  • So usale sluts will know which ones to ask out when we want to fuck

  • its an easy thing to put someone down for and girls love being catty towards each other so they continue the trend. its like how people think strippers are prostitutes.

  • It's wrong for anyone to be promiscuous - male or female. If everyone had only one sexual partner their whole life, there would not be be any STDs.

    • Thats the most unrealistic answer I have ever heard lol. Although you are right about STD's it's just plain unrealistic.

    • Plenty of people only have one partner their whole lives - so it's not unrealistic, it's totally doable.

    • But why just settle for one person your WHOLE life? When there are plenty of people who you can connect with, even at a sexual level.

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