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Guys, be BRUTALLY honest! Did child birth ruin the way her vagina feels for you?

Before I get any hate, I know childbirth is a miracle our bodies are blessed to do, BUT I want the men's brutally honest opinion on what THE VAGINA feels like AFTER giving birth. just strictly from a physical sexual standpoint. Tell me all about how different it was, both sensation wise & looks wise . I know it affects the woman, too, so women feel free to weigh in about how, if any, your sex life changed. Thanks
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  • I've spoken to many friends about this, so I can tell you what I've learned.

    The guys whos wives had c-sections, went through a much rougher birth (I think) from they way they described it. Real fear that something can go wrong. But months later, the sex and vagina were just as before.

    Guys whos wives had natural birth, can be split into two camps. If they watched the birth, or if they didn't. If they watched the birth, they seemed to suffer some psychological trauma. They don't go down on their wives as much. They don't have sex as much either.

    In either case, both of those groups tell me that it doesn't feel the same after childbirth. But some of the wives took up kegel exercises, which helped.

  • I was with one girl after she had a kid, and I have no complaints about how it felt. She seemed about the same how as most girls felt, maybe slightly better than average. I didn't pay attention to what it looked like. She was one of the top people I've been with sex wise, but it had to do with other reasons as well. She was 21 at the time and an ex, almost professional athlete if that matters.

    • Do you know for sure she had a vaginal delivery & not a C-section?

    • I'm pretty sure vaginally, didn't see a C-section scar.

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  • No matter how much women try to convince themselves or men that they are all the same is delusional. I often had threesomes with couples and flat out refused if the woman had a natural birth. And 9 times out of 10 the hubby would contact me and want just me because he missed sleeping with a real woman with a tight vag not some sloppy stretched out mess

    • That's mean dude.

    • Very mean but I think a lot of women who get sloppy don't take care of themselves. I will know because I want a baby real soon.

  • Well, if remember being tighter when I first had sex and so if after a while of having sex changes you then why wouldn't child birth do the same. Just sayin.

    • Because you don't get looser, you get relaxed the more sex you have.

    • @azzntittiz No - you get looser. I have years of experience to back that up.

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  • Ok I may be the scarce and weird one out but sex and feel of the vagina as well as the woman's body after childbirth is AMAZING (I don't want to start on that now lol so let's keep it to this)

    • Well that's great for the both of you!

    • It is - thank you :)

  • Been with several only after they had given birth (no c-sections), but not before. No major difference in feel and looks from those who hadn't given birth. Other than variations you are going to find among partners.

  • No, not in our case. The vagina is incredibly resilient and generally goes back to the way it was before childbirth.

  • My wife had 2 kids vaginally. And, while I won't say it ruined the way it felt for me, I will say it did change. She was looser. It just wasn't the same.
    I wish I could find it now, but I read an article by a female doctor who laid it out very plainly. (I was searching for something else, at the time, so I didn't bookmark it.) Her first paragraph was to introduce herself and lay out her credentials. Her second paragraph basically said this. Your doctor will tell you that things will go back exactly the way they were before childbirth. They lie. There is no way you can push something that big out of a hole that small without some changes. Of course, she goes on to say that you can still have a rewarding sex life. And you can have a good sex life. Just don't expect things to be just as they were.
    That extends to appearance, since you asked. For lack of a better description, it didn't have that nice, firm, pink, tidy appearance. Not bad, but not the same. Maybe others have a difference experience, but that was mine. I wish I had better news for you.
    One other thing I'll leave you with. Whether it's good or bad, I'll let you decide. Pretty much every doctor will tell you to wait 6 weeks after having childbirth before engaging in sex. That's to allow everything 'down there' to heal properly and get back to normal, as much as possible. It wasn't all that long ago (or maybe it was) that they also told you to refrain from sex for up to a month prior to childbirth. After a guy has gone 6 to 10 weeks without sex (other forms of gratitude notwithstanding), pretty much anything is going to feel pretty darn good. At that point, he just wants to get laid - good, bad or indifferent. So he isn't going to say that he doesn't want to have sex or that it was bad.

  • My wife is pregnant. After the birth, I will have that experience.,

    • Not trying to scare you. Some people are happy afterward, some aren't...just wanting non-sugar coated answers from the ones who aren't happy since it seems people are afraid to talk about it for fear of hurting someones feelings. This is an anon. way to share their true thoughts. There are procedures that can be done if she isn't happy with herself down there afterward after you're done having children.

    • well congratulations there!

    • Tnx

  • My wife’s has never been the same since she had our third child. The first two were fine... the last one just ruined it. I can’t even keep a hard on 75% of the time. I have never said anything to her but she obviously knows that something isn’t right bc we never had problems before... it’s getting to the point where having sex is just pointless... at least for me.

    • OMG... I feel the same way. I've always been on the thicker side. Prior to having kids (4), my wife was so tight that sex hurt (how lucky was I). After our first child it felt more comfortable. I refereed to her vagina after our second child as the "goldilocks pussy", not too tight, not to loose, just right. After our third, I thought to myself "what have I done". She ended up getting a vaginal rejuvenation about 14 years later. However she no longer has the ability to squirt after the procedure. Trying to make her squirt has reduced the effectiveness of the procedure also. Love my kids but I sure miss the integrity of my wifes pelvic floor. So girls, unless your guy has a fire hose in his pants stick with one or two kids tops... In the long run, you both will be less stressed and happier. Just my 2 cents.

    • I have had 4 babies and I am satisfying my fiance more then 13 years ago 🤷‍♀️ and I put my finger in and it is so tight... so I don't know every women must heal differently after birth...

  • I’m a woman who had one child with prolonged labor that ended with an episiotomy and forceps birth (even though they had pepped me for a c-section.) if I had known this could have been a possibility I would 100% have gone with the C-section. My vagina was never the same. Eventually the episiotomy separated and sex is too painful. My ex wanted a divorce when the baby was 18 months and I suspect this was why but he wasn’t open with me about it. My child is in her 30s now and I’m advising her to opt for a c-section to save her vagina and her marriage.

  • My wife and I just had a little girl 9 weeks ago. I can not understand for the life of my why her vagina is tighter. Im so confused, I’m on a message board looking for answers lol it’s been painful for her up until this last time. I finally forced myself deeper and she said the pleasure outweighed the pain. All this tome I was trying not to hurt her and was only giving her short jabs lol.. I see that some of you have stated that the 3rd child is usually when the changes start. If sex continues to be like last time, we make get to number two sooner than later 🥴

  • I live where prostitution is legal and have been with close to 100 women many of whom had kids and I can tell you it's a total myth. there's no difference in feeling.

  • Yes

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