How many sexual partners is too many?

[xowingox]

How many sexual partners is too many depending on age? How old are you and how many people have you slept with? What do you think is too many and just right?

[Anonymous]

If every person had sex with the same amount of people you've had sex with

at 36 then your really having sex with 100's of people.About 200, no seriosly don't worry about "too many" there isn't an rules that say how many a woman should sleep with, you think men worry about too many, no they don't so why should women? look as long as she didn't cheat or have stds, it really doesn't matter at all.There is no such thing as too many partners. With experience comes skill. I think people should just avoid the whole "numbers"conversation, it's so shallow and unnecessary. If you're concerned about sexual health and STDs, you should know it just takes one partner to contract an STD and assume anyone you have sexual contact with could potentially have an STD.

[EverythingReal]

I think of it this way, if you have multiple partners in a year, to me that screams that you can't hold down a serious relationship for long.

So when I hear a number, I think of it in relation to how old they are and how long they have been sexually active. As a general rule of thumb I prefer guys who have been with three or preferably less.

I'm 18 and I've been with one.

[Anonymous]

I'm 36 and slept with 4 guys. I have to admit that knowing that a guy has had sex with 15+ women is a turn-off for me, just like it would be a turn-off if he had slept with only one, or if he was a virgin (keep in mind I'm 36). I think the number I'd like to hear most is somewhere between 3 and 7 maybe. But to be honest, I don't really ask.

[NormaTavish]

Well I'm in my 40's and I've lost count. I slept with a lot, but i can understand why some women prefer only a few. I don't think their is such a thing as too many, unless you mean at the one time lol.. then 4. Just do what you think is best and let everyone else find their own number :)

[Anonymous]

I do have a number in my mind, but I feel like a lot of girls go over it, so I'll keep it to myself. Though if what madhatters is right about the study, then maybe girls really don't go over it. I would be very surprised if that information was true. Anyway, it doesn't matter how old you are to me because if you are still racking up numbers in your late 20s, 30s, or 40s, you're probably not the settling down type anyway. At the very least, the girl just makes horrible decisions and I wouldn't want to be apart of that.

[madhatters4]

this is really a personal preference sort of question. Some guys and people may find more than 5 partners wrong some may think there is no number that is too high.

Statistically speaking in America

-91% of women have fewer than 15 partners in a lifetime.

-the average number of partners for women between 25-44 is 4

[madhatters4]

correction: the average American woman has 4 partners in their lifetime (per a 2007 study)

[justme20]

Its actually equal. Men and women both on average have 7 partners. This was based on a worldwide study of over 300 million people who participated. We talked about it in psychology class and watched a video on it. Women tend to lie about their numbers (in reality being higher) and men tend to lie as well (numbers tend to be lower)

[madhatters4]

hmm, I don't know. I saw that for mean the average was more like 7or8 and woman was 4. not gonna argue though. Kind of funny, the averages are far lower than what most people consider too many

[heavenonearth]

There's no set number, it's just whatever you're comfortable with. The important thing is to make choices you can live with and be safe.

[crazyn3030]

This question is to each it's own. To be honest with you I think it's mainly women that count how many guys they been with. I don't know of any guys that can answer how many women they been with I mean I'm pretty sure there are but it's not too many. But to answer your question if you been with 10 guys and you are 20 who cares I mean the only ones who know are you and God.

[justme20]

I don't look at numbers and I can careless about them. As long as I'm clean and he is clean I don't care if he has been with 100 women and I have been with 100 men. As long as he is safe doing it and vice versa.

im 21 and slept with one guy currently.

[tom-tom-traveler]

Agreed. Safety first, but beyond that enjoy sex at your discretion.

[justme20]

yep and the past is the past. Your past shouldn't make up who you are when you grow up in the future

[abw121290]

I don't think there is a right number. Each person is going to be different, and as long as the other partner wasn't forced into sex or something he or she didn't want to do, it shouldn't matter. I don't judge women by the number of partners they have had.

[justincider]

50+

[MouthyMerc]

I concur

[justincider]

Its not a hard number, but would be hard to justify above that range.

[Konnour]

When you're taken any more than one is too much

[Magendoz]

I think its never too many ;)

I m 32

i had 16 girlfriend and now my wife

and for the one night stand was something like 8

and a 3some twice ;)

[LOVEEEEEEEE]

For me, I think that over 5 is too many, doesn't matter what age, I don't know maybe I'm too prude but that's just my opinion.

I haven't slept with anyone.

[Lj237]

i would say that's being a prude :p

[Anonymous]

age 20: 5

[Anonymous]

I don't think that there should be age and sexual partner correlation. Unless you get an std from someone then in that case it was that person one too many.

[Anonymous]

Personally, that's not a number that I base on age.

If you slept with six people in relationships that you thought were going somewhere, and you had four one-night stands, then that's four people too many.