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Ladies, if that social stigma on women having casual sex disappears...

would you engage in more casual sex, or no? i believe that stigma is what is causing women to be so sexually hypocritical today. as is been proven by science that us men and women's sex drive functions the same. but because of this, I believe this stigma forces women to feel miserable about it instead. thus making them feel abundance of guilt in expressing their sexual desires and wanting just sex in general, causing them to be more confusing and thinking they are really in love with a guy who they just probably want to have sex with. which altogether it paves the way for all this flaws and complexity most young women have today, such as always starting a relationship with the wrong guys, always rushing into marriage and these other insanity you hear, read and see in the media and society on a daily basis
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  • Before you call anything "proven", you should provide the necessary sources for your statement. I do not know a single study that would call men's and women's sex drive functions "the same". A scientific approach to this theme is described in the book "Psycho-social Influences on Female Sexuality" by Dr. A. Lehmann, dissertation under the supervision of Prof. Dr. D. Kleiber, Prof. Dr. S. Gruesser, Freie Universität Berlin, Berlin 2007.

    The same book also states that women prefer to stick with one trustworthy partner and fulfill their sexual desires with him rather than having a high number of different partners.

    The idea that the "social stigma" keeps women from living their sexuality is also wrong as stated in "Weibliche Sexualität: Die Libido und ihr weibliches Schicksal" (Female Sexuality: Libido and its female destiny), by Dres. Dolto and Kouki, LGF: 1997. Our perception of sexuality seem to be much more dictated by our natural sex than by the social gender as many men would like to see it. As stated in "Die Strukturen der Herkunftsfamilien weiblicher Transsexueller" (The structures in the families of female transsexuals) the sexual behavior of homosexual men and women is very close to the "standard" sexual behavior of their own sex while they adapt many aspects of the social behavior of the other sex. Therefore sexual behavior is way less a social structure than we think.

    The idea that women also like to have many partners in order to fulfill their sexual desires is a male construct and fantasy as stated by W. Faehndrich in "Die Mann - Frau - Neurose: Zur Psychologie von Liebe und Abhängigkeit" (The Man-Woman-Neurosis: About the Psychology of Love and Dependence). Women would, be their sexuality freer, prefer to express it with a partner they trust.

    To keep it short: Most women would probably not have more "casual sex" but rather express their sexuality within the bonds of a relationship to a trustworthy partner.

  • You're missing the fact that the majority of women don't want, and can't HAVE casual sex. I don't mean they can't get laid, I mean they can't have casual sex without developing feelings and wanting a relationship, even if they didn't want one in the beginning. And since they know (if they have any brains or experience) that they won't be GETTING a relationship, it just makes them feel hurt and used.

    Women are NOT like men. Most men can separate sex from emotions, and we can enjoy casual sex without having to involve emotions. Most women simply can't do this.

    Sure, there are some that can, absolutely. Many of them have messed-up pasts, full of abuse (mental, emotional, physical, sexual), or are addicts of some kind (drugs, alcohol, etc.), but a few are just able to separate their feelings like guys can. They are the exception, though, and most women aren't like this at all. They need to have an emotional connection with the guy in order to enjoy sex, and they aren't going to get that from casual sex.

    While there is still SOME stigma for women having casual sex, its NOTHING compared to the past. It's far easier and faster to change social attitudes than it is to change biological responses.

    • This is not true for all women I've bet some that just wanted to bag a guy did and moved on the guy was like she didn't call me ! I've felt that way once for one guy it's true what you say for some women but not all of them .

    • Of course there are exceptions. There always are. That's why I said "the majority of women" instead of "all women." There simply isn't room to list every potential exception when posts are limited to 3000 characters and still get your point across; you often have to make generalizations. Generalizations are understood not to be absolutes.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I wouldn't, personally

    And I know countless girls who are promiscuous, let guys run trains on them or went to sex orgies(all of this in HS, yay for public school)

    The only women who truly care about the stigma are feminists and to them it's about getting rid of the idea that a woman who takes charge of her sexuality/body is somehow a lesser person.

    • oh I noticed that a lot on feminists. but makes me wonder, what exactly are they trying to accomplish?

    • I already said they want to get rid of the idea that a sexually active woman is a lesser person(whore/slut)

    • but what exactly makes them think this way?

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  • As a new single women I still have the desires of wanting a man in those aspects. However I have no desire to have multiply partners. I know that isn't really what you are asking or even suggesting but I will say I would be open to finding one person to have the occasional night of passion without strings attached and no complications of a relationship.

    • lol! I must warn you that, that is not a good idea

    • probably not... ;)

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  • I don't think most people can see outside the world they live in.

    So, you're not going to get the truth here, just opinions.

    For that stigma to disappear, there's a considerable amount of social change that needs to happen, churches and religions need to change or vanish, for instance.

    So, yeah, of course if the stigma was gone there would be more casual sex having wimminz. God forbid they admit that though.

  • Not really

  • I don't think it would reflect the numbers on a wide scale, because most of the social stigma is a result of private information they choose to share with others and results in people judging them and the story possibly spread around or even fabricated.

  • no I don't do it because I feel bad after if it turns out the guy doesn't have feelings for me.

    • but that is the point of casual sex. having sex with no commitments

    • i know but some people only like it in a committed relationship. it isn't because of society for me, it's my own feelings and preferences.

  • Lmao women engage in casual sex anyway. I think a lot of them just don't care about that stigma.

    • well yes. on the down low obviously. but they still seem pressure by it in the social world

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