Last longer doing 69 than regular sex?

[Anonymous]

My man is a quick cummer. Always has been. (I mean, maybe lasts a minute. MAYBE.) But he's always made sure I get off at least once prior to sex, so it has never really bothered me. It bothers him, though. He says he just gets "too turned on" with me. I don't think it's so much that I'm uber hot or amazing in bed, but I kinda suspect his sex life with his ex sucked ass and he probably hasn't been with someone who showed enthusiasm in like a decade. So the other night I went down on him for the first time and then he asked me to reposition so we'd be in a 69. I'm guessing we went at it like that for like 20-30 minutes. Long enough I started wondering if he was ever going to get off. And it wasn't a boring, mechanical 69 or anything. It was hot as hell. It really surprised me he lasted so long. Don't get me wrong, I am *not* complaining! I kinda thought something that erotic would make it harder to last long. What do you think happened? Why last so long during 69 when barely last at all during regular sex? What makes the difference? Any way to incorporate some of those differences into regular sex?

[Sovereign1979]

I happen to last less as long during oral than sex. But I do have decent control with it comes to either. I have the ability to tell her when giving me oral that I am getting close, and if she wants to suck more, she stops. If she wants a mouthful, she takes it. During sex, if she is on top. I don't get close as fast. If I am on top, there is times I do get close, but I stop or slow down to make it last longer. Usually it is not at times of her orgasm. But the longer I go, I ususlly build up a resistance so to speak. But during her orgasm, I normally have to slow down atleast, because her contractions and pressures get a little tough to handle, but as long as I am still moving, she finishes. Then my resistance kicks in and its a pound fest from there on out.

But I may have a reasonable answer for you. During 69, or mutual "same time" oral, there is a level of concentration taken from the "receiving" department and given to the "giving department". Meaning, while he is licking you, he may not be concentrating as hard on how good it feels for him. Hence is why it took longer for him to cum.

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[kheserthorpe]

I last longer during oral then anything else.

Any way to incorporate? Sure. Have a vagina that's as loose as your mouth.

Honestly, I hope he can accept (as you do) that overall your sex life may be better then average. You both get off, its hot, you're both enthusiastic.

He'd like to last longer - maybe to 'please' you, maybe because sex feels good for him so he'd like more too. Fair enough. Best resource for him to learn that I'm aware of is the premature ejaculation subforum at pegym. Its better than any book out there. Message me for specific stuff. But you two are -definitely- coming from the right mental space - that you both enjoy sex now, that it would be fun if sex could last longer, and you're willing to work on making that happen - but its not a disaster when it doesn't happen.

[Asker]

Thanks - I'll check out the pegym thing and message you after I look at it. Why last longer during oral than anything else? What's the difference? Different physical stimulation? A mental thing? I literally laughed out loud at your "have a vagina that's as loose as your mouth" comment. I kinda assumed that with the actual suction + tongue pressure that the mouth would actually feel tighter. Not so much, huh?

[kheserthorpe]

Physical stimulation in my case. It is possible that technique matters, I haven't received oral from that many women. Also speed is for me a significant factor. Unless I'm basically f***ing her mouth fast, it feels 'exquisite' but has less intense drive to orgasm.

[Selena777]

Dont think about it and enjoy it girl! ;))
My man found out that with penetration, the masturbation practice and xperform spray helps.
Although I was my man could last longer with 69, i love that position i can't lie :)

[temptationfalls]

I last way longer during oral sex than vaginal sex.

[Asker]

Why last longer during oral than anything else? What's the difference? Different physical stimulation? A mental thing?

[AnonGuy]

Mouth is different than vagina. You think it's the same?

[hannibal214]

when your **** is in a p**** it is being continuously stimulated (that's what the vagina is designed for, after all, to make the man come), whereas your mouth does not provide the same stimulation to the penis. you can't wrap your tongue 100% around his d***, but your vagina can. I last longer during a blow job than I do during P in V sex