Guys: Love or Lust?

[Anonymous]

I have a couple of question regarding love and lust... For guys is the line between love and lust a thick or thin line... or is a line that is blurry which you can't make up your mind and it could be both... Is it true guys usually decided if its love after sex... and if its not how does a guy decided what is love and what is lust? How can you tell if a guy loves you or lust for you.. Can lust change to love? Also if the guy knows you love him and you have sex with him, is there a chance he could fall for you? If a guy says he love you and says he doesn't want to hurt you anymore (something that happen in the past) but sometimes he usually talks about having sex with you on the phone but once he is in front of you (when its only you and him) he doesn't say anything... and acts like a friend... is it love or just lust? Also is this order correct for you guys... like then lust then love.. You like a girl... then you lust for her... then you love her...

[cool_dude369]

Yea. there is clearly a thick line between lust and love. we can have lust for anyone but Love for only that special someone. lust may change into love.

NO ONE decides if its love or lust. Love just happens. you even don't know if you are in love.there is not way a guy decides if its love. yea if its lust he will just have sex with you. that's it.

>> how to tell if a guy loves you or lusts you.. again. lust is all abt sex . Love is about taking care, its a different feeling. You can have sex with someone you love but you can't love someone whom you have sex with.

"Also if the guy knows you love him and you have sex with him, is there a chance he could fall for you?" --> it depends on you if you really love him, care for him. he will fall for you, again sex is not needed to make him fall.

for the other thing.. the guy is not having a lust . because if he had he would have straightaway jumped on you , had sex and its over.

when he is in front of you he is nervous and afraid that any of his move can get you far from him. I think its not lust maybe he likes you. I'll tell you something.. guys can talk anything to any girl with total confidence but for the girl they love. they just are so much afraid to loose her.

for me.. there is no lust in the order. I like a girl... I love her with all my heart. I hope this solves your doubts.

Thank You.

[thetunasucks]

There is a thick line between. I lust for any hot girl I see walking down the street, when in reality she could be the biggest b*tch ever. I don't think you necessarily have to have sex with a girl to love her. I'm sure if you have a relationship for long enough you will love a girl and there may be no sex involved at all. You can tell if a guy loves you if he wants to be around you, calls you, misses you. Although you have to watch out because it may all be to get in your pants. The order I'd say goes lust, like, then love. First there has to be a physical attraction of some sort(lust) then you get to know and like her and then that like grows deeper into love. Most men are not very eager to fall in love that's why there is a thick line.

[all_hayl]

It’s not that cut/dry. Depends on how old/mature you are. When you’re young and your penis does all of your thinking, it’s easy to confuse the two. When your older, your penis still does some of the thinking, but it becomes easier to identify when that’s happening and to make better choices. My penis still talks to me all the time, but I’ve learned (over time) to realize it and ignore it. From what I hear, though this isn’t exclusive to guys. I’ve been told the vagina sometimes speaks, too - but just maybe not as loudly.