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Is my boyfriend having a small penis reason to break up with him?

My boyfriend's penis is only about 4 inches long and I am used to guys that are bigger. He is still able to make me orgasm during sex it's just not as big or as sexy as I like it to be. I know this may seem kind of dumb But I just think the big ones are sexy as hell. Because I am used to the bigger guys oral sex for him is Crazy good for him. I can easily take him all the way in and he really loves that It's just that I think I would be more turned on with a guy that is bigger and I think I would be more sexually active. It's almost to the point where all I do is give my boyfriend blowjobs because I can deep throat him so easily and it takes a lot off work for him to make me orgasm during sex So it's just easier to give him head And then make myself orgasm other ways. I know this may sound dumb but if I'm not happy with his size is this a reason to break up with him?
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  • Do you love him or a big penis more? What you have said here is that you prefer a big penis to him. So based on that, breaking up would be best for you, and also for him, so that he can move on to someone who loves him, not a big penis.

    "It's almost to the point where all I do is give my boyfriend blowjobs because I can deep throat him so easily and it takes a lot off work for him to make me orgasm during sex." It does not sound like he finds it to be a lot of work to make you orgasm, but rather that you find it a lot of work putting up with what you find to be a less satisfying experience. So now you blow him and then get yourself off. Not a great future there. So unless you suddenly grow up and find that he is more important than his penis, do both of you a favor and cut the ties.

  • It's a reason if you think it is, but think about it the other way:

    How would you feel if a guy broke up with you because your boobs were too small, or your vagina too loose, or because you wouldn't shave it, or something like that. It would probably seem like a really shallow and selfish reason to break up, and you'd be right. Your reason is no different.

    Still, you are entitled to be shallow and selfish if you want to be.

    • Mr Oracle is right.

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  • I think what you should really be asking is "If I'm not happy with his size is this a reason to /look for ways to improve our sex life?/"

    The issue here is that you're used to men who are larger. It's not that being larger is 'right' or 'normal' but simply that its what you're used to. Try thinking outside the square on this one, because there are things that guys with smaller cocks do better than their larger friends.

    Work on your kegel exercises. If you have reduced feeling during sex then it means you're not tight enough. It would annoy him as much as it does you.

    But if you can't be bothered doing this stuff then yeah break up with him. People deserve good sex and if you're not prepared to try and have good sex then you shouldn't have sex with him at all.

  • Why did you even date him in the first place? This all could have been avoided.

    There's nothing wrong with liking what you like.

    But if you know off the bat, a man doesn't have what can satisfy you, you are only setting your relationship up for failure if you decide to "settle" for it or "work with it."

    Entering into a relationship you have to make sure the guy can satisfy you both physically and emotionally.

    I think you should break up with him if you feel your sex life is suffering or he isn't fulfilling you.

    If you continue to stay in this relationship you will grow even more happy or perhaps even cheat on him.

    Break him with him, but don't tell him why.

    You will crush his self esteem and maybe manhood.

    • *break up with him.

    • How awkward would it be for them to see their genitals during the first date?

    • Not during the first date, but I'm sure she knew he had a small penis before they had sex over and over with each other. No matter when she saw it, she still did early on and could have stopped things there.

  • If you break up with him over this you're shallow. He uses it right, gets you off and has absolutely nothing wrong aside from your standard. Seriously? There are far worse things

    • Best answer.Your a real woman.

    • Thank you :)

    • I'm going to say something that you're not going to like. You will Pobably disagree with me becase I'm a guy. I looked this topic up because my ex broke up with me because I am disabled and I have a really small penis. Even know it was not an issue at the start and she even said it was not an issue because I've always had a complex about it. I am single now and heart broken. I have given up on women because my manhood has been ripped into pieces all because she prefers a big cock. Why was it ok in the beginning? I don't except the excuse of the honeymoon period because my disability and size has remained the same and if it wasn't a problem in the beginning then it shouldn't be a problem at the end. She did take a lot of my money though so fuck it. I'll settle for hookers and self satisfaction. Love does not exist in this superficial world. My opinion is that you are not a real woman, you are disrespectful just like my ex was and it makes people so depressed. You should be ashamed

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  • Break up with him and date a black guy then if you like big d*** that much.

  • Skipping almost everything you said here the key is this; If YOU are NOT Happy break up and move on as it would be best for the both of you.

  • You are shallow, they make silicone sheaths that he can wear to extend the length just get one of those..

  • "it's just easier to give him head And then make myself orgasm other ways."

    Maybe you could work with him to find other ways he can help you orgasm (even though you said yourself that intercourse with him does that). Guys with small size can often compensate with good technique, so work with him on that and keep an open dialogue.

  • That cannot be the only reason...there has to be something else...like on a more deeper/emotional level than his penis size...

    That's like me breaking up with a girl because her hoohah looks ugly...geez. :P

  • Well you could break up with him. If you're not satisfied something has to change, but if everything else is good, maybe you should just consider finding a bigger lover, and keeping your relationship in tact.

  • I think the fact you ask this question shows the right answer for you... that you prefer an equally great guy just who is larger in the pants ; ). Honestly, in a relationship sexual satisfaction is really important and how your partner looks plays a role. For me I prefer women with smaller breasts and some guys want it hard for women to get through the door. Neither I nor another guy are right or wrong, it's just what turns us on.

  • Sure. Just don't cower away and safe face by lying about the real reason you're breaking up. Let him know the facts so you can be labeled as what you are. Own up to your wants. It's disgusting when women break hearts like thugs then walk away like angels.

  • If you just want him for someone to sleep with it would make sense to dump him but in my opinion it would be a very lame reason to dump someone. Though if you truly liked the guy for more than his penis size you wouldn't break up with him over it.

  • If you love him and he can make you orgasm then there is no issue. If you are only attracted to bigger d***s you may find sexual happiness but may lose out on the right guy. 5 inches is average so 8 or 9 is beyond average , he maybe a little smaller than you'd prefer but do you love him or only the sex?

  • I think this is an issue that could be worked around, rather than something to break up over, but if you feel that it's so fundamental that you can't compromise on, you have every right to end it.

    I'm not going to lie. If he finds out, his self esteem will be crushed. But I'm not going to insult you for what you're attracted to. We're all attracted to different things and we can't control it.

    It's the way of the world.

  • So shallow.

  • It sounds like you want to date a penis.

  • I think it's a little shallow, especially if you are satisfied by him.

  • If he still satisfies you, I don't see what's the problem. If you think you can't handle the fact that he's too small, then maybe you should think about whether you really want to be with him or not.

  • Actually, you liking bigger penises should be enough for him to break up with you. Why would he want to be with a woman who prefers the size of another man? What does she have to offer other than grief?

    Your probably better off finding a man with a penis that matches your vaginal size. Then you can be as content as you can be.

  • SIZE MATTERS! Break up now! I have been dumped for being 6 inches and slightly bigger around than a super plus tampon..but some women need more penis to fill them up and feel good

  • The phrase "nothing good comes easy" (sorry for the pun). If he's working hard (there's going to be a lot of puns in this... I don't mean to, honestly) to please you that should mean something for you.

    At the end of the day you have to weigh things out if you'll be happy with all aspects of your relationship with him.

  • omg so shallow and slutty. he was stupid to date you in the first place.

  • if you love him then you would be able to over look it. But if not, and you really are attracted to bigger d***s like MANY other girls out there. Then time to move on, I find it funny how if a guy will only date a girl with tight p**** and big t*ts its normal, but a girl only wants a guy with a big d*** its "shallow" let me tell you something any guy who will tell you that has a tiny d***.

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