Still A Virgin Despite Masturbating?

[Anonymous]

If you have never had sex but you have masturbated are you still a virgin? I haven't ever had sex with a guy. A guy has NEVER fingered me or gone down on me either. However, I have masturbated, does that mean I'm not a virgin anymore? Will sex hurt me when I have it and will I bleed? Or because I've masturbated it won't hurt and I won't seem like a virgin? Thing is, I'm afraid that my boyfriend who knows I'm a virgin won't believe me when he has sex with me because I've masturbated. And NO I am NOT telling him I've masturbated. That's my personal business, not his. It's been months since I have though because I decided not to do it anymore until I have sex for the first time. Please enlighten me on this.

[WayTooPopular]

Technically you're a virgin until your cherry is popped, which is probably impossible with just your fingers so you are very likely considered a virgin from a medical, physical, technical standpoint. You're still going to be virgin tight unless by 'using your fingers' you meant the whole hand.

Whether you consider yourself a virgin is up to you, you have to decide whether sex with yourself really counts. Probably 99% of people on the planet would say it doesn't, if that helps. For example, just about every guy jacked off long before he ever got to do a girl. Who's going to say that a guy who has only screwed himself is not a virgin?

If you're religious, you'll have to look up how your religion treats the whole thing.

Lastly, gotta say if you're going to have sex with your boyfriend, it kind of is his business that you've masturbated. I'm not saying you have to tell him straight up, I just mean if you're in a sexual relationship and he asks you if you've ever done anything to yourself, you need to be honest (unless you want him to just lie about his own sex habits too, which is a trade guys will gladly take, trust me).

[jdaobfan]

The "cherry pop" idea is not technical or medical. You're a virgin until a guys penis has been in your vagina!

[oldmaninthemoon]

you all ready know the answer to this . If you still have a hyman then your still a virgin. Women could asnwer this beter but I'm prety sure that one finger or a tampon won't be enough to brake it. Yes sex could very well hurt the frist time but should hurt only for a short time if you hurt after and later when you have sex again then you may have to go get it' your hyman cut' sometimes they won't brake and I've heard that its coses a lot of pain. When you are ready make sure that your both wet down there this is very importance. Take your time and make sure that your turned on. I'm sure he will be and that's easy to tell LOl Good luck Ray

[thatssotera]

You are still a virgin until you have vaginal intercourse with a guy. This is the overwhelming conclusion on Kicesie's blog (feel free to look her up!). I am a virgin and I masturbate. I have quit and then come back to it off and on.

If you masturbate enough, it is possible that it won't hurt as much your first time, and that you can loosen up things. I have heard of people getting their hymen broken by a guy fingering them, so I suppose it's possible to break your hymen by masturbating, but I would suggest not worrying because your finger is not gonna do it.

The first time I orgasmed, I was with one of my boyfriends, and it was really embarrassing because I had no idea what to expect. You should be lucky if you've had this experience by yourself. It's probably better than having your first with some guy who you don't even like all that much that you want to have your first orgasm with him. Nothing like feeling obligated to stay with somebody for life who treats you like crap.

I think a quarter of girls bleed the first time, and a lot of them will bleed on the 3rd or 4th time instead of the first.

[katiesmuff]

My Dear Janine:

Sweetheart you are most definitely still a virgin, and will always be a virgin until a male would enter you.
Sex should not hurt the first time or any time, it is suppose to be a very pleasurable thing. Problem is so many youngsters like yourself want to hurry the process of growing up and have sex before you know very much about it at all and generally the same for your partner.

Tell your boyfriend to keep his thing in his pants for a few more years and then only if you are sure should you begin to have sex and just take it slow and easy. Would be nice to wait until you are married, but that almost never happens any longer.

Masturbate to your hearts content, or have your boyfriend do it for you, either case at the end of the night you are still a virgin and GOOD FOR YOU!

[melissarose8585]

Physically, no. As in, you no longer have a hymen, which is how they used to measure virginity. But most of us lose that through regular activity before we're ever sexually active. But yes, you are a virgin until you actually have sex with a man. Or at least, that's always been the way I thought of it.

But one part of your post worries me, and tells me that you're probably not ready for sex yet. You said you would never tell your boyfriend you masturbate. Well, if you have sex with him, you should be able to discuss those things with him. You should be comfortable enough with him that the subject could be broached if you do become sexually active with him. Just something I thought I'd say.

[Simple-Simonette]

Don't fret, you are still a virgin.
Most female masturbation is clitoral stimulation, which means there is no penetration. Though I really don't care to hear anymore details - I'm sure the since your only partner has been yourself - you are still a virgin.
If you're concerned about your hymen - most women end up without one due to normal physical activities.
Please practice safe sex. Birth control AND condoms.

[archer86]

Sex is when TWO people get involved. If fingers did count, then nobody would be virgins as pretty much everyone has masturbated at one time or another before having full sex with a partner.

Virginity is not broken until you have sex with a partner. Plain and simple.

There will be some pain for your first time, but other than that, you should go into this with acceptance and the quest for pleasure. Not strictly for his benefit.

That's right ladies, you heard that from a MAN!

[Lesae]

You are still a virgin. No fingers are much smaller than most guys, you will bleed a little but make sure you are with the right guy. Do it because you love him not because he wants you to. Do it for the right reasons.

[dreday]

Well depends, do you have a vibrator? If you just use your fingers I'm sure you will feel a bit of pain. Seriously he won't notice.

[Chrissy0038]

Noooo HE WONT EVER NOTICE
unless you masturbated to a point where ur p**** looks like it ain't BRAND new =]] lol
but if you have or don't have a hymen that doesn't matter like you can tell him you popped ur cherry while doing the splits! ohh by the wayy that has nuthin to do with it Ur still a virgin if a Penis hasn't entered ur vagina... Ur A Virgin! butt omgg all this bull shit on bleeding and sex hurting you don't bleed you drip 2 or 3 drips of blood it hurts a LITTLE for like 15 minutes the mostt well depends on the penis size but you feel more Pressure than pain.. =]

[vortexofdoom97]

You're a virgin in my book till you share that feeling with someone else. Nothing else to say.

[johnsmith2116]

Maybe it will bleed a little, but maybe not. You won't know until you do it.

But yes, you're still a virgin. You only lose it after you've been intimate with another person. ;-)

[Nerdyangelgirl]

Actually, it isn't supposed to bleed. If you bleed the first time, it means you aren't turned on enough and you actually have been torn.

[imin34]

Well, it depends on your religion (if ur religious) or it depends on what you think. I consider people that only masturbate virgins. You are not a virgin if you have been with another person and have had sex. But hey, that's just me :)

[paigep929]

i consider you a virgin until you have sexual intercourse with a guy

[Thatguy16]

OK so no you are still a virgin even thought you masturbate. You loose your virginity only after you are penetrated by a mans penis. And yes it will probably still hurt a little when you do have sex for the first time Hutu shouldn't bleed because you probably broke your hymen because of you masturbating but that may not be the case.
Hoped this helped, if you need any more info just comment;)

[bigascanb]

your still a virgin no matter how many times you masturbate

[csester]

Masturbated how?

You'd have to insert something rather bulky to break your own hymen but it's always a possibility...

[luv3ly]

Omg that krazii because I had the same ?
& I hav been fingered lik 3times 4b, but I hav never had sex, some1 fingerin u, can that tak ur vchip?
Am I still a virgin?

[katiegal]

U are

[FierceWhisper]

I completely agree with what the two posts before me say. You're fine, so just relax :).