How to tell my guy I want him to dominate/rape me during roleplay.

I have been wanting my guy to to this for ages. We have steamy sex, and it can get rough, but how do I tell him I want to role play rape?

I know it sounds weird, but I have a always wanted to do this. I want him to do unspeakable tings to me.

So how do I tell him I want to have such extreme sex?

Updates:
I am not into painful sex!

I am just into the whole blindfolding, and hand cuffing. I just like it when a guy can to dirty things to me, where I can not do anything to make him stop.

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  • You do have to understand that rape is something men are constantly reminded is horrible. It's something we are taught is very very very f***ed up. Just the idea of raping someone you care for is really really uncomfortable, so he's got to know it's something you really want him to do for you. You also need to tell him it's not a masochism thing it's a submission thing, you want to be dominated not hurt, so you should make that clear before any raping begins between you two or you could literally suffer the consequences.

    To get him to do it to you, just ask him. Get a few beers in the both of you, and give him a giftwrapped box with handcuffs inside. Say "Look I already paid good money for these so they're going to have to get broken in."

    So basically the stuff he needs to hear is:

    1)This is a big fantasy for you, you'll love it no matter how it goes

    2)You want to be dominated not beaten

    3)You want him to do whatever he wants to you

    If you plan on fighting back or something as part of it he's going to need to know too. Same thing if you plan on saying no or stop during the whole thing.

    Also you gotta be aware when you tell a guy "Do whatever you want to me" that they just might and guys are a lot more creative about doing stuff to you than you are, trust me. Be ready is all I'm saying, if he's into anal porn and you don't like the idea, you might want to clear that up or he'll go for it after you say something like that.

    If he still doesn't want to do it, offer to trade fantasies. You'll do whatever for him if he does this for you. Tell him you'd remember him for the rest of your life if he made this dream come true for you.

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    • Another thing: you're obviously shy about telling him this. Think of it this way: "I want you to tie me up and do whatever you want to me." is literally something guys only hear in a porno. He's going to f***ing love hearing it, you can rest assured girl

    • I don't want to be beaten! I just want to be dominaed. I guess I shouldnt have used rape I suppose in the box

What Guys Said 20

  • You might want to direct him to websites that give instruction on how to be a dom. A good dom actually has to work very hard at it, as the sub is the one actually in control so for it to be good for both of them the dom needs to be able to know the sub's limits. First thing, though, is you need to come up with a safety word so your boyfriend can feel more comfortable with how far he can go.

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  • First off the guy has to be able to be dominant. Most men are dominant, but some aren't.

    Second, the guy has to be able to differentiate between you actually wanting to stop when you say "stop" or "no", and when it's just apart of the role play.

    What you have to do is make your desires, and intentions clear. Don't pussyfoot around the subject, just come out and say you are into the idea of being raped, and wish for your guy to attempt it. Do this before sex, have a long discussion(if it turns out to be long) before hand, so he knows what you want. Communication is key in any relationship.

    BUT the most important thing is this! A safe word! Come up with a word when said he will stop. It can be anything but should be well recognized. You need a safe word, to say that you need to stop.

    Also if you are into bondage, esp tied up you need scissors in the room at all times! As a safety precaution. If the ropes get too tight, you need a quick way to get them off, or you could die. The best scissors are surgical ones, they are angled and cost about 7-8 USD.

    Also tell him what you like. Like you like the idea of being helpless, but don't like painful sex. Again communication is KEY!

    Hope this helps.

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  • Lol.

    You need to date someone who's sadistic by nature since you're obviously a masochist.

    Allot of people don't get turned on from hurting someone; I myself wouldn't be able to get hard if I were to try to rape my girlfriend. Pain and sex just don't combine in my mind lol.

    You're boyfriend probably is kind off a sadist though.

    I don't know much about this world but I do suggest you to Google those terms and knowing the internet you'll probably find a good guide about "how to turn my Boyfriend into a sadist" lol.

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    • I am not into painful sex fyi. I don't like it when guys slap me around. how ever I do like tugging of hair. I do not enjoy pain! I just enjoy relly rough sex. fun and safe.

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    • I suppose ;P

    • Well, you can still role play rape (play out the theme) without it ACTUALLY being rape. He can catch you off guard at home, or have it planned to be hiding somewhere in the house, and you just go along with it. As long as you're not too loud. The last thing you need is the neighbors calling the cops thinking you really are being attacted!

      I'm kinda glad that there's some other women out there that have a more aggressive view on bedroom romps. O;)

  • A few others have eluded to this. I know there are a number of us have these secret closet desires to simulate a sexual situation with our women, but know that it is such a taboo topic. If you are married to the woman, at least you know you don't have to worry about her crying rape to the cops the next day. A couple suggestions I can give you to help.

    1. Make sure you have a trusting relationship wth your man.

    2. Teach by example. By the cuffs and the blindfold and one night when he walks in the bedroom, push him on the bed and tie him up. Put him at you mercy and do as many naughty things as you think he will allow. If he responds well to the actions...well...call dibs for next time. If it were me...she would probably find herself tied to the bed the next morning.

    3. There are a lot of great sex catalogs out there with pictures of toys and restraints in them. Order one through the mail, and then invite him to look through it with you. Point out the things that you are interested in coyly and see how he reacts. If you point to bondage gear and he gets a hard on...you are probably set to go. It is a good environment to share each of your desires with each other. You might even learn a few things about him, and chances are that you will both get heated up from looking at the catalog.

    4. Just tell him what you want. Straight out or in a sexy seductive way. Create a secret fantasy night where each of you gets to tell the other one what kind of fantasy they want fulfilled, and it is the job of the partner to fulfill it.

    Good luck...love the fantasy.

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  • It's really straightforward, you just tell him exactly how you feel. No need to stress over it.

    If the thought of telling him flat-out what your desires are is scary then you need to work things out by yourself. Examine the issue front-to-back. You're not trying to reach any conclusions, you just want to expand on the idea from every possible angle. If you're still not comfortable talking to him about it, then maybe it's something that will disappear in due course.

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  • I don't think you're a "sadist" or you need an ass hole boyfriend. It's not like you're asking him to give you a black eye while having sex. I know what you mean, I would love to be tied up and dominated. Maybe you should do it first, show him what you like, and just start slowly. To get my guy to tie me up and blindfold me I did it to him first. I used my panties to tie his hands together and hooked them to the bed post. Then I put my shirt over his eyes so he couldn't see, and before I got on top of him I teased the hell out of him. After I told him, "next time it's your turn to tie me up and have your way with me." And he did. Tell him after he gets you all tied up to do whatever he wants to you, however he wants. I am sure he has fantasies too and you sharing yours with him is a fabulous way to keep the relationship open and exciting at the same time. If you share your fantasies maybe he'll share his and it'll always just get better and better.

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    • Thanks 4 the advice. the guys were making me feel insane.

      I have had bad guys in the past, and believe me I don't want a black eye at all.

    • You're not insane. I just don't think they got it. I think they thought you wanted like an actual rape with him hitting you and hurting you and making you feel used.

  • just bring the blindfold and cuffs and be like "how abt we try this tonight" and wink at him. He will go along with it don't worry. It is not too weird and crazy, a lot of people have these type of fantasies .

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  • now I have a sister..try this if if it works if it doesn't then try something else..

    get him in the mood..if I wanted this bad I watch videos of that type,he comes over and look what I was watching,i put on face that I really love what they're doing like I'm horny about it,he'l see it..sometimes if he's not in the mood for it he want to see something else but be patient,next time do it again same kind of video,same thing more times until he gets the idea that you really is into that stuff.

    doing that didn't work right away it took a little while so I moved to different thing..

    i cufd him even if he said no I forced it,i tied both his legs down and just suck him and f*** like no nomorrow the whole time he was saying stop I didn't stop do not stop,and of corz you would know if they really want you to stop,you can see anger its different when they say no but pleasured face just like us girls..so I did it until he cums right? then after I had a little laugh,he told you crazy?i said god I love it so much can I do we do it again and he he just went and did the same thing to me it was awesoome actually it turned out the way I wanted it,he was all hyped up making me his bitch for the night..

    the point is do to him the things you want him to do to you..it is self explainatory,and very very good hint for him..no need to talk about what you are going to do,the more natural the more fun,cuz the thing is if you started planning what to do you get soo conscious and it doesn't feel natural,and mind me not everyone likes to act on having sex.i dont,i feel awkward..now its been easier..i just put on an apron in bed and he knows I want to be a maid tonight like that thing..good luck..

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  • just tell him how much this would please you. I know this is something I am looking forward to. and my partner knows about it and absolutely loves the idea. so go for it. guys in general like to be dominant in bed, so this would just be another exciting experience for the both of you. :)

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  • Just tell him nicely, that you have sexual a fantasy. Forwarn him that it is a kinky fetish you have. Ask him if he wants to know. If he says yes- Tell him again, "that its very nasty". Explain it to him. He'll probably want to; but maybe not. If he agrees to try it, make sure you have a mutual agreement that when you tell him to stop, that he definately will. For me, its so much fun; I love it! After we had done this several times, later on he tied me up spread eagled in stirrups. He then brough in a machine. Its what is called a "fu_ _ing macine". He hooked it up with a huge long dildo & started it up slowly. He steadily increased the speed all the way up to high. That thing was like a jack hammer inside of me- WOW! I thought it was going to tear my vagina apart. The feeling was so big & I felt so filled up I know I orgasmed at least 10 times. I was sore the next day, but it was definately well worth it! I don't remember how long he had that monster inside of me, pounding & pounding inside of me. I finally passed out exausted.

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