Is it possible to forget how to have sex?

I have not been with a guy in almost 3 years and it just feels like so long. I really don't remenber what I'm doing one bit. Also will a guy be understanding of that? Part of me almost thinks I'm never gonna have it again. I've lost so much weight and I'm still not good enough. I also don't want just the sex I want to find someone who loves me for me.
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  • I'm kind of in your situation...its been 3 years for me as well, but I'm not so worried about it (and guys are the ones pressured to perform) lol

    Its impossible to forget sex...its encoded in our brains through biology and psychosexuality. However, it is possible to lose the sex drive that makes you passionate for sex.

    Its cool that you're waiting for something more than just a hook up. As far as not being good enough, I highly doubt that's true, especially if you're seen as attractive.

    You're saying men don't come around or chase you, something you have to understand is that social convention dictates that we (the guys) make all the moves...from initiating conversation, to asking out, to kissing, etc... Mainly, what you need to understand is than many of us are shy...at least the type of guy that is boyfriend material.

    No need to stress about the situation. Although on a side not, I saw your comment down below...just a suggestion...don't refer to yourself as "hot." While guys find confidence attractive, that borderlines cockiness.

    • Ya I don't usually call myself hot I just happen to put that trust me I actually have low self esteem.

    • If you have low self esteem, I would say that you're not ready for a relationship yet anyway. I was at a point similar to this, and I realized that I needed to work on myself before I even thought about dating. I know its easier said than done, but take time for you and you only and put yourself in situations that will increase yourself esteem. I wasn't saying to not consider yourself hot, I was just simply saying not to say it out loud lol

    • Ya I agree with this and I've been working on myself.

  • When you were a virgin, you still managed to figure it out, right? It's not that complicated, and no, you aren't going to forget. It's part of human instinct and it's buried WAY down deep in your brain.

Most Helpful Girls

  • i believe so when it comes to my boyfriend. he hasn't had any in so long he forgot how to put on a condom! I'm the one that had to put him inside me, he didn't push right, he wasn't in all the way and he came too fast -_-

  • No, it's not possible to forget.

    To lose passion for it or feel uncomfortable with the act, yes.

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  • It's like riding a bike. Or a d*** in your case. And I doubt you're not good enough.

    • Well I haven't had a boyfriend in 3 years.

    • What makes you think that this fact makes you 'not good'?

    • Guys just never come after me and I've lost a lot of weight I'm hot now. But when it comes to sex I'm awkward I don't know how to explain it.

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