Can't stop having Sex with my roommate and he's getting weird.

[Anonymous]

My roommate and I were friends with benefits before we moved into together. Long story short, we both wanted our own place, but didn't know anyone who wouldn't spend all their money on booze/stupidstuff, or constantly have people over during all hours of the day. So we decided to get a place together. Neither one of us had feelings for each other. We continued to have sex, with no problems. During this time he was also sleeping with another girl, but I was only sleeping with him. A few months after living together, I rekindle with an Ex from college, he comes to visit and we pretty much pick up where things left off between us. My roommate lost his Sh*T. He started making rules that my Ex couldn't come over, or if he did, it had to be when he was gone, blah blah blah. After my ext left town, my roommate made rules about not having sex with anyone else in the house if we were both home. We work opposite schedules so he's always Home when I'm home and vice versa. So I get a boyfriend, and my roommate looses his Sh*T again. And becomes a HUGE **** block. Any time my boyfriend is over, he throws a tantrum asking when he's leaving and saying we're too loud and blah blah blah. I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend because of the stress he was causing. But I ended up blowing up on my roommate because I NEVER treated him or his lady friends, the way he was treating me and mine. HE STARTS CRYING and "confessed" that he had feelings for me and blah blah blah. Keep in mind he's STILL baning another chick. I ask him what he wants from me. He says he just doesn't like when I "cut him off". He says I shouldn't stop having sex with him, just because I'm seeing someone. WFT is his problem? I really want to move out but I can't afford it. I didn't know he was going to be so clingy, needy, and such a **** block! IS there anything I can do to get him out of my sex life? He's practically made it impossible for me to have one, because he makes being at home a living hell, if another guy is in the picture. I want to stop having sex with him, but I don't have any other options at the moment, and I have a really high sex drive. And I don't want to jump into the same situation with ANOTHER roommate. I want my own place.

[stubbsy]

This is what happens when you think sex is possible without emotions involved. This is why it takes a certain person to be a professional prostitute, because switching off the emotional side to sex is very difficult. Your only remedy is to move out and declare a separate status with your current room mate, because although he wants it his own way but only if the rules only apply to you, then your more at danger of getting hurt than him, even though you don't seem to be emotional attached, but you will end up losing out on many things if you don't separate your lives, because his control will grow stronger, and his demand on you being his will also grow stronger. So you need to demand the split, and have no physical contact with him from now on, and make it clear its because of him acting all possessive. He might make things hard for you while living together, hence the reason why you need to move out asap, but if that's not an option, then your going to have to try and separate both your lives from each others,x

[BoobMan]

F*** this guy! In case you haven't noticed, you should have no shortage of guys willing to take care of your sex drive issue for you. You sure as hell don't need this tool. And if he's got other girls as well, he can screw them. He said himself he's not interested in dating you. Well guess what? If someone's not interested in dating you, they get NO say in who you have sex with. Simple as that.

I suggest you start looking for another roommate pronto.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice EVERYONE! I'm going to distance myself from him, save my money, and get my own place. I'll pick up a second job to avoid him.

[BoobMan]

You're welcome. Though if you wanted to thak everyone, perhaps you meant to put your note in the update?

[PerpetualNerd]

Ugh what a horrible living situation. I don't know there's anything you can do but move out. That sounds worse than living with an ex-boyfriend...

I'd suggest you could c*** block him back but I get the feeling he'd enjoy that.

[teasegirl]

That dude has to feed his ego with you. To hell with him. Either he wants you or not. He can't be so possessive with you and still be banging another chic. Find another roommate.

[sockz]

Save up and move out. If you're dating someone in the interim, hook up at their place not yours.

[Red_Arrow]

Concise, short, and says it all!

[hannibal214]

IS there anything I can do to get him out of my sex life?

yeah: move. and stop f***ing this guy

[Anonymous]

Start looking for another roommate and this time don't have sex with him. Or room with a girl.

[Anonymous]

I think you need to save up and move out. Maybe get a better handle on your financial situation. Maybe get a better job. This will NOT get better. Kinda like Sockz said, if you're gonna hook up, do it away from home, but I would not recommend screwing your roommate anymore. Seriously, let him cry. This is manipulative.

This is why FWB relationships, and open relationships are so hard. Because eventually... SOMEONE gets possessive, most of the time. Usually someone will turn out to be entirely selfish about it. Just like your roommate is being now. Oh, yeah he can bang whoever he wants, whenever he wants, but you can't be with anyone else, AND you're not allowed to stop having sex with him? Seriously, your roommate can go to hell.

Save up. Get a better job. Do whatever you can, but seriously, get out of there.