Do guys wear condoms when using a masturbator?

[Confused26]

Hi everyone, I really need some answers here as I am a nervous mess right now. I previously was here asking about condoms in my boyfriend's school bag which he claimed to have packed for a trip we were taking. Most people said believe him so I left is at that. Now, I went away on vacation and when I came back I saw in the top of the closet a box for a masturbator that has both vagina and anus. I feel he did this on purpose as he's mentioned how upset he was I use a dildo. I had asked him if he wil use a fake vagina and he said no. Now I see he went ahead and bought one. Then I found the key to his safe and when I looked in there was the fake vagina and anus, a lubricant and way in the back practically hidden 2 condoms. Now my mind is blowing off, are the condoms for the fake vagina or is he screwing some other chick? I told him about the box and he said although he had said no before he got curious after I mentioned it. Then I asked if he bought condoms and he said no, just the vagina and the lubricant, I said please say the truth, if you bought it for that is OK, I just don't want to bump into it and think something else. so then he finally gave in and said yes, that he bought some. I asked why since we have a box FULL od condoms and he said Because the onces we have are bareskin and those are better for us and he don't want to waste it so he bought the ultra thim for the toy. However, he got extremely defensive, said that was non of my business and ended up raising his voice at me and it all ended in a huge argument. I really don't know what to think as I do not have guy friends who use fake vaginas. Do guys normally wear a condom with these toys? I read somewhere that it is recommended because they can form bacteria. However, I am still puzzled because first he said he isn't into toys so he wouldn't buy one, now he boys one and I find 2 condoms which leads me to thin khe bought a 3 oack and used 1. Please help me. Could he really had bought the condoms for the masturbator? or should I be more worried he is playing me dirty with another girl?

[Anonymous]

He sounds rather immature to be getting jealous about dildos.

It's pretty rare for guys to use sex toys at all, certainly much rarer than for girls.

I guess using a condom would mean less mess. But if I were using a fake vagina, I'd not use a condom. I'd want to feel the toy properly. Also, why waste a condom? I've never heard of a guy using condoms with a sexy toy.

He does sound suspiciously defensive. I can understand lying about a sex toy (as it could be embarrassing). But, having admitted the sex toy, why would he lie about the condoms? It does seem strange.

[Confused26]

Thats my thought and it's driving me insane.

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

Why the f*** would he keep his condoms in a safe if he was f***ing another chick? Let alone using ultra thin condoms, if it were some random girl then logically it would be thicker, SAFER condoms.

As for the condom use with the toy, yes there is the bacterial perspective but it also saves a lot of the cleaning up I would assume.

Yet another utter fail in your hysteria driven logic, if he had another girl, WHY would be buy a fake vagina?

Just calm down and stop being, as you said, a nervous mess.

[Confused26]

You know, this is exactly why I come to these pages because maybe someone out there will slap me in the face in a fig. way of speaking. As to why keep it in a safe? I would of said so I don't know he has extra condoms from the huge box we have, prob because he thinks I will assume he bought it to cheat and I think he thinks I keep count of our condoms because I organize the box, so I guess he figured if I see some missign I am going to assume he is cheating.

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

Theres the kind of logical thinking I love. Good on you!

[Confused26]

Thank you. So I don't mean to be annoying, but then your final idea is he is definitely using them on the toy?

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

Thats fine. Yes, I do. The extra condoms were bought because as you said he finds you suspicious enough to count the condoms you have so if some were missing that you hadn't been there to use then your first thought would obviously be that he was cheating. I suppose you should be happy that he was thinking about you by trying to avoid such issues.

[Confused26]

I suppose so. Just why lie about it? it took me three times asking for him to admit he bought some?

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

I can't answer that, some people are compulsive liars, others just lie as a last ditch attempt to avoid drama because they don't quite know how to explain it in a way that will avoid the drama.

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

@update: it is a possibility that he wanted to try it without, you know; having the first attempt with the condom, seeing how it is then going bareback to compare the experiences. Or you might have just given him so much grief last time he decided it wasn't worth the effort. As I said before, stop over thinking. He has a fake fanny and you to screw, not another woman. I mean if he was having an affair surely he would have stopped it completely after getting so close to being discovered.

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

Just stop being paranoid, insecure and nosy. He is not having an affair. Yet.

[Confused26]

Thank you. I guess not but that yet! scares me!

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Honestly, you need to start minding your own business. Stop invading his privacy. If you don't think you can trust him, break up...otherwise, let him have his space.

[Confused26]

you're right. I do have trust issues, yet I love him so much I don't want to break up. feels like a war inside me. It's hard for me to think that should be his privacy.. if those condoms are for cheating, shouldn't I be aware? I'm just lost! If it's for the toy, then I can see how it is private. But that's my dilema, is it for the toy or not?

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Condoms are not an indication of cheating. So you trying to decipher what they mean is pointless. If he truly was cheating, he could just as easily use no condom, buy another pack and leave it at the other girl's house, or use one of hers, or borrow one from a friend. You need to judge him on his current actions. Does he appear loyal to you?

[Confused26]

In a way he does. He does not get weird calls, he doesn't hang out, he's usually home when not working or in school. The only thing is he lies about stuff. Like when I asked if he bought some, his forst 2 response was no, I only bought the toy and the lubricant. It took me a third time saying if its for the toy just say so, and he finally admitted to buying them. Other than this, Thank God I do not see any other signs.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Your intrusion into his privacy will probably drive him away before another girl does. Just sayin'

[Confused26]

You may be right, thank you for your input. I really appreciate it.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

The condoms do make for easy cleanup with his toy. I wouldn't use them, but they are more convenient.

The bigger issue is why you feel the need to invade his privacy.

[Confused26]

I guess it's because he is so secretive and usually does the opposite of what he says. He said he wouldn't buy one because there is no need and its dumb, then yet he goes and gets one and says I made him curious. So he says he will never cheat and I wonder when will he change his mind about that also. I try to communicate with him but he puts up a fight. Does not want to open up. Says I am interrogating him. All I want is a clear head.

[hannibal214]

no one uses condoms for masturbation. he's probably cheating on you and does not want to catch any STDs but with some much drama in this relationship, why don't you just break up?

[NeerajBagat18]

Did you both had sex before just answer me I think I can get your answer thanks for listening

[LEGENDARY4200]

Some do makes for easier clean up

[Anonymous]

If tried one of those. Generally you use them without a condom, but just out of curiosity, I've tried them with one too. But yeah--condoms are usually for use on women.

[Confused26]

Because they are usually used by women is why I am fearful and doubtful.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah. Makes sense. Though if I were ever to cheat, I'd just buy new condoms so my girl wouldn't notice any were missing.

[Opinion Owner]

Generally you use those things without the condom. Maybe you try it with at some point. But why is he using a toy at all? Shouldn't you be helping him take care of emptying his load?

[Confused26]

Well, I was away on vacation and also, I had asked him about toys, just because I find it fun so now he said I got him curious. We have arguments a lot so our sex life is not at the top either.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah. One of the best predictors of how good a relationship is: do you fight more or do you f*** more? It sounds like you're in the first camp. Might mean it's time to move on.

[Anonymous]

He could be using a condom so he doesn't have to clean it. I think most can be cleaned fairly easily, but sometimes you just don't want to go through the rigmarole of cleaning it every time.

I don't see anything here that makes me think he is cheating, but I don't know him and can't get a feeling on it. If you feel like he is and you will always be suspicious of him from this point on, I think it would be the best for both of you to just move on.

[Confused26]

I have to say yes, this wil be on my mind, but I am not sure. Should I really break up for an assumption? Sometimes I think I may just be paranoid because my ex lied to me BIG TIME and I never expected it so now I always have the doubt on when the truth is being said or I'm being lied to.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, yeah, because this is driving a wedge between you two. Whether something is happening or not, you're mind is working overtime to figure it out. If he's not doing anything, he's not happy right now. He's going to get tired of it real soon and move on. Like I said, I don't know if he is cheating. I can't speak on that at all. I'm just saying that you're going to start (if you haven't already) questioning him on every move he makes. It would be healthier to start something new elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

It's not so much that they recommend condoms, but they do talk about how important it is to keep it clean - and cleaning a fleshlight is a time consuming business. It would be much easier and cleaner to use a condom in a fleshlight, for cleanliness.

So yes, he really could have bought them for the masturbator.