Doggy style, why does it hurt her?

My girlfriend can't do doggy style because it hurts her too much. It sucks Because that's one of my favorite positions, and I really want to do it. Like sometimes I just crave it I guess. I want it to feel good for her, and I've heard that from behind s supposed to be good for girls but its not for her. Is this normal? How to fix it?
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  • It is normal, might be fixable.

    Did she tell you that position is painful for her or did you try? The fit is going to be different with different people, you if you haven't tried it personally you might convince her to do so by explaining that and being very clear with telling her that you'll be careful and the second she wants to stop trying it's done. You could also try first by just holding your penis where it should go and then allowing her move until she's sure about the comfort.

    If that doesn't work you could try doggy with a few tweaks, this website has a lot of them link This one link is a sneaky way to prepare her for doggy if the problem is more psychological than biological ^^

    If the problem is the fit she's likely to hurt either because the penis is entering in an uncomfortable angle or because it's hitting her cervix, and in either case that *should* be solvable by just switching angles.

    There is nothing abnormal about this, it's more normal than not that there is some position that doesn't work without some tweaking, and some that doesn't work at all. Make sure that you don't sound like you're accusing her of anything (aka. telling her 'other girls like it, why don't you?', or 'this could be so good, but you don't even want to try').

  • it isn't all that uncommon it has to do with the angle of penetration and compatible size. In that position you can get a lot deeper which means you might be hitting something that causes pain, and since you get deeper it actually makes you feel bigger to the girl. the only way to try and "fix it" if to go slow and have her adjust the angle herself and control all motion until you get it right, I know there are times I feel like I'm going to be killed when I'm in doggy because of the angle my guys d*** hits and I just move a little and it's perfect, buit I have a lot of experience with it, it tends to be our fav position.

  • The first few times I did doggy with my boyfriend, it did slightly hurt- I didn't tell him though, and after about 10 times doing it I was fine and now I experience no pain with doggy :) If you and her haven't done it that much and she is comfortable trying it again, perhaps try that? See if the pain goes away after 3 or 4 more goes? Unless the pain is VERY bad :o Also, it can hurt if the penis first goes in in doggy position, me and my boyfriend find it easier to do a short bit in cowboy or something, then later switch to doggy when everything is lubricated, then when it goes in everything slides in easy :)

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  • I can only give educated guesses:

    #-She can have vaginism ( link ), the most common reason for painful sex.

    #-Other possibility:

    I never met a girl having that , but a midwife once told me some girls have a slanted vagina and that could cause discomfort in positions quite comfortable for other women. Her obgyn could tell that. I don't know if it can be cured.

    #-Still another possibility:

    I wasn't present of course, nor do I know her, but COULD you (or an ex BF? ?) have confused 'doggy style' and anal? (or a story a friend told her)

    Is she fearing anal sex then and getting anxious ? Anxiety CAN cause vaginism, of course. (one bad experience can cause vaginism for a long period and it could be tied to that position in her mind for the rest of her life)

    Only time and peace of mind, confidence it won't hurt can cure vaginism.

    • All women have slanted vaginas though so what do you mean?

    • let's say 'slanted in a different way' or 'slanted in a different direction'.

  • You are probably hitting her cervix. Some women have shallower vag than others. If you learn how to do it correctly, usually women can take something deeper in ass than in front. So anal doggy might be the answer. Or how about vag doggy -- but just not all the way in? Just the head in there is awesome. Also, not all doggy is created equal. There is doggy with her on all fours. Then there is froggy, with her head down and butt up -- you come DOWN from above. Like leap frog? There is her lying on tummy, putting a pillow under tummy, bending over a chair, sitting on a bar stool, etc. etc. The fun is, you get to try it all until you find what works. When you do, it will happen a lot. Trust me.

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  • It's very deep penetration in that position. I love it myself, but I guess if you want to do that and it hurts her, you could not push in the whole way... and don't do it every time you have sex.

    • TRUE!

  • We have the same issues. Like you I crave doing it. Maybe its ccause we never get to do it.

  • its normal just use lube

  • Doggy can give you deeper penetration. Just change the angle, that should help.

  • I have the same problem. My cervix gets hit frequently in doggy and it hurts like I'd imagine it hurts being kicked in the balls for a guy does. It feels like being stabbed and then aches. Anyway, adjusting the angle of penetration can help, not thrusting quite as deep and hard helps and getting the girl really turned on helps (being wet isn't really a sign that the girl is completed aroused ... the vagina actually gets deeper when she's really excited).

  • I'm like that too. It hits my cervix too much because my boyfriends penis is curved. I don't think there is a fix.