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Why do sex workers discriminate against black men?

There's a website called Backpage.com where you can find everything. On one section are escorts where you can break it down by specific city location. One day just teasing myself because I was horny as all unholy hell, I was browsing some of the local women in Indiana and Illinois and found quite a number of "escorts" who advertised: "No Blacks", "Sorry, no African-Americans", "No brothas" and so on. What's worse is that even some black chicks placed the black man on the forbidden lists. The worst of all is that I never saw any other ethnic group prohibited by these women. I counted up in one city of 123 women, 34 refused to give service to blacks. WHAT THE f***?!?!?!?!?!?!?! I'm trying to figure out how women can choose to screw anything and everything...except one particular race. And why just black men? The issue isn't about sex, it's about why this bull sh*t still goes on, even among our own women? Controversial subject. Those who have seen my posts are well aware that I'll bring up the taboo and the unspeakable. So...let's hear it folks. Stupid? Or something else?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It's less to do with racist views than you'd imagine (which is why even some black women have this rule). It's much more about CULTURE.

    In "black culture" (i.e., urban/hip-hop culture), a culture where GETTING respect is an important keystone, GIVING respect is looked down upon, and that's especially true for women. In this culture, women are routinely degraded, disrespected, and violence against women is accepted and even glorified.

    And when dealing with honest-to-goodness whores, many black men feel that they have every right to treat them like crap. That may mean violence, it may mean attempting to steal them from their pimp, or refusing to pay/stealing back their money. It isn't racism, but experience, that teaches them to avoid black men as customers, especially in certain areas of the country (you'll note that you won't find this rule everywhere).

    I went to college to be an Audio Engineer, and I used to work in a venue that hosted all types of acts. This included big rock shows, metal shows, country shows, and even punk shows, but by FAR, the most dangerous shows were the R&B and hip-hop shows. They typically required triple the insurance, at least double the security, and there were still multiple incidents at every show. Not all of the people involved in these incidents were black, either, but they were all heavily involved and influenced by urban/hip-hop CULTURE, where respect of others is rarely given, where there is always an adversarial attitude towards authority, and where violence is used to solve even the smallest of problems or perceived slights, all in the name of "respect."

    The open market responded to these issues by charging more for the venue, requiring more insurance, requiring more security, requiring an on-site medical staff and sworn police officers, and so on. It's not that the market was racist; they didn't charge extra for Reggae acts, Jazz acts, or 50s/60s oldies acts with mostly all-black performers. But experience taught them that dealing with the black urban culture came with much higher risks, and so the prices went way up.

    Prostitution is an equally open market, and it has likewise responded to the higher risk of dealing with men of this culture with it's own rules and responses. It's unfortunate that some folks get falsely grouped in with the problem elements, but at the end of the day, business is business, and risk vs. reward has to be observed.

    • That was the best comment by far. You better get the most helpfull comment.

  • I was watching documentary on prostitution. In there, those women did not want to sleep with black men either. They cited too much size. I've said it before and I'll say it again, a good fit is important. Now, there are plenty of women here who have the vaginal capacity to handle almost anything and I suspect there are escorts who can do the same.

    • I was wondering that too. I was on a site called girlsbycity and saw that everywhere. You think that's the reason why?

    • I was with a buddy in a Brothel in Northern Nevada people watching while having some drinks... I asked the girl why the Madame would push the door chime... to go Ding Dong Ding dong Ding dong, whenever an African American patron would come to the door. She said. some of the girls, not her say its "Mostly size... we laugh and say the door bell is saying big dong big dong big dong". She said sex workers have a decision from the Nevada Supreme Court, and affirmed by the US Supreme court that forcing a sex worker to have sex with somebody they dont want to have sex with, is "State Sanctioned Rape" which I thought was both interesting and logical. She said she had no objection to sex with Black guys, and that, "overall" they aren't larger (erect anyway) than white guys. So that is from a prostitutes mouth.

Most Helpful Girls

  • It could just be people being racist for no reason. Maybe they are not particularly attracted to black men and want to enjoy themselves as well. Maybe these women had a bad experience with a black man and don't want to serve any more of them (though you could have a bad experience with anyone haha)

    Maybe with what they usually have requests to do (oral, anal, whatever) they cannot accommodate men of larger sizes, and (I've never been with a black man) but people do say that they have the biggest d*cks.

    It definitely seems strange, and there could be many reasons why they won't serve black men (stupid reasons or otherwise), but at the end of the day, no one knows but them.

  • Because you're seen as disease-ridden, AIDS, disrespectful abusive types, and also cheap. I used to frequent a sex worker forum (no comment) and many of them would talk about how cheap black men are. they would complain often that many black customers would pay up front, and then snatch the money back when they were done having sex, basically stealing money from the prostitute and getting sex for free. Many of them really do not like younger black men because of the hip hop thing and you're seen as ghetto, disrespectful lowlifes and are nasty. Even some black prostitutes say they don't want to sleep with black customers and prefer other races because the money is better.

    • DAMN. And here I am being generous, respectful and kind to my sex workers; just to have some jackholes mess it up for the rest of us. DAMN.

    • I guess whites aren't disease-ridden and don't acquire AIDS. Must be great to be the superior race... give me a break... It is usually VERY easy to detect and/or spot a ghetto hood rat, oftentimes by the tone of his voice on the phone and his choice of attire. This is where skills of discernment come into play whereby gut feelings and an astute awareness will usually alert the sex worker as to who she's dealing with. A black male who presents himself intelligently and uses the king's English to communicate will most likely be very pleasant to deal with. As far as the "nasty" tag, that's flat out racist. You wouldn't believe how many times I've been in public restrooms and counted white men that exited a stall after grunting and groaning to push one out just to push the stall door open and walk out without washing his hands... anybody can be nasty. Those views need to be re-evaluated and reconsidered.

    • @mustangdude281 much repsect

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  • Everyone is entitled to a preference, even personal escorts. It seems kind of dumb because they're escorts and you'd think they just want to get it over with and get their money, regardless of what the guy looks like, but it happens.

    Personally, I'm not into black guys either. I'm not racist. I have black friends and I treat them just as I do my white friends, but physically, I'm not attracted to most black guys. It's just what I find attractive and what I find unattractive. You can't deny that black guys are physically different from white men in facial structure.

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  • Because it's a preference

  • Just because they are sex workers doesn't mean they can't have a preference.

  • You leave them stretched out.

    Advantages and drawbacks.

  • Why is it after all the research disapproving black guys having bigger penis myth, its usually the white people who keep perpetuating this myth.

    link

    Personally I think its not anything to do with color. The reason being even black escorts are saying no black guys. What can the reasons be I'm not sure, could be anything. Like someone mentioned some might've had bad experiences, or don't want to do stuff black guys might expect them too. I don't think its racism.

    If they can fk 50 year old fat bald guy for money, don't think black guys be an issue. So its not race or color but something else.

  • They assume black men all have huge penises. It's simply bad business. Kind of like renting a hotel room to a junkie - there is simply a risk that they will wreck the room making it difficult to rent out again.

    Keep in mind that 'escorts' aren't in it for the sex. They fake their enjoyment for your enjoyment. So a huge penis or anything 'typically' considered enjoyable to women is not their goal. Add that to anything that could risk putting them out of commission for a while, and you have your answer..

  • Black men are most likely of all to carry HIV.

  • the answer to this is subjective. I've been searching for a clear answer and can never find one.

  • It depends.
    Some it's just preference, some it's racism. Fear of STDs or violence.

  • they have that right... why are you paying for sex anyhow?

  • It's a two and a half part answer. The first reason is black men have a reputation for being cheap and crappy tippers... that's not just in the sex worker arena, that's in the service industry period (all black people). It's not a racial thing, it's a cultural thing - right, wrong, or indifferent - that's the perception.

    The second reason is African Americans contract STDs at a higher rate than other ethnic groups. That's a statistical fact that you can verify on the CDC's website. Again, not a racial superiority issue, it's just a mathematical reality. Do a search for "CDC STD contraction rates among minorities 2016" and you'll find links right there on the CDC's website. We're not talking about minor differences, we're talking about degrees as serious as 6-8 times more likely to catch something between two different ethnic groups... that's a pretty substantial difference in risk.

    Lastly is good old fashioned prejudice or belief in nonsense. Society has done a pretty excellent job of perpetuating the stereotype that black men are running around with baseball bats in their pants and girls are just going to get blown out and never be the same after sex with them. The giant penis legend is a racist myth, and vaginas are designed with elasticity... they don't get blown out from a session with a well endowed guy. Add in the fact that some folks are just racist, and you should have a better idea now.

  • https://wwwDOTthedailybeastDOTcom/the-real-reason-female-porn-stars-dont-shoot-with-black-guys/
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  • Consider it a blessing, we shouldn't be sleeping with these women anyways.

    Two major reasons: 1) We will last the entire time, the goal of these girls is to make the client bust ASAP.

    2) A lot of girls working for black men will be told not to mess with black men, strange but true.

  • I read a book that said that mexican drug cartels wouldn't sell heroin to blacks in a lot of areas, too. I was because they feared being killed by them. It may be that the hookers are around area where most blacks live in the inner city with high gang participation and crime rates.

    It's also likely that the gangs have their own prostitutes, as many do deal in that. The escorts may not want to take any chances of being forced into a different agency or of upsetting the wrong person by working in an area/with a customer/group that belongs to someone else.

    Hooking isn't about enjoying sex, it's ONLY about money. The chicks bang guys they don't find attractive as a job requirement. So the choice would be a business decision, not a sexual preference.

    • your kidding right mexican cartels aren't scared of blacks lol

  • It's simple
    White men like to know that the women there about to have sex with and pay Don't do black guys there are black girls says no black men and the majority of "johns" are white

  • Because they always get scammed by black guys and black guys usually have no money in general? Hey its true lol sorry!

  • Sorry to burst your "Pretty woman" bubble..

    But "preference" resides down towards the bottom in a long list of reasons for this phenomenon..

    You have to understand the world these people choose to live in..

    The basic premise is that the females' body is a commodity..

    These women who often have "managers"
    Exchange this commodity for cash/tips

    The amount of money required.. depends on the time/acts desired..

    The "perfect" client for most of these women (who are often drug addicted and struggle with past abuse and esteem issues) is a client who requires the least amount of time for the most amount of money..

    Regardless of race.. the men who frequent these women are referred to as "tricks" a VERY derogatory term..

    The more ignorant and forthcoming with cash a trick is the more desirable he is as a client

    Horrific things happen to these women during their foray into prostitution..

    The least of which is an opportunist who robs a woman who generally won't contact police or man who wants to enter a woman into his service (pimp)

    It's the pumps who manage these women.. or the women themselves that ad AA men to there list of clients who threaten there livelyhood.. add that to the fact that a verile make who wants to put high mileage on an item with a definite shelf life is more dangerous than a two pump chump who pays for a fantasy..

  • Statistics on criminal activity. I'm no racist, one of my best friends is black, but he is openly aware and opposed to black culture, he is a highly intelligent graduate student in an "elite" scientific field. The self-degregating (excuse saturated) culture that continues to proliferate and segregate the African American community on their own terms continues to force a criminal mindset (mostly out of fear because they are raised under the assumption that police and the rest of the world is "racist"). The "providers" are not regulated (thus not subject under any equal-opportunity legislation) and therefore, and most likely out of fear, choose not to take any extra risk on themselves when they are already putting themselves at risk inherently by the choice of their profession.
    Just a theory, my interpretation from the evidence I've been exposed to.

  • Even prostitutes have dignity.

  • I don't care, and I'll come straight out and say that I seen many escorts in the past.(Im single, and i can do what the hell i want. If someone wants to judge me for it, whatever. We all have dirty secrets that we dont want people to know, so you ain't any better than me. lol..) They all give me the same reasons when I ask why they don't see black men. They tend to be rude and disrespectul, obnoxious and too rough of them. One girl named Char told me a story where she was robbed at gun point. Its not because their "dicks are too big" don't try to throw that around! lol.. or because "they're racist" because every girl i seen liked me, and I'm not white! These girls are still human beings, and they deserve the same respect anyone else does. Contrary to popular belief, they're not all drug addicts and dirty whores.. theyre doing what they love, and need a living too. Obviously, this is a very good living, but also dangerous, and they do what they have to to protect themselves.

  • The perpetuated concept that sex workers don't provide to black men due to penis size is nonsense. First, go do a search for "big dick" on any p*rn site, most of the results are of white men. The average penis size is the average penis size regardless of ethnicity. Second, after working for several years as a free land photographer and getting a bit of a niche in taking photos for these girls, I've gotten to know the industry pretty well. Most of the girls will not work for black men because of the standardized/stereotypical hip hop culture of young black men. They simply do not know how to treat women and generally are disrespectful as all hell. Young black men are told that women should be falling to their knees at a whim to service them, and the reality is most women wouldn't get involved beyond a random, adventurous hookup. First hand I have photographed several young women who were beaten by black clients so the imagery could be turned over to the police (I was used as a local forensics photographer as well, fun times). It has absolutely nothing to do with dick size and has everything to do with how black men treat these women. Now most will entertain a mature black *gentleman* without hesitation, but in general deny services to black men just to protect against the disrespectful little shits that come out of the ghetto.

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