Do guys like when girls are bossy in bed?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I like really slow, intimate sex. Sometimes I like just doing whatever he wants and letting him lead. Sometimes I like taking the lead. When I "take the lead", I guess I get kinda bossy. "Take your pants off." "Lay down." My ex loved it. I can't really tell with my new boyfriend though. When I do something like that, he'll say something like "You're bossy" or "You just gonna tell me what to do?" or "You just gonna push me down on the bed?" Of course, he says this while complying. I'll respond with something like "Yeah, yeah I am. Is that a problem?" and he'll say "No" and we carry on. So... does he actually not like it and is trying to tell me so with his comments? Or is he like.. "getting into it" and kinda playing a role or something? LOL I don't know whether to be less bossy or if he is trying to get me to be more bossy.

[Shankapushpi]

The good thing about a girl taking control in bed is that she is going to do what she wants and what her imagination leads her to do. I am interested in what's on a girls mind so I like it when she expresses herself and I feel priveleged to be a part of it. This is particularly true for my situation because I'm more interested in trying stuff out than my wife is.

[Married-in-PA]

I dream about girls like you...

You don't understand how badly guys like this. Be bossy, Mlle.

[Asker]

LOL so I have one response that says yes and one that says no. Which view/preference do you think is most common?

[Breathe]

wimpy guys like girls to take over.. men dont

[Blapsoi]

Could be either.

You really need to ask him. Do it when you're not just about to get down to fun.

When you have a moment, get his attention, share how you like it when you get to be in charge and you're bossy. And ask him what he thinks.

[WoIIie]

A bossy girl would have quite a night with my obedient ass.

Personality and physique has to match the bossyness otherwise I don't even respond to it. A very soft and shy girl with super feminine features could never boss me around.

[Breathe]

how pathetic

[Konnour]

Sorry, it's a turn-off, it makes to feel emasculated

[Asker]

Why emasculated?

[Konnour]

It makes to feel like less of a man, it's a huge blow to your selfesteem when a girl is bossing you around (or actually when you allow her to do so) even in bed

[Asker]

So, you see a girl taking control as an insult to you basically saying that you failed to properly initiate or something instead of seeing it as a positive sign that she's extremely attracted to you, turned on by you, and desperately wants to jump your bones...? Is that accurate?

[Breathe]

being bossy makers her a bitch. Only loser guys like that kind of girl

[Dragan]

I don't like bossy girls.

[Breathe]

hey here's a crazy idea.. ask him

[Asker]

Thank you for such an in depth response to my question.

[Breathe]

its the simplest but the best. If you just communicated honestly with him you wouldn't be here asking this.

[Asker]

cool dude

[ImFromReddit]

I dont care as long as she hurries with my sandwich.

[SaltandVinegar]

Your Boyfriend is playing along, I think he likes it. I like it when my girlfriend takes charge and tells me what to do once in a while

[Tim-loves-it]

LOVE em!!

[Anonymous]

I really love that, though I always like it when she say what her needs are.