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Why is my vagina so freaking ugly?!

I don't understand it! I am 22 and I have only had sex with 2 guys my entire life, yet everything down there is so disgusting looking. Like my inner labia is dark dark, somewhat droopy, wrinkly, just plain gross. My outer labia even wrinkles up when my legs spread. I just have no idea what the hell to do. My previous boyfriend (the one I lost my virginity to) didn't even believe me at first when I told him I was a virgin. His exact words were "a girl with a p**** like that has been ran through a more than a few times" I still remember what he said. He wouldn't even go down on me, he said he'd rather go down on female dog than me. He said if he did he would end up throwing up by how ugly it was. We broke up a few months after that. The guy I'm with now says he loves the way my vagina looks, that its the sexiest, most attractive thing he's ever seen. I really don't believe him. I feel like he's just telling me this to make me feel better. He goes down on me, but I feel so self-conscious sometimes that I don't even enjoy it. He told me that I need to stop it, because he loves all of me. But I just can't I feel like he's only trying to make me feel better. I've considered surgery but he's says that's absurd. I just don't know what to do! I feel like crying. Should I get surgery? What are your opinions on it?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • that guy prob is gay. Don't dare to get surgery girl! That guy is an a**hole and he is OUT OF YOUR LIFE who the hell cares what he said.

    Few days ago a guy I was fcking on a weekly basis said something really offensive to me and yes I got really offended and I thought bad of myself and then I remembered how much I get hit on by other guys. How other guys I've been with still look for me and have told me that my FWB is a jerk. Some guys want to put the girl down so they can feel better of themselves..

    Guys say the meanest things who knows why, but there is other guys out there that are sweet and like you JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.

    Your current boyfriend likes you as a whole, so I don't see why not believe him. Honestly forget about that other idiot. Don't change anything about your vagina.

  • "We broke up a few months after that. "

    You stayed with him that long after he said all that terrible stuff to you? That makes me so sad, like you felt like you didn't deserve any better than this mofo who thought you weren't worthy of oral sex.

    He was an idiot. He didn't understand how female anatomy worked, and that the vulva comes in a ton of different shapes.

    Don't let guys treat you like that ever again. When guys like that get laid, they're wasting the time of girls like you and taking the good women away from guys who aren't the scum of the Earth like him.

    Also, if your boyfriend says he likes you the way you are now (if it's not patronizing, fake or forced, believe him!), surgery would be dumb. You would cut off so many nerve endings down there unnecessarily.

  • This is rather disturbing, if your acceptance of your body image depends on what a guy thinks of your body parts.

    there is a good link which is a forum that discusses about this topic and offers emotional support.

    There are other pics of labias posted anonymously too which might shock you what they look like.

    Go to link

    I think he's telling you the truth if he goes down on you and says nothing bad about you.

  • I think your present boyfriend is a really sweet guy who love you for who you are. Be grateful to meet someone like that in your life. Ignore what your ex says, it was a terrible rude thing that he did, which no doubt scarred you. Embrace what you have and good luck girl!

Most Helpful Guys

  • The problem is not your vulva, it is your ex-boyfriend and your (somewhat understandable, given his treatment of you) lack of self-worth. Not everyone's body looks the same, and there's nothing wrong with that; it's totally normal.

    Your ex was either inexperienced, and didn't know what he was talking about, or he was just super-shallow and had his own distorted ideas of what was attractive. Don't make the mistake of adopting those same ideas.

    Fortunately, your current boyfriend sounds like a good guy. He's the one you should be listening to, because he's got it right. When he tells you he's attracted to you, believe him, because he is. And learn to accept and embrace your body, and to feel good about it, because there is no reason not to. Don't let one jerk take that away from you.

  • The guy you are with now loves it (really!) and that should be enough. He would truly be disappointed if you had surgical changes. He loves being down on you and it excites the heck out of him, so relax and enjoy it. He is!

    As for your question title, many girls who have not seen other girls equipment think that they are different and even ugly. NOT SO! There is no one normal, but I bet you fit into the many that are as a group normal, average, whatever you want to call it. Check the link already mentioned to the Great Wall of Vagina. The women represented there were not ashamed because they knew they were normal and beautiful. And I bet you can find yourself there.

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  • Your first boyfriend is a d*** who doesn't know how vaginas work. The vulva doesn't start looking different based on how much sex you've had. Listen to your current boyfriend; it sounds fine to me, and I'm sure most guys would feel the same.

    I don't think you should get surgery. For most guys, any vagina is a good vagina, and you'll be much happier if you can love your vagina as it is, because, honestly, it's probably beautiful.

    • You should take a look at the Great Wall of Vagina, link . Appreciate that everyone looks different, and that you should love your unique self, instead of trying to search for some fake "improvement".

    • i loved the website !

    • The Great Wall of Vagina is a wonderful thing and every woman who feels a little insecure about their vagina should take a look. I even asked a question about it the other day: link

  • Oh for God's sakes. Stop worrying about the looks of your vagina, and certainly don't get surgery. You need to fix the inside and accept what you look like and stop giving a f*** what people think about you.

  • Vagina problems, I tell ya! I know exactly how you feel girl!

  • It is the ugliest part of a womans body, but so damn beauuutiful! You must not worry what idiot BF1 said - he is a fool!

    Don't have any surgery - it causes more problems than what it is worth! A friend of mine had some done and regrets it so much because of a loss of sensation/feeling in the areas that were doctored.

  • I think your being to judgmental on yourself. I don't see how there can be ugly and pretty vagina's...

    Its a body part... its how you and your body are.

    Dont get surgery!

  • they come in all shapes and colors. I think they are all beautiful.. never seen an ugly one yet lol. I would have to see myself to give a true vote :P

  • That guy sounds like an a**hole. Your vagina is beautiful just the way it is so don't worry. There are sites that have pictures of girls vaginas, you'll see everyone's looks different.

  • No vagina is ugly.

  • Ok your first boyfriend is a complete moron "A" hole... so I quess he was super perfect was he? NOT . You sound like you have a normal average vagina ... and if your current noyfriend loves it then what's wrong.? Does he have insecurities that you don't notice or care about? Nobody is perfect ... I think you are over thinking this and are insecure because of that other jerk... I have seen hundreds of vaginas and there are all attractive to me ... I'm really sorry he put that bad image in your mind...

  • may be its looks ugly to you..but forsome guys its looks too hot and they get turn on by it...if possible post a pic and shall comment looking at it...

    dont go for a surgery..its not gud at all...if you really feel its ugly..may be after your marriage you go for it.for your husband and not for boy friend ..i feel..

  • Not all vaginas look the same and not all guys like the same vaginas. Some like innies some like outies. You found one that either sincerely likes your vagina or doesn't care what it looks like.

    Stop stressing. Its an unattractive quality.

  • Don't get a surgery. A guy will not complain about penetrating you.

  • Disregard what your first boyfriend said, and be glad there's no second penis growing out of your vagina in the place of your clitoris. You know, that's an actual thing.

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