I just HATE women. What to do?

[Anonymous]

I'm a 26 year old man. I'm straight, but still I hate women. I feel women are very manipulative, who only use guys for their satisfaction. They don't even consider a guy unless he is really good looking or extremely rich. Whenever a man and woman are involved in an issue, its almost always the man who gets penalized. I have been in relationships before, but I was totally ill treated, abused and discriminated racially. I have always had very bad experiences with women. Except my mom, I hate every other woman/girl in this world. And I love my mom because I believe she is my God although I'm an atheist. This has become totally out of control, to the extent that I feel very uncomfortable and agitated whenever I see a woman. Just because I am a soft-spoken, polite and an all-round nice guy, women have pretended to be friendly with me but eventually insulted me, ridiculed me and treated me like a doormat. Now, the only time I think positively about women is when I masturbate, that too only once in a month when my urge becomes too much to control. Please help me out, because this is affecting me very badly. For example, it is inevitable that I interact with my female colleagues at my workplace, but because I hate women, I'm just unable to interact with them. I just wanted to know, is there any means by which I can change my sexual orientation and become gay, because I find that men are really friendly, polite and sweet whereas are women are mean, arrogant and selfish. If this is not possible, is there any other solution to my problem? Please help me out. Thank you.

[udolipixie]

I just HATE women. What to do?

Perhaps do what it seems most American guys do which is look up MGTOW. I find most guys in my country hate gals and those that don't hate gals that seek to be more than inferiors/subservient/do what men tell them to aka they hate feminists.

If this is not possible, is there any other solution to my problem?

Possibly killing your sex drive ala chemical castration or using natural herbs.

It seems you may be biased likely due to your sexual orientation focusing more on gal behavior:

"I feel women are very manipulative, who only use guys for their satisfaction. "

Many guys are also very manipulative and only use gals for their satisfaction to bust a nut in or on or cook/clean for him often finding it the only thing worth of gals as rarely is their positive talk about gals- they're overemotional, lacking logic, lack accountability, lack reason, etc.

"They don't even consider a guy unless he is really good looking or extremely rich."

Many guys also don't consider a gal unless she's really good looking or extremely young considering how big a market on advice on how to get a hot young gal is.

"Whenever a man and woman are involved in an issue, its almost always the man who gets penalized"

Perhaps it's your environment as I find there are conflicting messages of almost always blaming the gal or guy. In my environment it's almost always the gals fault: guy cheats on her = she should have put out more, gal gets raped = she shouldn't have dressed that way, etc

[Anonymous]

First of all, you thinking your mom is your god may be where some of your hatred for women comes from. That's not an uncommon side effect of intensely close relationships between men and their mothers (and women and their fathers).

Secondly, just because you've been through bad times with women (and I am sorry) doesn't mean all women are the same or awful. Men have never been very good to me either but I don't hate all men, of course. That'd be an irrational response.

I suggest you get some help, because you're clearly having trouble dealing with the things you've been through. I don't mean any offense, everyone has trouble dealing with some things.

I wish you the best.

[1diamond]

Good answer and excellent point!

[heavenonearth]

Don't take this negatively, but I think you need to see a therapist. This irrational hatred is affecting your life, and if you don't sit down with someone who knows what they're doing, get to the root of it, and work through these issues, you'll continue to feel miserable. I'm not sure there's anything people here can tell you that will change your views or feelings.

[blackkid2]

You hate women. Your mother is your deity.

Is that you Mr. Bates?

That aside misogyny is nothing new and you are free to hate women so long as you commit no real acts against them. A simple solution to your problem is being open-minded and instead of seeing males and females just seeing "people" and dealing with them based on a level that disconnects from their gender/sex.

Then there's therapy. Expensive. Long. Possibly not going to work therapy to help you deal with your youthful angst. I suggest you just keep on hating until you get fed up with it and stop hating since you're by far not the first nor the last person to hate the opposite sex for reasons you see as legitimate for a time. Just don't commit any crimes and you're fine.

[joeblow123]

@blackkid2 "Is that you Mr. Bates?" Is that you Mr. Cuckold?

[MikeK]

I have a strong resentment for most women currently too...

Not all of them, but most them. I too have experienced more anguish, frustration, and sadness at the hands of women than ANY man should. Our feelings and pride are at their tender mercies, which they smash (even subconsciously).

All you and I can do is hope that women can prove us wrong! Frankly, if they DID care about us, they'd make attempts to show us that they are NOT as cruel as we perceive them to be. But alas, apparently, WE'RE the guys with the problem... as if we hate women without justification...

[MikeK]

Wow... 5 downvotes? I guess nobody wants to prove me wrong :(

[harveykinkle]

Well, men do all of those EXACT SAME THINGS to us all the time!

You can't stereotype women and assume they're all like that just as all men aren't like that.

You've had bad luck; keep trying.

[joeblow123]

@harveykinkle "Well, men do all of those EXACT SAME THINGS to us all the time!" No, we don't. We're the good guys. We are the agents of everything good in this world. We are agents of Jesus. You are agents of Santana. You represent the ultimate in evil.

[Blondie6]

Well with that kind of attitude women probably don't care for you either.

But you can't just be like that towards "all women." Each of us is different, fits into different categories. Have qualities about us that make us unique just like you.

Its a battle, a tough battle I'm not gonna lie. But its a thing in life you have to take a chance at. I'm tellin ya one day you will find some girl and you will realize that I'm right.

[Asker]

Please don't say 'with that kind of attitude women won't care for you'. My attitude was pretty much normal earlier. Its the women who screwed up my attitude AND my life. So why is it that women didn't care for me even when my attitude was normal?

[joeblow123]

Because they are evil.

[iPood]

You can't change your orientation, but you can choose to remain celibate. That's actually probably a good idea for you. Cut all women out of your life at least for a while, seeing as we have such a negative effect on you.

[Shpongolia]

Maybe you shouldn't focus so heavily on these bad experiences. They are only destroying your inner self. OK so you hate women, but they won't give a f*** about you if you feel that way. T

[Asker]

I don't give a **** about women either. That's why I came here to ask if there's any way for me to turn gay.

[Shpongolia]

Yet somehow gay males seem to get along with women. And they give a f*** about them without actually f***ing them. So I don't think being gay will help you.

[Rissyanne]

First of all...you just can't turn gay. Second I really believe you could use some intense therapy.

[gingerme1]

I think you need to allow a good woman to get her hands on you. They are out there.

[G_GTom]

Most men and women are scumbags. The only difference between men and women is women, actually, *think* they are good people.

[bubblebuddy123]

Ah not all women are bad people, watch yourself

[joeblow123]

@bubblebuddy123 Watch yourself, female.

[T-shirtsandkneehighs]

I get how bad experiences can make you scared of women but you should try talking to us, some of us are decent. I live In an apartment with five guys and one of them is unemployed so I pay for his sixth of the rent as well as mine. Does that sound arrogant mean and selfish to you?

[markmeister]

Yes it sounds...

[joeblow123]

@T-shirtsandkneehighs So you pay the rent of a fictional character. We are talking about the real world here.

[Anonymous]

Seek professional help if you want to have a relationship. Otherwise, you can do nothing, just go on living your life. As long as you're not harming anyone its fine.

[Anonymous]

"They don't even consider a guy unless he is really good looking or extremely rich" Obviously out of the 3 or 4 billion men out there some or most of the ugly ones are procreating without having millions in their checking account. You can choose happiness or you can choose to be right. You have chosen to be right for now. No Gag questions or reading can help you. YOU can help you and no one else.

[Anonymous]

ALL women these days are brutal ... if you don't have a big wallet, big penis, and big muscles then guys are garbage and should go hide some were...

[Asker]

Finally, one guy here understands the exact plight of men. Much appreciated mate. You said something sensible when these people were bashing me. Only those who have suffered at the hands of merciless women will understand the emotional pain we go through.

[Opinion Owner]

Every day I see it and feel it...

[bubblebuddy123]

False

[joeblow123]

@bubblebuddy123 Liar.

[Anonymous]

way to win women over champ.

[joeblow123]

Sell out. Gender traitor.

[Anonymous]

Dude...you sound like a male version of why-makoto-kun. Not cool!

Some women are as you describe, but so are some men. Most are NOT. I have known a lot of women in my life and most of them are wonderful. I LOVE women. Not feminists, but good women, and that means most of them.

Get over yourself and stop making the rest of us guys look bad.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, you sure sound like a "a soft-spoken, polite and an all-round nice guy". LOL.

[Asker]

That was BEFORE these women ruined my life

[Opinion Owner]

If they ruined your life, you let them. You have control over how you deal with it. Deciding you hate all women because of it is just a really bad idea, and unfair considering most women are great. Hating an entire gender because you've been hurt by a few of them is what feminists do. Don't sink to that level. Be bigger than that. Seriously, most women are wonderful. You're not doing yourself any favors by hating them. Open your mind and see if you can find a good one. There are lots.

[Asker]

Well...how does it matter to the women if I hate them? And I'm done trying to find a "good" one. I have suffered so much in the hands of women that I have no energy left to try again. Suppose I do try but something goes wrong again, I don't have enough emotional energy left in me withstand it. It may lead to something worse, like suicide. I don't want to die because my mom loves me a lot and I don't want to give her so much pain by dying.

[Opinion Owner]

If you hate anyone, you hurt yourself more than you do anyone else. Hate is a poison that will destroy you from the inside. Seriously. You won't find peace of mind while hating an entire gender. I hope you won't take this the wrong way, but counseling might be a good idea to help you get past it. You've clearly been hurt and that sucks, but most women really have good hearts and you need to recognize that. Talking about it with someone can help a lot.

[Asker]

No, I didn't take it in the wrong way. I appreciate your concern. But women only judge men based on their looks and money. Suppose a man is neither rich nor good looking, then women won't even look at him. In such a situation, how can counseling help? Because me getting counseled won't change the thinking of women, right?

[Opinion Owner]

That's where I think you've taken a turn down the wrong road. Most women are not interested only in looks and money, just like not all men are only interested in looks and sex. That knife cuts both ways. It would be just as easy for a woman to conclude that all men are pigs because some they know are. How do you feel about women who believe that? Some men are indeed pigs, but most are not. You and I know that.

[Opinion Owner]

I DO understand how some people of both genders get hurt and end up cynical about the opposite gender. It happens, and that sucks. I've been hurt by women and I know a lot of guys who have. I know a lot of women who have been hurt by men. But I also know more who have had good relationships and they'll all say it was worth the effort. I found a good woman and married her. Best thing I ever did.

[Opinion Owner]

Don't give up on women bro.

[Asker]

I have been hurt way too many times and way too badly, so I'm not in a position to give it another go. Just imagine you need to clear a certain exam. But its extremely tough, and you fail it successively for 10 times, and also each attempt costs you some money. Now after 10 failed attempts, would you be willing to try attempt it for the 11th time, knowing very well that it won't be any easier than the previous attempts, and you'll again have to pay for it? This is my exact situation with women.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand what you're saying, but I just believe in never giving up. I believe your odds of achieving happiness are greater if you don't hate all women because of those who have mistreated you. You need to decide what's right for you but for what it's worth, from where I stand I think you're making a mistake. Good luck whatever you do.

[joeblow123]

You're the one who makes us look bad, traitorous sellout.

[joeblow123]

Until you've been there shut your yap.

[Anonymous]

wow you judge half the population of the planet on a handful of interactions, actions of a true genius.

[Anonymous]

You have bad stereotype for women. That's not good. That's judging the book by its cover.

Actually, if you get to know more women, you can see that they are kinder and nicer than us, guys.

[Asker]

Yeah, they're kinder and nicer ONLY if you're extremely rich or insanely good looking. If not, then they treat you like crap.

[joeblow123]

Hey anonymous, if you are such a big man then post under your registered screen name, pussy.

[Anonymous]

So you've met all 3.5 billion of us? I doubt it. But I'm quite sure there's a lot of gay guys out there for you.

[joeblow123]

Just like there are plenty of lesbians for you.