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Sex without a condom. Against it.

Me and my boyfriend have been sexually active for about 5 months now. he's my first and sometimes I freak out when we do new things. We had sex without a condom 3x. I didn't really see the difference let alone I've only cummed 2x Because I never really enjoyed sex. However. I'm slowly growing into this whole sex mood. I kinda dislike it Because I wanted to wait a bit more but it was in the moment. Further more, we had sex withour protection one. He NEVER cummed inside me but I don't know I freaked iut and had a small pregnancy scare. As in. I was just stressed over stressed. Now I never wanna have sex without a condom. I told him and once in a while he slowly tricks me seductively and we end up not having sex with a condom. I hate it. He knows how in feel about this and at the end I'm the one stressing. Wjat do ido? Is he justbusing me as a girl to f***? We go our and hang out once in a while when I can but most of the time its always. Head. Ot sex. Its not even. Babe let me finger you. Like. Its never ME Day. I love it when he calls me beautiful too when we are intimate but recently he has stopped it completely. . I always pleasure him and sometimes I never cum. Wtf. I told him all this before. What do indo?
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Sorry for spelling. I'm on mobile 1.) I'm trying to be responsible for myself and take precautions because I'm the one who wilk be going through thr physical priblems if stuff go wrong. 2. I don't never wanna go on the pill which is why I don't wanna have sex without a condom. I do wanna do the no condom no sex thing...but I don't know I've never said anything that.idk I would be hurt too so yeah and yeah I understand how a condom is also sad for a guy but still. I wanna be safe
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  • Condoms are evil. Yes, they're often a NECESSARY evil, especially if you aren't in a monogamous relationship, but they rob a guy of a LOT of sensation. It's like eating your favorite dinner with a balloon on your tongue: it's still filling, but the experience is much less optimal.

    So, it's not surprising that he doesn't want to wear one. I totally get his point of view (and you should too, even if you disagree). That's one issue.

    Another, separate issue is that he isn't doing enough to pleasure you, and make you WANT sex with him.

    Are you willing to be on the pill, or other hormonal BC? If so, that might be a better solution than condoms (and they're more reliable than condoms). If not, then you have to be strong enough to tell him "no condom, no sex" and MEAN IT, to the point where you'll stop him, get dressed, and go home if he doesn't comply.

    You also need to TELL HIM that he isn't paying enough attention to you or working hard enough to please you sexually. Tell him what you wish he DID do, and be willing to give him feedback, so he knows when he's doing something you like, and when he's doing something that isn't working for you. Make sure he understands that if your experience isn't important enough to him, then there's no reason for you to be having sex at all.

    Like most relationship issues, these issues are mostly about a lack of honest communication, and most likely can be solved by talking it out. If THAT doesn't fix it, then you really need to re-evaluate why you are with him, because a relationship should be a BENEFIT to BOTH parties involved in it.

    • Amen. And yes I understand his parrt and how he wouldn't wanna use one but I try to do everything he wants and I would appreciate it if he calls me beautiful all the time...but he never does that!? But I don't complain. He gets everything he wants but I'm putting my foot down when it comes to me safety too

    • It's good that you're such a good girlfriend, but that only work if he's just as good of a boyfriend. It's not so much that you need to COMPLAIN, but rather, you need to COMMUNICATE. Say, "I like when you do THAT, but it would be really nice if you also did THIS too." Make it positive, but still let him know where he isn't pulling his weight.

  • You should always take precaution. You don't want to have some unwanted pregnancies.

    • Exactly.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Darling, let me share a personal experience with you, Having sex without a condom if you're not on the pill is the stupidest thing ever. Don't let your bf trick you. When you get pregnant, it's not his life that's ruined, it's yours. Do NOT fall for that "pull out crap". I was having sex with an ex-boyfriend without a condom. We didn't feel the need because we had done it so much in the past without condoms and just pulled out before he came. Well, I was on top and he was kinda out of control and didn't warn me, so some of it got in me. I brushed it off, well, one month later I find out I'm pregnant. I had a miscarriage, thank God because the man was an asshole. So from personal experience, Do NOT practice the pull out method. You can and very may get pregnant.

  • Telling you're "beautiful" - he is just trying to put you under his spell so you can't resist him when he does not use a condom during your private activities with him.

    I suggest you get your head together and refuse him if he doesn't want to use protection for your sake. Once a decision to made. You can't change the past. You might come to regret it if you do get pregnant or have to have an abortion.

  • He's not respecting you when he tricks you in to doing it without one!

    Keep in mind you're assuming 100% of the risk while he assumes 100% of the pleasure.

    • That's exactly what I been saying

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  • Is this even English? Bottom line, sex with out birth control leads to babies or worry. Use your head.

  • there are other options for birth control besides the pill: IUD (both hormonal and non-hormonal), the shot, etc., that would eliminate the need to use condoms

  • what do you do? go on birth control

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