Is losing your virginity really that big of a deal?

So far, all the supposedly 'big' events in my life didn't have that much of an impact on me. For example, the first time I kissed a guy, I didn't feel any sparks or anything like that even though I really liked him. When I graduated from high school, I wasn't excited like everyone else was. I was just neutral and wishing the ceremony would end soon so I could go home and take off my high heels that were hurting my feet. When I turned 18, I didn't feel any different even though I thought I should because I was now legally an adult. Looking back on these things, I thought they did not live up to the hype I expected out of them even though I was told they were big moments for me. Perhaps that's why they didn't; my expectations were too high. When it comes to the topic of sex, I was always told that it was a very big decision when someone decided to lose their virginity. Lately I've considered having sex with my boyfriend for the first time. He's not a virgin but I am. I know first-time sex might be somewhat painful and uncomfortable so I'm expecting it to be an awkward experience for me rather than a big, magical event. Anyway, what I want to know is this; is losing your virginity really as big as people say it is? Does it make you feel any different or change you in some way after you've done it? Or is it just an awkward experience that first time and then it gradually gets better when you get more experience?
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  • I think it depends on the person. Losing my viriginity is a big deal to me, in that I want to have sex already.

    But do I expect fireworks and magical unicorns to dance around the bed as the sun sets? No, not really. Many women do, but I don't view my sexuality in a conservative or romantic sense when it comes to my virginity. I want it to be comfortable, with someone I trust and with whom I am comfortable. (Not necessarily someone I love in a romantic sense.) And I want my mind to be at ease, as much as possible. That's really all I want. I expect it to hurt, although some girls I know say their first time didn't hurt much. I think it could go either way, depending on my partner. Either super awkward and just a random kind of moment. Or (ideally) so comfortable, we talk through it, maybe laugh a little at the awkwardness, he cums, and then we cuddle and talk about what just happened. And then we try it again. That's my ideal scenario, but if it doesn't go down that way, that's fine.

    The virginity loss stories I've heard are a mixed bag. Few women had the experience they wanted, and they tell me to "wait it out". I'm like, why should I wait? You had an eh experience your first time, but you moved on and now you're having great sex. Why can't the same happen for me, skank? lol

    I'm 23. I feel like I need to not be a virgin anymore. But I'm insecure with my body because I'm a bit fat. But I'm getting more comfortable with not being perfect, so that's becoming less of a concern. (slowly, its a process) However, I have no one to have sex with. And who knows when I'll be with someone. I'm going onto being a 30 year old virgin. That's kind of depressing. Meh.

  • It's really nothing special, I don't feel bonded to the guy, I haven't changed. The whole first time thing is made out to be such a big fairy tale moment, but when it really happens you'll feel nothing special

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  • for guys it is, girls not so much

  • Well it's more intimate

  • you will feel bonded to the person most likely. it's much more intimate than kissing.