My boyfriend is begging me to give him another blowjob, but I don't want to?

[Anonymous]

The thing is, my boyfriend and I were out drinking last week, I got so drunk, I can hardly remember what I was doing that night.. Anyway, we apparently went outside, had sex behind some sort of bush, and I gave him a blowjob.. My first one ever. It tasted weird, and I don't really feel ready to give him another one just yet, but he keeps begging me everyday to do it. I've told him I don't feel ready, and the only reason I did it in the first place was because I was drunk and he jokingly asked for it at that time. He did act irritated and mad because I didn't want to give him one. This absolutely made me furious, and I told him that it was not okay to get angry about me not feeling ready to give him a blowjob. This is stressing me out. I want to be able to give him one someday, but he keeps demanding it, and it makes me lose the will. I've told him, that his chances of getting one gets worse whenever he begs, but he just won't stop and act all mad when I say I don't want to. I've told him, that I totally regret giving him one, since he acts the way he does now. I just need some time. How to deal with this, and make him understand? It's really annoying.

[ilovelegs]

You simply deal with this by telling him NOO the next time he asks, and the same every time he might ask thereafter. Don't feel like you're ever under any kind of obligation to give him another one until YOU are ready and want to give it. He sounds like a selfish jerk to me. If in the meantime he threatens to break up with you, is all I can say is that it should be "good riddance" for you. You sound like the kind of girl that deserves much better. You can only make him understand by telling him NOO because you're really not into that yet, but maybe later on you will be. If you give in then you'll start being under his control and the next thing is he'll be irritated when you say no to anal, or whatever else he might have up his mind. If you still love him then reassure him that you still love him but giving him another blowjob is one thing that's completely off-limits for now. He has the mentality to know that the first one you gave him was when you didn't hardly realize what you were doing. A guy needs to respect his girlfriend's wishes when it comes to sex.

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[madhatters4]

I hear your point but do you understand his perspective?

It's like giving someone pizza and then saying OK no more pizza. We can have sex but only have it once. You're allowed to touch me but only today. Would you be alright with him giving you oral, you love it, and afterward he says well I don't want to do it again?

It's giving someone something and then taking it away which is worse than never having had it at all. I think you two should try and compromise somewhere. Explain your point of view and then ask him what you can do to sort of makeup for it. At least try to understand his perspective so then you can tell him I understand your position now can you please try and understand mine.

I've never pressured a girl to do something but I can imagine his frustration. It's a sticky situation for you both.

Good luck!

[fuentesdeamor]

Congratulations! you must have done an exceptional job! The problem is that you were drunk, which means that you weren't all there when you did it or were you? Anyway, now he wants more because it was good, can't blame him, at the same time we are running into deep waters here, his insistence that you do it again sort of takes away from everything in a relationship, especially when he starts begging. I'm afraid you might find out something about him you did not know about, I just hope it ends up being something good. it really bothers me that he won't stop asking you, as if what you want is not important. Only time will tell. Be careful if you get drunk again.

[Zuzuka]

If you aren't ready, then you're just not ready. He's just being immature and inconsiderate of your feelings. Don't give Into his demands, because if he honestly loves and respects you, he will wait until YOU are ready.

[COCOCHANEL]

don't do it if you don't want to. i don't tell anyone to give me oral ever.

[stubbsy]

Just tell him that the reason you won't give him head is because his **** tastes like chicken, "FOWL" X

[kheserthorpe]

Break up.

He wants blowjobs.

you don't want to give blowjobs, and I presume don't want other women giving him blowjobs either.

[summiter]

If you are not ready to give him another than you are not ready and he will have to deal with it. Look at the bright side, you must have done a good job if he is wanting more!

If you don't feel like a bj perhaps give him some handjobs instead. He still will walk away with a smile on his face. by the way did he return the favor. If you give him a bj he should return the oral favors and get you off also.

[dan87]

he should be more understanding and not getting angry, talk to him and say you aren't comfortable with it and if he starts to get angry or aggressive then he isn't worth it, he should understand that you don't want to did it again just yet and that's that

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Guess who's gonna suggest you go out drinking this weekend.

[abw121290]

Well, I am sorry that your first blowjob was given while you were drunk. Honestly, if your boyfriend can't understand that you are not ready, and don't want to do it again, you should get rid of him.. he is only thinking of himself, and that isn't right.

[rambunctious69]

Sometimes we have to do things we don't like for the people that we love. I don't particularly like eating p**** but I do it for my girl because:

1. I like making her feel good

2. I don't want her looking for that attention elsewhere.

3. Because of this I also get what I want.

We do get tired of begging, and eventually find someone that is willing to satisfy our needs. So if you can't find a way to satisfy him, DO worry when he stops asking.

[hannibal214]

if liking blow jobs was a crime, 98% of men would be in jail. if you won't do it, he will probably find someone who will. sorry

[franz-joseph]

you're lucky he hasn't dumped your ass for being such a prude about giving head

[midnighttoker72]

suck it up and get over it. Give him head or he's gone

[Anonymous]

If she doesn't blow, she's got to go. Thats my motto.

[Anonymous]

Tell him that you're not comfortable doing it agian.