Are white guys intimidated by black guys?

[Olivia9]

I mean my mom is Italian and now dating again, and she had pictures of just her on her profile, and she talked about her kids on her profile a lot. She had tons of messages from white guys. Then when she had pictures of her with her kids who are biracial, NO white guys messaged her or responded t o requests. I've also had friends that were dating black guys and their current boyfriend found out and said if he found out she slept with one it was off. Are white guys intimidated by black guys or the idea of having to compete with one sexually? What is it? It seems like the expression once you go black you never come back has a flip side, once you go black you're not allowed back. Do you think this is true?

[rabbit3891]

Yes I think in general white men are intimidated black men. I think everyone knows the main reason for white men being racist is because of black men "supposedly" (in quotation marks because I've heard too many women say it's true to not believe it) have larger units, are more aggressive, and have a better rythym. And then there's this stuff you see all over the internet that seems to be getting bigger and bigger about white wives cheating on their husbands with black men. Then take into account that in general black men are usually better at sports and whatnot, men are competitive, and black men are intimidating. I myself am not bothered at all by any of that stuff, and not because I'm the magical white guy with a giant schlong, but because it's okay with me. I'm okay with mixed races, I've been with women that aren't white, I even have a daughter with a half white half Mexican woman. I have an ex who is Italian and her kids were half black, but I know you're not her kid, because you'd be too young to be on here. As far as the once you go black you're not allowed back, I think that only applies to the racist white guys, because I've dated lots of women who have been with black men.

[Anonymous]

"I've also had friends that were dating black guys and their current boyfriend found out and said if he found out she slept with one it was off."

This is a racial issue, not a sexual one. Racist white guys feel that anyone who lowers their standards enough to sleep with a black person, especially a black man, is disgusting. Ergo "once you go black, we don't want you back".

It's really not any more complicated than that, and A LOT of white men feel this way.

[Olivia9]

But do you think this racism comes not only from a place of ignorance but from a place of fear as well?

[Opinion Owner]

I suppose it's possible, but racism is usually about superiority, and it's difficult to feel afraid of people you actually feel superior to. I imagine that theories of fear are primarily counter-racist psychology. You know, kind of like telling someone that they're chicken for not doing something that they don't want to do, when they have an entirely valid reason for not doing so, apart from "fear".

[xHoneyxBeex]

It's mostly only racists who feel that way. White guys who think they're "better" than any man of another race. And like I said in another question similar to this one, it's just ignorance. Everyone is entiteled to having a preference but refusibg to date a girl who had previously dated a guy of another race is just stupid and ignorant in my honest opinion. People are people, skin color makes no difference to me.

[NoirPrincess]

I doubt it ahaha. If that's the case than it's pure ignorance.

[HandsomeRaj]

Good morning there :) (it's morning here :D)

1. Racist competition is normal in human beings, especially the way it has been historically with those who have fairer color being considered (by all races) as superior etc. It's a natural thing and not initiated by the whites.

2. However, it's again normal for brown or black skinned people to find whites attractive and vice versa

3. However, most people believe (and generally truly so) that black men and women have higher libido than most people apart from which the black men are generally better endowed etc

4. Natural situation (as in point 1) is that since the blacks and browns were enslaved / ruled over by the whites (primarily the Brits, Portugese & French) for a very long time since (1) owing to superior intellect (2) vision of the future (3) non crab attitude (4) the brown and blacks being in awe of them, the blacks and browns have always been considered lower than the whites - SO one is ego

5. But in this case most times it becomes what is stated in point 3

6. Also it's that they see the woman as open to going 'so far' with another race as to have children, their ego also doesn't accept it.

7. It's just a question of insecurity related ego nothing more :)

[Olivia9]

You are simply wrong, light skin is not "naturally" conidered beautiful by all. That is what Europeans have enforced to be true throughout the world in South America, Africa etc. These standards of beauty are not just natural but invented.The only natural or universal attractive qualities are directly ties to fertility, or estrogen and testosterone levels. Skin color is not a universal attractive feature but a socially constructed one created by the Europeans who were, surprise! white.

[HandsomeRaj]

Ur observations are correct but based on theorotical principles which are right too but where I come from and how I view it young lady, the lighter skin people tend to find the darker skin more attractive but not necessarily so but the darker skinned people always find the lighter one attractive :) EVEN IN MEN - women in countries where skin shades are darker don't believe in 'tall DARK & handsome' :) they want their men to be 'fair' & goes w/o saying the men want their women fair too :)

[HandsomeRaj]

What I've written in my answer also shows that 1. The darker skinned people have been in awe of the lighter skin which is how apart from other strengths helped the colonization 2. I somehow missed detailing that point about the 'socially constructed ...' part where I would have also stated that since the darker skin was in awe of the lighter skin it helped only boost it (also explains slavery in America and other places - have we ever heard of whites being enslaved by the blacks apart from ...)

[HandsomeRaj]

... sparse racist incidents if any) :) I don't intend to debate but what I've experienced (which is quite a bit), heard, told in history describes all this. :)

[Olivia9]

Well, no offense but you are wrong. In slavery black people weren't so in AWE that they all willingly went onto ships. There are incidents of white people going on to islands and the people thinking they were ghosts. I don't know what history books you read but you can't blame slaves for slavery, it's not like dark people said oh hey I'm so enamored why don't I work for you for free, and you can put me in chains while you're at it. Do you genuinely believe this?

[HandsomeRaj]

Ah I see where you come from young lady. This is a very lengthy topic. What you say is correct but not wholly. The whole idea of the slavery part wasn't at least initially on a pure force situation. People would get attracted to the various things like good clothes, different food etc in short a better lifestyle & willingly become what we call today 'slaves'. It was not propagated or thought that way initially. AFTER it became common practice did the force part start :) In the initial part there

[HandsomeRaj]

it wasn't chains and bondage but more of incentive where people thought they'd be able to do something for those that they leave behind in their native land. Force and stuff started later when technology outmatched the natives etc :)

[Olivia9]

Even in the theory that you are using, which is probably BS, because as we know the winners write history not the losers. The theory you are using includes that slaves were sold from the hands of Africans to the Spanish. This is business, and trade that is found worldwide throughout the span of human history. I think you are simply applying your own personal feelings to history.

[Olivia9]

Simply because people are curious about other people which they often are, or because they agree to trade goods, doesn't mean that simply because of this curiosity, they are saying we think your culture is better than my own, and we want to be you, we think you are BETTER than us. I mean we still do this today even from the US we go to other countries, states etc. and take souvenirs does this mean that by visiting another culture we concede that they are better than us?

[HandsomeRaj]

1. Let's begin with there are no personal feelings here young lady :) I'm 'brown' myself and come from a country that was ruled by the Brits for over 2 centuries :) I do not have any animosity towards anyone. 2. What I say isn't theory but practical facts and like you say 'winners write history', I tend to look into beyond that too though proving things unless professionally into it of things that have happened over more than 3 centuries ago is a difficult task :) 3. I don't intend debating ...

[HandsomeRaj]

... but I'm neither imposing anything on personal grounds here but relating to a sequence of events that I have studied even if not as a profession, observed and logicalized it. 4. The way we see things today especially after the civil war and stuff is very different from when and how it existed when all this started. Today is a differently evolved world from what it was when our forefathers existed :)

[G_GTom]

Intimidated? Not sure, certainly not financially. I'm not sure about competing either. Probably more turned off than anything else and everyone is entitled to what they really like or what really disgusts them.

Of course there is going to be a flip side to "once you go black, you never come back". There is a flip side to everything.

[Olivia9]

So you are disgusted by black people?

[jacquesvol]

The only time I felt a bit intimidated was when I wandered at night in the center of a small South Egyptian town, not that far from the Sudanese border. Suddenly a complete power outage No light at all but some candles in some shops, unpaved streets and two kinds of people in that darkness: small silhouettes (Egyptians) and giant silhouettes (Sudanese) and me, white stranger, not speaking the language, looking for my way between them.

[RedThread]

I honestly don't care what color skin of a guy that a girl dated in the past. I don't see any reason why it should matter in any way.

[Anonymous]

I doubt it.

[Anonymous]

Yes, especially the bulky ones.

[Olivia9]

Thanks for your honesty, you seem to be one of the few who are.

[Anonymous]

Speaking from experiences, few aren't while many are indeed intimidated.

It can be a penis size anxiety thing but there is more to it.

[Anonymous]

I think all the years white people spent as slaves to black people made them naturally fearful and small

[Olivia9]

Haha, that's cute, take off your hood though and educate yourself.

[Opinion Owner]

Wow, people are completely unable to detect a joke

[Olivia9]

Jokes are funny...just a word of advice for next time. And people do really think like this look at the other posts.

[Anonymous]

Usually they are

[Anonymous]

I'm half white and half Asian and I admit big built black guys do intimidate me. I don't feel threatened, or feel they're a bad person, it's just I'm 5'7 150 and they could squash me like a bug. Not that they would.

[Olivia9]

lol I misread it and I thought you said big butt black guys haha. Thanks for your honesty

[Anonymous]

intimidated - NO

not want to deal with any possible social issues - YES

part of why white guys don't want a girl that Fd a black back...

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the 'BBC scares peckerwoods' into inferiority issues is not true unless the guy is just little to begin with...regardless of race

[bubblecat]

Then how come if the girl is completely std free and not a single mother white guys still care that she slept with a black guy?

[Olivia9]

so you are essentially saying that black people are dirty and have STDS?

[Opinion Owner]

the CDC is saying that. i said that is part of the reason for why white guys don't want your mom

[Olivia9]

She has never had an STD and it's just racism, most people don't know these statistics it's just an excuse to be outright racist and intimidated by black men as lovers. But I think it's a good thing because it really weeds out the losers, unfortunately most of the white guys dating happen to be losers in this area..

[Opinion Owner]

oh yes. statistics are magically racist...smh sorry but if people of X group are over 10x more likely to have an STD then wouldn't you avoid group X & the people who have been with that group? it is clear that the only thing you will accept is that it is racism when there are most likely many other reasons. most guys don't want to be with a woman who has more than one kid, 2 is really pushing it, & 3 is a deal breaker. it is obvious that you have an issue with whites and are stereotyping them

[Olivia9]

You just stereotyped black people with the children comments, and I doubt that most people look up STD statistics or even ask for the person to be tested beforehand otherwise STDS wouldn't be spreading so rapidly. Clearly you know that you are in the wrong, going on anon like the coward you are. If you hate black people or think they will "sully your women" just say so, instead of TRYING to find stats that kinda, sorta,maybe relate to relationships.

[Olivia9]

If someone is truly concerned about STDS they have their partner tested, period. They don't assume that because they were with a black person they have STDS. Black people aren't born with STDS, just do you know. So it depends on the person, not their race. To just assume that someone has an STD based on the color of their skin is racist, even if the odds say that they are more likely as a race to have STDs to automatically assume someone does, when they don't that is a problem that YOU have.

[Opinion Owner]

'You just stereotyped black people with the children comments' - how? single guys have issues with being with a girl who has kids...add in that they don't look like they could be his and how much harder do you think that is? 'I doubt that most people...otherwise STDS wouldn't be spreading so rapidly' - smart people do & avoid risky behavior. 'Clearly...you are in the wrong...like the coward...' - ad hom. nice try but I answer almost everything anon regardless of the question.

[Opinion Owner]

'...you hate black people...' - nice try. sorry that verified stats offend you. have plenty of black friends & they know I'm not racist. 'To just assume that someone has an STD based on the color of their skin is racist, even if the odds say that they are more likely as a race to have STDs to automatically assume someone does, when they don't that is a problem that YOU have.' - SO STATISTICS ARE RACIST?!? so it is racist to use the ability to discern info?

[Opinion Owner]

i guess if you knew X was over 10x more likely to harm you and X had easily discernable phenotypic traits that you would still come in close contact with it... sorry that the ability to distinguish safe things from potentially dangerous things is now racist even though that is what has advanced humans and kept us alive for so long

[Olivia9]

You are an amazing troll though, I gotta give you that though, you had your fun and you really got me. Go on to the next question with your "plenty of black friends" lmao You are too funny. You got me though, you got me. haha

[Opinion Owner]

wow nice of you to show your true colors as the real racist

[Anonymous]

Seems like it

[Anonymous]

Nope