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I'm attracted to my older neighbor; what to do?

He's single (divorced I think) and in his late 30s or early 40s. We have chatted over the fence before and he was over one time talking to my parents but I could see that his eyes were on me. It might have been the bikini I was wearing by the pool, lol. Anyway, my parents are going away this weekend and I was thinking about inviting him over for some lame reason and see what happens. What do you think?
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My parents are gone and I was just talking to him in the driveway. I invited him over for dinner because I want to BBQ and don't know how to light the grill. Let the games begin.
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He just called and asked if he should bring wine for our dinner. Of course the answer was yes. Am I being too devious in all this or do you think he's getting the message?
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OMG what a disappointment. Sparing you the details, just because a guy is good looking and talks a good game doesn't mean he knows how to play. No wonder he's divorced lol.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I don't have any issues here with you wanting to hook up with an older guy...I feel that there could be some repercussions with him being your neighbor. This is not such a good idea after all...I mean, he lives next door and if anything bad happens, you are going to have to face this man every single day. Not to mention, the horrible position that you are putting your parents in. I am sure having to sell a home to get away from their next door neighbor would not be something I would want to have to face for my daughter. Now, like I said if this was some other guy...The story would be so very different. Sex is much more than just a game... It can change everything in your future.

  • Yeah, if you are wearing a bikini by a pool you are going to attract the eye of pretty much any guy who isn't gay, and maybe a bunch who are gay too.

    I think your idea to invite him over and see what happens is really slutty and generally of low moral caliber. Not to mention it is just a bad idea to be having sex with your neighbor who is old enough to be your dad. You are a devious little tramp.

  • Sounds like fun. I would do it in a heartbeat. Just make sure your parents won't find out. So lucky, I always have fantasies about older men.

    • Yeah, this will be my first older guy and I'm looking forward to it. Kinda like, cross that off the bucket list. He better be good :)

    • OMG please tell me how it goes. For example are older men better in bed? Leave your inhibitions at the door. ;)

Most Helpful Guys

  • Go for it.

    But a word on safety: have a friend call for a safety check-in. Set up a code for her to come over with the cops if you feel unsafe. Let him know somebody's checking.

    You probably won't need it, but his reaction will be instructive. If he's decent folk, he won't care. If it makes him at all nervous, or if he tries to talk you out of it, run away.

    P.S.: This should be standard any time you meet any man alone for the first time.

    • Thanks. Yes, there is a safe bailout plan in place.

    • Full speed ahead, then.

  • attracted too" is a very vague statement from a female, especially a teen female. It could mean "I want 6 to 8 inches of his finest wood" or it could mean "I would really enjoy spending an hour chatting with him". Where do you fall between those extremes?

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  • How old are you?

  • yeah, be careful, but keep us updated! ;)

    • Lol....if I have the time for updates.........

    • Lol... what's your plan, exactly? are you hoping to have sex? I'm 28... does that count as an older man in your book? lol

  • I think if you are attracted to him and over the age of 18 GO FOR IT !

  • update:

    just because a girl is good looking and talks a good game doesn't mean she knows how to play.(6)

    • You tell me then.....this guy thinks that a big dick is enough, it's not THAT big. And for someone who thinks all he needs is a big dick, he came way too early and needed forever to get going again. Very disappointing.

    • Touche. But I hate to tell you- older men don't always have the stamina of your younger counterparts. AND, if guys are overly excited (or haven't had sex in a while) that can be cause for an early, ahem, finale. Perhaps you should give him another shot. But it sounds like you're not looking for something serious. Shame... older men can be so libidinous!

    • I totally agree with the-love-guru! No sex for a few months = quick cuming!

  • He might light more than the BBQ- maybe has lighted it already.

    • It will be lit.....the plan is coming together....I think I made a punny:)

    • But his Zippo was empty...

  • Looking at you would only show you're eye candy and it's quite normal that a 40 year old man considers a girl of your age to be good looking, compared to women his age.

    his late 30s or early 40s? If he's good looking enough to attract you attention, he's likely to have a wife or girlfriend.

    If he considers you good prey and doesn't worry about fidelity and age issues-you could be his daughter!- he might be interested in horny fornication, if that's your idea. Are you?

    • Thanks. Yes, there is a safe bailout plan in place.

    • Sorry, my comment was meant to go below.

  • I would try to give it another go with the guy and maybe it will be different

  • Good luck... hopefully lighting the BBQ for you turns into a bit more. Just make your move =D

  • i'm sure he definitely gets the msg! go for it, just make sure you have a plan if things go sour and make sure you're safe! good luck!

  • I think I remember you. You already had sex with this guy, right?

    • Or was that another young girl with a pool and an older neighbor?

    • Ya know what...I think that I remember this story too...

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