What if a girl says this during sex/hooking up?

[Anonymous]

what if you're getting a blowjob or having sex with a girl and you're quiet then the girl moans, "mmm..talk to me baby". A guy was quiet while getting a blowjob (even though he gripped my hair at some point and started pulling it) but I wanted him to say stuff. I even asked him how was it and he said he "really enjoyed it' and he "lost control". but the quiet part made me confused. I wanted to hear cursing and moaning. why was he so quiet and what would you think if you're quiet and a girl says "talk to me" in a horny voice?

[kholland65]

I might say a few things or moan a bit just to satisfy her, but I'd also be a bit confused. It's sex, what does she want me to have a intellectual conversation with her while she's blowing me?

I don't know definitively if this is true, but it seems to me that its pretty uncommon for guys to have really aggressive orgasms, where we are yelling, cursing, shaking, etc. I'm not really sure why, but you just don't see it, and I know its never really happened to me. I think most guys like to relax and enjoy the moment. This wouldn't be the first time, I've heard of a girl voicing concern that her Boyfriend wasn't enjoying his BJ because he was lying there half asleep. Everyone is different though. Not every guy is going to moan and yell and talk dirty all the time, some will.

Personally, the only thing I can equate to this, is the difference in male and female arousal. Female arousal is a long gradual increase to orgasm where she then stays at this high level of arousal which is why once a girl has her first orgasm, many times she rapid fire continue to have orgasms ever couple of minutes. Men on the other hand pretty much sit at a low level of arousal until the last minute where this a sudden climb to orgasm, and then a huge dip after the orgasm. What this means is that for men, there is maybe only 15-30sec where the pleasure is so intense that it might make us feel the need to scream. For women, I assume they might go minutes where the pleasure is really intense, which would make it understandable that a girl would have a much more aggressive response to it. It's sort of like the difference between doing one rep of a heavy weight and 10 reps of the same weight. Clearly the person doing 10 reps is going to grunt, yell, and shake much more than the person who did one rep.

[GreatnessPersonified]

Some people are talkers, some aren't and some have to learn to dirty talk. I'm not a talker, I like to enjoy the action. Sometimes, it's funny since I am the biggest talker otherwise; I've been told to shut up on many occasions.

Just talk to him about what you like and be patient, it takes a while to get it down.

[Asker]

He dirty talk to me before though when we first made out and I gave him a handjob. he kept repeating the same thing "Oh god you're so amazing." then let out a huge moan when he came but the blowjob which happen another time he was quiet the whole time so you can see why I'm asking this question.

[GreatnessPersonified]

Well, maybe your BJ is better than your HJ. Men give themselves HJs all the time, and we are better at it. A BJ is a gift from God every time, and that feeling must be taken in without distractions. Besides, its not like you two can really have a conversation during a BJ, your mouth is occupied.

[skinandbones]

saying 'talk to me' puts him on the spot...if you wanna hear feedback, then start with questions. at least he'll know how to answer. for some people, dirty talk comes naturally. for others, it requires some practice. and some people don't even like it. don't assume he feels the same way about it as you do.

[MissConfused93]

I feel like that would be really awkward and stupid. Sounds forced. Anything you had to plan prior you shouldn't be saying.

[Anonymous]

that would be weird,

[Anonymous]

i think it could be weird for some guys

[Anonymous]

In my opinion it would sound really weird like you took it from adult videos