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Why do other people shame me for not approaching women?

I am a 23 year old male in college. I'm not gay (I'm 100% straight) and I'm sick of other men and women calling me gay or homo just because I don't chase women like a lost lost puppy. I've got to much pride to do it. I don't approach women and probably never will, women don't want to be approached and I want to stay out of federal prison. With women, practically everything these days is assault. Saying hi is assault, if she doesn't like a guy she will have him arrested and I'd rather not interact with women unless I am applying for a job or paying bills. A woman could be interested in me..but I wouldn't care. When a woman gets mad she could make up false rape claims (they do it, don't say they don't). And you wonder why I choose to be single. Why am I shamed for this? Am I going against the social norms?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • You don't have to approach anyone or do anything you don't want to do.

    Stop associating with the people that call you names. Get new friends who also aren't interested in dating and women.

    However you do lack any social perspective. Perhaps if society didn't tell women 24/7 that there is a man around every corner waiting to rape/murder/assault us. Then that wouldn't be the case. But we don't live in a world like that. We're told that we have to protect ourselves 24/7 always be on the watch, and to never trust anyone with a penis, because he will use it to rape you. And some how if that happens, you are to blame because you shouldn't have put yourself in that situation to get raped in the first place.

    Sucks on both sides. Sexisim sucks. Its says that all you men are brute animals that only murder and kill. And it says that we women are prey to be raped and murdered by you brute animals.

    It ain't fair I tell ya, it ain't fair.

    • What a bunch of crap...

    • Yeah because women are never told that they need to be more careful. No one ever says that wearing short skirts or dresses attracts rapists. A woman being murdered, raped, or kidnapped by a man is NEVER on the news. Its a rarity. Everyone just advises women to walk around naked and jump into every mans arms lovingly and trust them completely.

    • That is only teaching men and women to be afraid of one another. That's night right.

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  • You have a problem. You shouldn't be shamed, but enjoy being alone forever. You have a ridiculous overblown view on today's rape culture. Your "pride" makes you seem like an a**hole. If you don't approach a girl, don't think that you're so f***ing awesome that girls will be falling all over you.

    I think the real problem is you're deeply afraid of rejection so you're making all this sh*t up. Maybe you're attracted to the pretty bitchy type of girls who have boyfriends or honestly hate everyone. Not all girls are like this.

    There's nothing wrong with choosing to be single. Your view on rape, sexual assault, and women make you seem like an a**hole though.

    • You don't know what I like so stop acting like Google. You don't know everything, I'm single because I want to be. I don't need a woman to define my life.

  • The same reason I get shamed for having sex, dressing too sexy, etc. It's a form of social control. The question is why you're allowing people to shame you for it. Do what you want.

    Don't take criticizing the reasons for why you're not approaching women as shaming you though. If you're trying to claim that saying "hi" to a woman is considered assault, then obviously people are going to call BS on that.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Because any time you deviate from the social norms, people will break your balls about it. If you're male, and not a blithering sex addict, people (especially women) will think something is wrong with you WHEN IN FACT, you're STRONGER than all the others because you don't need puss to validate your existence ;)

    • That's exactly how I am. I'm not a sex-crazed maniac, I could go my entire life without getting laid and it wouldn't bother me.

    • I used to be like that... however, public opinion got the best of me ;(

    • Stand your ground, It's what I'm doing

  • it gets very annoying and frustrating on how life and society expects us guys to be strong all the time

    • I learn to be strong on my own.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Women don't like it because they don't like the idea of guys not approaching them.

  • well they want you to be happy in a relationship

    • I know, but now isn't the time for one.

  • well becsaue if you want a relationship everyone should do somethingabout it.

    • I don't want a relationship

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    • I don't like you

    • I don't either. Homosexuality is nothing to be ashamed of and therefore "gay" shouldn't ve used as an insult. It's sad how people with views from the 20th century are able to use computers.

    • TAKE A JOKE JEEZ CHILL...

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  • Who says women don't want to be approached?

    • I see it everyday, women at my college have mean looks on their faces, always have to their headphones on. That's a sign of not wanting to be approached.

    • Uh no? In certain circumstances they don't want to be. But try going to a bar or a party? You know - when its appropriate.

    • I don't like bars or parties

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