Would you wear a corset and stockings just cause your boyfriend asked?
My boyfriend and I met in FL on a long weekend, and we currently live almost 1000 miles apart. Since we started dating while I am away (I am going back to where he lives in few months), we are trying to keep things alive by talking online/Skyping almost every day. Everything was going well, until we managed to have him fly out here to visit me. Ever since we established that he is coming here, he has been a bit too demanding in his requests. For example, when we were talking last night, he said something like "go buy a corset and stockings, and some baby oil." I was like WOAH HOLD UP. And trust me, I am not prude, and I love having sex, but stuff like that really makes me nervous and intimidates me. I felt bad expressing that to him though, cause I don't want him to think that I am boring and that I am not willing to put a little extra effort for the one weekend we have together in a few-month span. I am planning to honor his request and get dressed up that one time, but do you think it would be really bad for me to tell him how I feel about that stuff afterwards? Like the next day or something? I don't want him to think I am not willing to try new things, I just get nervous about weird sex accessories and all that kinky stuff :/ If you were a guy, and a girl told you she was not into that stuff, would that be a huge turn-off or a deal-breaker if you were? If you are a girl, would you try something like that to please your guy, or would you bring it up that you don't want to do that stuff ever again? Thanks for any help!
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stockings are a weird sex accessory? or kinky?
If it makes you uncomfortable at some point you need to discuss it, but this is pretty vanilla.
Now he did request it in a pretty demanding way, but a lot of women -like- that when things are going well.
On the other hand sex shouldn't be just about what he wants the entire time. I'd hope you'd be happy to do something you know would excite him, but I'd also hope you'd have things you want too, or a style of sex you'd like to also have over the weekend.
If a girl told me she was 'not into that stuff', I might try to ask and find out whether lingerie is a specific or she really just ... is vanilla as hell. That might be an issue. Overall sex drive compatibility is even more of one.
What Guys Said 3
Try something you have not done. I am sure there are some things that may be off limits for you (for me it is anal sex) but you should be open minded to a few things.
Stockings are not unusual. Neither is role playing.
When I met my current GF, she had not done a few things. I paid attention to her feet and kissed them a lot and now she absolutely loves it. And she likes to dress up and role play too. So sometimes you might discover something that you might not have thought you would enjoy but you actually do after all.
I have been turned down on certain things, and even if disappointed, I go and find something we both can have fun doing.
I'm the kind of guy that is willing to do anything to please my girl. If it's really going to turn her on, or get her off, I will do it. Seriously, she'd pretty much just need to ask. The things I won't do are limited to a VERY small number of things. Everything else, I'd do. If it's particularly shocking, I might need to discuss it, but chances are, I'd still do it.
If a girl would not be willing to do things for me, then it wouldn't be an outright deal breaker for me, but I can't deny, it would definitely be at least a little disappointing. Especially since I would do anything for her. I also don't think something as simple as a corset or stockings are all that wild of a request, since it's ultimately just clothes.
That said, I do have some other views on this. Yeah, I see you're uncomfortable with this stuff, and I do think it's pretty great that you're at least willing to try it once. I also think that if she actually tried something I asked, and she said it wasn't her thing, I think I'd respect that. Because hey, at least you've tried it. At that point it's something you've tried, and you know what you like. Y'know?
Yeah, I'm not a girl, so I imagine my post might fall on deaf ears... or rather blind eyes. Still, here it is. That's my thoughts on this.
Corset and stockings kinky or weird?
I can’t say I have ever heard that corset and stockings are kinky or weird sex items I always thought of them as sexy seductive lingerie and a big turn on.
Add a garter and some heels and you become a killer! You don’t get them all in black leather!
Now if you hang a strap on from your waist or get a whip, gag and mask OK now maybe kinky and weird.
But a sexy outfit “NOT!”
But be careful you might like looking really sexy hot!
What Girls Said 7
It is kind of weird the way he said it I guess, but a corset and stockings aren't weird. My guy loves me to wear sexy things for him and often asks me to wear certain outfits like a nurse or whatever, and I told him I'll wear whatever he wants but he has to buy me it, and he's OK with that. If it pleases him what's wrong with wearing something sexy in the bedroom?