My boyfriend finds giving oral sex disgusting?

Does anyone else find it disgusting to give oral sex? So background info, We have an active sex life and I of course, give him oral. There's no problem there because I enjoy it and its fun. I'm not the type who expects to receive. In fact, while I've had a curiosity about it, I've pretty much been put off by the general male attitude towards giving oral sex. I brought it up once and he said no, it's not his thing. I kinda brought it up again out of curiosity and he actually explained why he dislikes it. He said that he finds it disgusting to put his tongue in a warm gooey spot where he has to constantly lick salty tasting sticky lube and that overall he doesn't feel his mouth belongs down there. I've heard guys say stuff like this before which is why I have little interest in trying, but now that I know he feels that way...lol And no, I'm not asking for advice on how to break up with him or force him to give me oral. Just thoughts and opinions. And he's not gay. It's this great thing called a preference
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  • We live in a world of billions of people. Of course some of them are going to dislike giving oral. But, relatively, I would say it's pretty easy to find a man who'll not only give you oral but actually enjoy it too.

    I love giving oral, and I love receiving.

    Well, yeah, you shouldn't pressure him into it. Your two reasonable options are accept that he doesn't like it, or dump him.

    Personally, I would dump a girl if she didn't enjoy giving oral. I wouldn't criticize her for it or hate her for it. I would just see it as a point of sexual incompatibility.

    I find the female approach to dating pretty funny to be honest. It often takes so much convincing to get a woman to start dating you. But once she's actually dating you, she'll hang in there through things (like not giving oral) which I would consider a total deal-breaker. Maybe girls should be more willing to start dating a guy and more willing to end a relationship with a guy. That way, you're more likely to eventually meet someone who is compatible to you in every way.

    • I've never had oral so it's not about compatibility I don't want to receive ever and I def don't want to receive knowing he feels this way. So it's not about compatibility In fact, I'd say we're compatible in that I love to give and he loves to receive

    • OK. There's no problem then.

    • exactly...I just wanted opinions

  • I don't blame him. I have had lots of relationships with lots of women and never ever felt inclined to give oral. The very thought of it actually makes me feel like vomiting. It's not exactly a natural thing to do so if a guy doesn't like to then you can't really blame him.

    • Definitely i'm not blaming him or mad at him for it

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  • I find that strange purely because my boyfriend loves going down on me. He started going down on me before I started giving him oral. It's just odd that he hasn't tried it with you, yet still finds it disgusting. My opinion is that maybe you should ask him to try just once, so that you can experience it, and he can experience it with you. Who knows, maybe you taste different to other girls, and he likes it? And the flavour can be changed, in a way. Flavoured lubes can actually taste quite nice, so you can buy one in a flavour he enjoys, get him to put it on you, and then lick. I know you said you like to give and don't expect to receive, but it would be nice if he gave you some attention down below too :)

    • I def don't wanna try knowing he feels that way. I respect his boundaries.

    • Knowing that he went down on his ex, but won't go down on you? Don't you think that's a little unfair considering? It's nice that you want to respect his boundaries, very thoughtful, but if the situations were switched, would he be happy with the idea of no blowjobs? It's clear that you don't mind giving, but you said yourself that you're a little curious :/

    • It doesn't bother me. But he dislikes giving because he dislikes giving it to her...so I figure, if anything, it's her fault lolol but its his preference. And I wouldn't want him pressuring me to do something I find disgusting

  • So, he pretty much thinks you licking his penis is disgusting?

    I'm all for that not being a guys thing but when they call it "disgusting" and say that you're putting your mouth on something "warm and gooey". Just what exactly does he think you are doing? That doesn't sound like reasoning and sounds immature and hypocritcal.

    How can you dislike doing something, but love recieving it?

    I'd love to put my lips on something warm and gooey because the more

    you ooze , the more pleasure I know I am giving you.

    It's a mind set thing also.

    • I guess giving a guy oral is easier than a girl

    • Not necessarily easier, but different yes. All in all you still taste that "wetness" and "warmness" your boyfriend describes.

  • I read it about it other forums... that it tastes like AC batteries. lol

    Or otherwise akin to drinking sea salt.

    • Yeah, I've hear that as well lol

    • *heard

    • You can alleviate the 'taste' by putting fruit flavoured lube.

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  • Really?

  • I'd guess as many men find oral disgusting as women find swallowing disgusting.

    There's no 'no fluid in the mouth' option when going down on a girl, so men lack that 'gives oral but don't finish in my mouth' category that some women fall into.

    I'm not sure there's a 'general' attitude to any sex act. Every sex act out there, some people love, some people hate.

    If its something you're interested in but not desperate for, fine, just don't assume your next boyfriend will feel the same.

  • i found the idea of giving oral sex to a girl pretty gross when I was younger, although part of it was the first girl I had sex with had a strange odor down there so that made all the more unappealing.

    But frankly the taste isn't that bad, I don't find it salty and I it kind of sounds like he's ever done it because what he describes isn't quite the experience I've known. but nonetheless I can relate to his overall feeling. I wonder if he knows how much fun (and sexually empowering) to be able to make a girl swoon with the flick of a tongue.

    • His opinion comes from his experience. He did give his ex oral...

    • cool. maybe he has maybe he hasn't. it neighter salty and only a bit sticky but I guess it depends on each person and their diet... but back to your original quetion. it is something that some men think is gross just as some women think it's gross to stick a d*ck in their mouth. maybe it's like wine or whiskey, it's an acquired taste

  • My own thoughts are I love giving oral sex to a woman. Ok it can get a bit wet down there but thats all part of the fun. Easy enough to dry things if needed. then go back to giving pleasure. after all she is giving you pleasure. I do love being given back as well. but I adore giving it.

  • Well if I think about it too much there are aspects of it that I could consider gross.. BUT the very fact that it would make HER feel good makes me want to take a dive (literally). There are some sacrifices that must be made to satisfy your partner I guess haha

  • He needs help lol

  • There are guys who do not like cunnilingus. These are rare today.

  • He isn't the first guy who dilikes going down on a woman

  • different strokes for different folks. some people like ice cream, some prefer gelato

  • I don’t like doing it but I do it anyways

  • Why does it taste salty? fucking gross

  • I’ll tell you what if a woman who is horny and her pussy is clean and trim I would lick her pussy without any hesitation at all but if she smells bad and had a yeast infection then I would have to pass which has happened when I was in high school only one time luckily because I love eating pussy

  • Um if a girl has any kind of taste then there's something deeply wrong.

    Suck on the back of your hand. You taste nothing right? That's what I taste when I eat out a girl. And I'm not afraid to go deep inside.

    The only unpleasantness to it is that sometimes a girls vagina smells like an armpit if she's been sweating before I eat her out. So the smell smells like body odor but it shouldn't taste like anything.

    I feel sorry for girls who don't have guys that won't eat her out.

  • It seems pretty immature for him to think that way. I'm sure he wouldn't feel good if you felt the same way of his intimate area, so I hope you don't feel too bad about it. Lot's of guys give oral sex to women and have no problem with it, but I don't know what it would take to convince him that it's okay.

  • it can happen. good for you that you aren't mad.

  • i would say that some people can find it disgusting

  • I've pretty much been put off by the general male attitude towards giving oral sex.

    Which is that men like to do it for their lovers because they know it gives them pleasure? That's the general male attitude that I'm aware of.

    The same thing can be said of fingers and cocks, ewww, I don't want my finger or **** to touch a slimy wet place that you pee out of, right next to where you sh*t.

    Powerful hormones overcome revulsion and disgust during sex. So licking your warm gooey spot, licking salty tasting sticky lube and that, putting your mouth down there, where you pee and poop, sounds like the best idea in the world at the moment.

    Sure, when a guy is not in the throes of passion, with his calm, rational mind, he'll know eating can be conceived off as seriously gross and repulsive, if a guy is of a mind to think that. Get most guys horny, and then try to stop them.

    If a woman said that to me, see would lose serious merit; that is not a friendly, loving attitude.

    • No. The general attitude is ew, oral, gross...

    • You are a woman, telling me what the general male attitude to eating p**** is. Thank you for clarifying that for me. Now I know that I was wrong about my understanding of what the general male attitude to eating p**** is. That is why it is so common to find men that will refuse to do it. LOL.

    • You're right. I should listen to one guy tell me how all guys feel when clearly my boyfriend feels differently as do the guys I've spoken to in real life

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  • i think he needs to practice more to get used to it. but you don't want to force it so I just think he hasn't done it with the best mindset.

  • I have never known a male who did not like to do it at least once in a while. But I don't talk to other males about it that often.

    I did know one or two women who did not enjoy it or at least were disgusted with the thought of someone doing it to them. They of course did enjoy getting f***ed though.

    I really enjoy doing it. Just not first thing in the morning or during a woman's monthly time. Otwherwise, bring it to me.

    I get a lot harder while I am doing it for sure. For her, that is a double bonus. She gets licked in a very meaningful manner and when I slide it in, I am at my maximum.