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Ladies what are the bigiest reasons guys do not get laid?

there is a lot of curiosity surrounding this kind of question. so from the woman's point of view why do you think there are a lot of guys who do not get laid? now I know its not that simple. guys don't get laid because of this or that. but think about it. there are a small percentage of guys who get with most of the girls while these other guys get hardly any action. in your opinion what is it that is hurting these guys chances of getting some action from the ladies? is it looks? how attractive there body is? how wealthy they are? does what other people think of them matter to you? or is it the age old comment that their not confident? are they not confident or can you not tell the difference between someone who is cocky/arrogant as apposed to someone who is truly confident? I would love to know what you girls think about this?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Women want too much out of men. Either they want the perfect man or they don't want anything to do with a man at all. Listen to many of the young college girls sometime. They are quick to declare that men are a dangerous distraction to their careers, their freedom and independence. Therefore, sex is evil and best avoided. When women do want a man, there is a list of requirements and expectations longer than an elephant's trunk. Failure to meet these and a man will be found wanting. It could be just one deficiency, it could be several. Very easy for women to say no. Very, very easy. Most of it is materialism, the minor stuff is based on personality and confidence.

    Look at me: I am the poster boy of the "not-my-type" that women see in a man. Short, mixed black, old, overweight, nice guy, not rich, not muscular and so on. My friends can tell you that I have confidence and tons of personality, only to be friend zoned by women. Unless I'm paying for it, I'm not getting sex at all. Even the international women that we Americans foolishly think of as horny and easy want very little to do with me. Trust me, God didn't do me any favors. The point I am making is that there are billions of men like myself but not as cursed who can't and won't get laid. Why not? Feminism made it absolutely clear that it's not up to us men when we are getting some. Otherwise women of the world would be submissive, obedient, loyal, silent and easy. Reality being what it is...

    Hope this helps

  • This answer is not meant or intended to be sarcastic or demeaning but it's a fact.

    Men look at the body and women look at many other things apart from the body like hygiene, persona, mannerisms, confidence and anything that is important for her. When a woman has sex she has sex with her own mind not with another body. No matter how much anyone debates it remains a fact.

    There are ofcourse exceptions to every thumb rule.

    Women also tend to be more careful since caution is in their system even without them knowing it since they tend to be physically weaker against brute strength / physical force. That's how nature's made it.

    So in short she also has to feel safe even if she's the one who loves dangerous men or loves rapes or gang bangs.

    Being cocky or arrogant doesn't make a difference there are girls out there who love cocky and arrogant men.

    In short a woman looks at various aspects before she consents to sex. With time women have also become more brazen about their choices (which is good) and the man who appeals to her choice gets laid :)

    It is for the man to woo and the woman to be wooed - nature's law in humans (again there are exceptions)

    There again are fewer women than men who will take to casual sex.

    • this should be BA. Well, besides some of the females' answers lol

    • Thank you :)

Most Helpful Girls

  • some guys don't get laid because of a nearly infinite number of reasons, and just as many combinations to those reasons, girls don't do it with those guys because they aren't deemed worthy, its extremely hierarchic but its the plain simple truth, the reasons as to why theyre rejected is what makes the logic complicated, it could be because of lack of qualities a guy has or things about him that make him rejected, it could be things as childish as popularity to things as significant as wealth and status, but when have different points of views on this and value different aspects, like for example some women prefer guys with wealth, others with a good personality, others with a strong personality and often confused with a "bad guy" personality, it could be their physical latent, their potential, their ambitions, their body, their libido, their manhood, their smarts, their religion, their concepts, cultures, beliefs, etc etc etc, the complications extend to the very limits of the human psyche, but most of these things actually matter little to most, in the end it comes back down to the simple things, because its easier when its simpler, thus the quality and standards also drop drastically.. in the end its not just girls who doom the worthless guys, but the guys themselves who reject change and make their standards too high.

    but who are we to judge, mankind never had the right to judge each other.

    • another spectacular answer. it works both ways guys and girls who do not adopt changes that are necessary. not to mention a severe lack of insight that most people have. the inability to see yourself as you truly are I think will always hinder both sexes from getting the things they want. great answer thank you

    • your welcome :> sadly the line between levels of standards is getting blurred, more and more women bring down their standards, many end up not being girlfriend/wife material, this is why theirs so many divorces every year, but many guys would rather go for the easy ones, they damned their own lives doing that, decent guys and decent girls are getting less and less now, all we can do about it is try to preserve it so it survives past this generation, and hope the next is better

    • Women are not lowering their standards, otherwise I'd have five different sex partners by now. All the Asian instructors who went back home should have screwed my brains out only to be rejected because they only want their particular Asian men. The younger college girls would suck me dry because I'm an older man, only to choose their careers instead and armed with sexual harassment. You are correct in that there are infinite reasons why we aren't getting laid.

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  • The reasons are numerous. But lets say he's got a job, good personal hygiene, no serious bad habits and is average looking. Then it comes down to personality, confidence and commitment. Most girls are not interested in casual sex, they don't want one-night stands or a friend with benefits. But they would be willing to have sex with a boyfriend. Most guys that complain they aren't get laid, they are also not really boyfriend material. Or they can't convince some girl that they are boyfriend material.

    Confidence is what a guy needs to approach a girl, to ask her out and eventually make it clear that he wants to be with her and only her (aka ask her to be his girlfriend). Someone who is confident is okay being by themselves, they don't look to other people to make them happy. They are comfortable in most settings and know what they want.

    A guy needs to have a positive personality, he has to have good self-esteem and be the kind of person people want to be around. If you always see the worse, nobody wants to be around you. Complaining all the time isn't attractive. And then some guys seem to be afraid to commit.

    If you are a person others want to be around and you can convince some girl that you are boyfriend material, you'll get laid.

    • Completely disagree. It doesn't matter how confident or how good a man's personality may be. If he's not a woman's type, he's not getting laid. Period. There are millions and millions of good men out there masturbating or hiring sex workers because women judge a man's potential of getting into their p**** due to height, age, looks, money, nationality, wealthy, health and so on. Personality and confidence gets a no-type man "friend zoned".

    • Well, there is that. But if he matches in type and doesn't have confidence/good personality, it doesn't matter at all. Yes, he should be healthy and of an appropriate age but not every girl looks at wealth or nationality. You can change confidence and improve personality but you can't change type. I've tried dating outside of my "type" and its miserable for both people.

  • I disagree with this question from the looks of it guys are getting sex for nothing more then ever now. Women give it away like nothing and expect nothing back. But I guess why do some guys not get laid is a better question and I think its about money, attractiveness, and game. All of them matter to me a little bit not a lot I don't expect the guy to be rich but to make a decent living and not be lazy. I have to find the guy a little bit attractive but he does not have to be a model or anything like that. For game I mean here that if the guy does not put the effort into trying to woo me or take me out then I walk away because I strongly believe that if a guy is into a girl he will move mountains to me with her. If a guy can take her or leave her then he won't put much effort into it. I have not had sex in three years and my standards are falling lower and lower because I want a boyfriend not some random hookup. I don't give it away easy and guys don't seem to care about that anymore they move on to the girl who is easy and let me tell you where I come from that's most girls. So my chances are ruined.

    • this is an outstanding answer. you are right more and more girls are giving it away easier today than before. but like I said there are a small percentage of guys who are getting all these girls. so its a bit lop sided. I'm trying to talk abot the average guy who does not get much attention. But ultimately you are saying you expect the guy to put forth a decent amount of effort to show his interest and just basically have himself together. decent job takes care of himself and his life.

    • Yes I agree with that some guys do get all the girls but they are also the guys who will end up divorced many times or with the sluts. I always follow the saying for myself classy not trashy and I deeply believe in that. The guy does not have to be perfect cause no one is perfect not even close. I just expect the guy to ask me out and stuff because the time I put a lot of effort in the guy told me I was clingy and needy so I am very careful now what I do because that hurt me a lot.

    • fair enough. its a balancing act you can put in effort but just try not to overdue it

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  • Rude, Loud Mouthed Braggart, Stuck on Himself, Arrogant, Not Hygieneticlly Clean are a good many reasons I have passed on guys.

  • I typed out a really long answer then realized you don't want my opinion :(

    • give it anyway man I don't care if you want to comment. it may be a really good one. I just asked ladies most of all but guys can comment too

  • I agree witht the anonymous user, that hygiene is extremely important... body hair dosnt bother me, but untrimmed beards, long nails, bed hair etc. is not attractive, it makes me think that if the parts I can see aren't clean, what about the parts I don't see :O

    + some guys are too "out there" if there is some guy that has been standing all night yelling at every girl he finds attractive, making comments, that's really annoying and desperate, there is nothing sexy about being desperate..

    I have nothing against shy guys, personally I am very talkative and that can scare the shy ones away XD a guy being arrogant is a turn off, he can confident but still a great person, there's a huge difference!

    Money isn't that important in my opinion as most guys make it out to be, if a guy has good qualities, I couldn't care less how much money he has..

    • I see your profile says you are 21 years of age and you very much know there is a difference between being confident and arrogant. I would just like to say thank you for being smart and knowing there not the same thing. a lot of people do not get that.

    • thank you, and you are very welcome;)

    • DAMN! The world needs more women like yourself ;)

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  • I've noticed (in my experiences), the #1 thing that turns a woman off is NEGATIVITY. You being pessimistic is too much for them to handle...

    You don't have to be great-looking, have a lot of money, be terribly smart, be a sharp dresser... any of that...

    But if you aren't constantly acting in a positive manner and being pleasant about things (regardless if you're being honest or not), women will want nothing to do with you...

    So my advice is force a smile, laugh A LOT (to the point where you appear as if you're a giggling retard), and don't EVER profess ANY of your problems to them... they simply don't want to hear them. ;)

  • girls are much more picky and I don't really blame them

    • I'm not so forgiving on this. I blame them a lot

  • Susan Walsh from HookingUpSmart, Com made an excellent video on the subject. According to her the problem is much worse than ever! Check it out!

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ESYK8fCEHUQ

  • Young women who are willing to have casual sex can be very picky. Since guys like to have sex with lots of girls, guys who are '10s' will have sex with 10s, 9s, 8s, 7s. basically a few guys sleeping with all the girls. it's only monogamy that pairs people off and results in average guys getting laid.

    Most women still aim for monogamy at some point but more and more are accepting casual sex in the meantime. And that lets them trade up and all share the most desired guys.

  • Guys lower their standards so much for sex so obviously women are going to advantage of it.

    A girl walks into a bar. Every dude is willing to screw her.

    There are 1s, 3s, 9s, 10s, whatever.

    Who is she going to choose?

    Obviously the 10!

  • Because women are unbelievably picky. They only go for the top 10% of guys

    • Man, I must have just made the cut of the top 10%... Thanks, man!

  • Hygiene is a very important factor that girls pay attention to. And even if a guy showers everyday, if he doesn't look well groomed (long black nails, shirt that doesn't fit, chapped lips, too much body hair is also a turn off for me) girls would stay away.

    Being shy and timid and appear insecure is also a factor. Unless the girl has a cougar complex, no girl likes to have to coax a guy or deal with his insecurities when hooking up. Many girls like a guy who can take charge.

    But being a big jerk is also annoying.

  • Girls are attracted to superiority. Like in the animal kingdom where one male gets to mate with at least 10 females because they view him as superior, same goes for us among human beings. Of course girls would never admit to this because they believe they would be seen as evil but that's not the case. Females are just biologically wired to see males like that. Among males, you gotta be either really good looking, rich, tall, muscular, etc that would make you stand out among the majority of the male population to catch their eye. The superiority turns them on. The reason why majority of the guys have a hard time getting laid because they don't carry the superior genes. Girls want to mate with someone with superior genes so their kids they believe would be more likely to be successful in this society. Confidence and personality are just words thrown around by girls because they are afraid they might be seen as evil if they are truly honest about what gets them going.

    • Agreed.

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